Caring for twins
Caring for twins is obviously
going to be hard work, and you’ll have many conflicting emotions about the
whole process. Once your babies have arrived though, and they’re no longer a
dream, you’ll need to have a good support network in place, especially if your
partner is out working.
It can be lonely at times
dealing with a new baby, and with two to look after you’ll have double the
workload. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from your family and friends and try
not to put pressure on yourself to keep up your chores or social life to the
standard that you did before having your babies. You’re allowed to make a slow
return back to the world. You have a different reality now to contend with and
feeling bad about not doing the vacuuming or missing a friend’s birthday, when
you’re up to your ears in diapers and breastfeeding
marathons is pointless. These
things will get easier, so for now, give yourself a break.
Try to get a little time out
for yourself each week, even if it’s only for an hour or two. Keep the lines of
communication open between yourself and your partner, and regularly discuss how
you’re feeling to prevent possible resentment at your workload occurring.
Joining an organization for
parents of twins or multiples can help you to meet other parents in a similar
situation. There may be a twins group in your area that you can visit (see
below).
The National Organization of Mothers of Twins Clubs runs community parent groups (www.nomotc.org).
Triplet Connection can put you in touch with other local moms who have
multiples (www.tripletconnection.org).
The information in this feature is intended for
educational purposes only. If you have any concerns about your health, the
health of your child or the health of someone you know, please consult with a
doctor or other healthcare professional.