Domestic Abuse
For many women, pregnancy is a time of great happiness – but unfortunately, at least 300,000 pregnant women a year are subjected to some degree of domestic violence.
Domestic violence during pregnancy puts a pregnant woman and her unborn child in danger. The risk of miscarriage, infection, premature birth, low birth weight, fetal injury and fetal death are increased. It’s never too late to get help if you’re suffering at the hands of an abusive partner. This person is not only potentially endangering your life, but also the life of your unborn baby and you must seek help. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline on 1-800-799-7233 for counseling and advice, and referrals to local organizations that can assist you. You can also visit its website (www.ndvh.org). Tell your OB-GYN and nurse-midwife you are in an abusive relationship – in any case, they will ask at your first prenatal check.
Domestic violence is a crime. If you feel that you and your unborn baby are in danger, call 911.
Effects on children
It’s extremely distressing for children to witness abusive incidents occurring between their parents or carers. Children who are exposed to domestic violence often become abusers or victims themselves when they grow up. Boys learn from their fathers to be violent to women and girls learn from their mothers that violence is something to be expected and put up with.
Younger children may:
- Have difficulty sleeping.
- Develop behavioral problems.
- Start wetting the bed.
- Complain of stomachaches.
- Become very anxious.
- Act younger than they are.
Older children may:
- Become aggressive and disobedient.
- Cut school and do badly at school.
- Start using drugs or alcohol.
- Withdraw, becoming depressed and anxious.
- Develop eating disorders.
- Self-harm.
- Attempt suicide.
Why not chat to other moms about domestic abuse, or other topics, by leaving a message on our chat forum. Alternately, if you want to meet other moms in your area with similar age babies who are experiencing the same difficulties, visit our people section to find out what is happening in your area, or join or start one of our groups. If you have any unanswered questions, use our questions page to gain wisdom from other moms or our resident experts for any other worries or concerns you may have.
The information in this feature is intended for educational purposes only. If you have any concerns about your health, the health of your child or the health of someone you know, please consult with a doctor or other healthcare professional.