Naming your baby

How hard can it be to name your baby? Well actually, pretty difficult. In past generations parents called their children names which would help them to ‘blend in’, resulting in classrooms full of Rebecca’s or Andrew’s for example. The shift nowadays is for parents to call their children names that will stand out. The reason for this is probably because parents are thinking about the bigger picture; will this name get my child into the right nursery/school/university or ultimately, the right job one day? Pretty tough decisions after you’ve just gone through labour and birth.

According to the office of national statistics for 2006, the names Olivia and Grace knocked most popular girls name Jessica off the top spot this year. Another high climber is Ruby (who rose 69 places since 2001) in third place. Old favourite Emily still manages to come out top in fourth place. Floral names are also popular with Lily, Daisy and Poppy all coming in the top thirty. Not forgetting when you had your baby – it seems that the name Summer (with 864 registrations) and Autumn (55 registrations) were popular last year too.

It’s a different story with boy’s names as Jack continues to reign at the number one spot with 6928 registrations. Thomas has pushed Joshua down to third place and Oliver comes in at number four. Whether it’s down to Prince Harry or Harry Potter no one knows but Harry is now in fifth place forcing James – an old favourite down to sixth position.

And then there are celebrity baby names. As television and music has such a big influence on society, it is inevitable that celebrities would start trends when it comes to baby names. When Alfie became a character in Eastenders, there was a rise in the name Alfie for baby boys. Apparently when Madonna named her daughter Lourdes (ten years ago) the name actually fell in popularity. There has since been a rise in celebrities giving their babies religious names (think Moses – Gwyneth and Chris, Suri – Tom and Katie and Shiloh – Brad and Angelina), which will inevitably reflect with what the general public call their babies.

The problem with baby name trends is that the name will not only have an affect on you but on plenty of other couples naming their babies. This means that your son Moses is likely to end up in the same nursery class as Noah, Jesus, Shiva and Mohammed, or worse, he is one of five ‘Cruz’s’. Also bear in mind that ‘trends’ are just that. They will eventually go out of fashion.

Here are a few hints when you’re faced with the daunting tasks of naming your little one:

Stay away from ‘trends’
As mentioned above, celebrity names, or what they have named their children may be fun, for about ten minutes. Once your child is older and has had a lifetime of playground taunts he might not forgive you for calling him Satchel (the name Spike Lee named his child), or Moon Unit (Frank Zappa).

Look into the past
Old-fashioned names are making a come back, proving that traditional names tend not to go out of fashion and is also a nice way to honour a family member. If you have access to your family tree you might be surprised at the names that appear which you like. Who cares if your baby and all her friends sound like they belong in an old people’s home. (Think: George, Ruby, Alfred, Lilly and Elsie!) Try not to let family members persuade you to use their names. If it’s not to your liking but you feel you have to use it, consider it for a middle name instead.

Individuality
Whilst being individual is great, if your child spends her whole life having to correct people or re-correct how her name is spelt she will start to resent her name. On the other hand, being one of five Benjamin’s probably won’t do his self esteem any good. The trick is to find a middle ground – if you have an unusual surname, go for a plainer first name and vice versa so you don’t end up with a name like Steve Stephens or Octavia Belushi-Greenington.

Hang out at the playground
Go to your local playground and listen out for the type of names parent’s are calling their children. You might stumble across a name you love. Alternatively, you may hear one name far too often and decide you cannot call your child that name since they will probably all go to the local school together!

Don’t rush
Have a list of likely names for your baby but don’t fix on a name until you see your baby. It’s incredible how many babies will suit a particular name as soon as you lay eyes on them. Resist telling too many people your name choices for this reason.

See our other Babynaming articles: The Do's and Don'ts of naming your baby and The dangers of baby naming.

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