Sibling age gaps

Age gaps can play a big role in sibling rivalry and all children experience different forms of jealousy at some age. Research shows that the two to four year gap often produces the worst sibling rivalry, although it is the most common gap to leave. The problem seems to be less if the gap is larger than five years, or smaller then 18 months, but plenty of parents report rivalry between these ages too. Each child and their relationship to others is totally unique, and even your well-thought out plans can produce sibling rivalry.

The number of children can also play a large role, as having lots may mean they compete for parent’s affection, whereas three children can gang up on each other. There is little you can do, except for approaching the birth of each baby sensitively with your older children and making sure you spend plenty of individual time with each child.

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