Sex and making a baby

Sex and making a baby

Everybody has their opinion about the best sexual positions for baby making and while there hasn’t been a conclusive study it does seem to make sense that positions that ensure your partner’s sperm is deposited as close to your cervix as possible are more likely to succeed.

Many experts agree that the missionary position (man on top) is the most effective as it allows deeper penetration and gravity brings sperm closest to the cervix. Many women swear by putting a pillow under their hips to angle the cervix towards the greatest concentration of semen. Some experts suggest that women stay in bed (in a horizontal position) for up to an hour after intercourse, as this allows the sperm additional travel time up the fallopian tube towards the egg. If you have a tipped uterus, (or need a bit of variety) having sex from behind, on all fours, can help as this gives sperm better access to the cervix.

 

Sex in the morning? 

Although no statistics are available to show that making love at particular times in the day are better than others, sperm counts are generally higher in the morning. Men also have the strongest sexual urges when they first wake up, so mornings are a good time to try.

 

Positions to avoid

Avoid straddling your partner, woman on top, sitting or standing, as these positions cause the semen to leek out and may result in fewer sperm making their way to the egg. Making love in water can cause a change in the vaginal mucus needed for proper sperm passage, and chlorine from swimming pools can create a hostile environment for sperm.

 

Stress

Babymaking can be stressful if you don't fall pregnant as each month goes by. Lots of couples find it a strain to 'feel sexy' when there’s so much pressure involved. Relax and try not to think too much about conceiving each time you make love. Use our ovulation calculator to work out which days you’re most fertile over the next year. Now all you have to do is book a weekend away so you’re both relaxed and have as much sex as you like!

 

Remember the statistics

Around 90 percent of women in their twenties will become pregnant within a year of trying, and the rest still have a good chance of becoming pregnant within in another year or so. Women in their thirties have a lower chance of conceiving after a year of trying and by the time you’re 35, you’re half as fertile as when you were 25.Although it’s quite common for men in their forties, fifties and sixties to successfully father children, age does decrease a man’s fertility as well. For older men it can take years for their partners to fall pregnant as opposed to a man in his twenties, so holding off to get pregnant if one or both of you are over 35 will dramatically lower your chances. It’s also worth remembering that the incidence of chromosomal abnormalities.

 

If you haven't had any luck conceiving after six months of unprotected sex, see your physician, who can refer you to a fertility specialist.

 

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The information in this feature is intended for educational purposes only. If you have any concerns about your health, the health of your child or the health of someone you know, please consult with a doctor or other healthcare professional.


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Last Modified: 03/05/2007
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