Identifying different sorts of cry

Identifying different sorts of cry

Your baby cries to communicate messages to you. Attending to your baby straight away when he cries has been proven to increase confidence in children when they are older and it is not recommended to leave your baby crying. Have a look at our video guide on how to soothe your crying baby.

However, learning what your baby's cries mean is an important part of the bonding process between you and your child and rest assured that every new parent feels a little bewildered at first, when faced with a bawling newborn.

Apparently, there are now machines available to buy that claim to be able to decipher what your baby’s cry means. For most parents though, a week or two at home with their new baby will help them to understand what different cries mean.

Although your baby has a myriad of cries that signal he is hungry, tired, bored, anxious or wants a diaper change, the cry that you will recognise when you hear it, is that of the ill child. If your baby is in pain, has a temperature or is unwell in some other way, he will tend to cry in a very high-pitched way, which is generally louder and more demanding than their usual cry.

Likewise, as urgent sounding and high-pitched crying is often a sign that your baby is feeling ill, so it is that grumbling, stop-start crying probably means your baby is hungry or bored. At the end of the day, you will soon pick up the demands being made of you and begin to be able to interpret and identify the different types of cry.

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The information in this feature is intended for educational purposes only. If you have any concerns about your health, the health of your child or the health of someone you know, please consult with a doctor or other healthcare professional.


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By sarahcorlett 1 months ago Newbie
My lo has started crying at bedtime but has started throwing her head back and really letting go! She currently has a cough and runny nose. She is happy during the day and eating and drinking it just seems to be at night. She has just turned 1. Anyone else had this or am I just worrying for nothing?
By pink9867pump 12 months ago Newbie Chat
My boo is 19 weeks and tbh, w're kind of still figuring her out. She's a very good baby though and rarely full on cries. I think she tends to do this when she's tired and it's starting to happen around the same time every day now, so I just tend to hold her till she cries it out and falls asleep when it's really bad and she hasn't managed to get herself to sleep at nap time.

We also have the complications of reflux, possible colic and teething to contend with so it's not always easy. but now she's into regular 3hourly feeds it does help as I can tell when she gets close to that time that she's hungry.

She does sometimes sit in her bouncer near me and play with dolly and the teething ring and alternate between laughing and smiling at me and little cries. Which is a hard one to work out. I think she just wants attention when she does that.

But it really is a process of elimination sometimes.
By Beastie1988 12 months ago Newbie Lucky ChatPRO News
i hate to disagree but i look after a baby whos 11 months and he cries almost continuously throughout the day. i will admit to knowing that he is crying for a reason, its because he's cross at not getting his own way 24/7. he is pampered to the extreme at home, carried EVERYWHERE and his mum is too frightened to let him cry (i dont know why). i refuse to carry him around all day, he needs to be on the floor to develop (he was late to sit up and is very late trying to move because he is never put down at home) so i'm afraid he cries. mum has taught him that if he screams she picks him up ie she will put him in his cot 15 mins before we collect so he screams, this has taught him that if he cries for 15 mins she will get him. when i mean scream i mean real full on temper.
he is slowly learning that if all he is screaming for is 'nothing' he doesnt get his own way. (i know what i mean but its really hard to explain by typing but you would understand if you spent 7 hours a day with him 4 times a week!)
I get you as been there before myself. I do think that when they are that age then they should'nt be crying all the time but what you have desrcibed is simply pure temper and due to behaviour which is a different kettle of fish. It's awful havign a crying baby to look after all day but you'll be seeing an improvement soon enough in him. He'll get to the point where he accepts that he's on the floor to play and won't get carried about with you all day. Properly a good idea to talk to his mum about how she could help his development on by giving him floor time for a set time during the day, once of course he stops crying for you as then he'll quickly change for his mum too. She may have got in the habit of carrying him around as he does scream. But based on my son at that age the lad should be crying sometimes like when he's hurt himself or is tired. My son is a right wee whinge when he's tired, starts getting cross with his toys then too lol.
By GummyGrin 12 months ago Newbie ChatPRO News LikePRO
My LO is nearly 5 weeks old and I still haven't worked out the different cries.....am I a bad mother?!?!?
Don't get me wrong I don't ever leave my LO crying but I do end up going through everything to work out what's wrong!
Its not really the different cries wanting different things, its more listening to the tone of his cries.
For example as he gets tired he may become more whingy crying, if it is a more urgent cry then he will probably be hungry.. just things like that.
If its proper screaming (maybe after bottle) its most likely that he has painful trapped wind..
Other times, and you will see this over time, he will just be half crying-ish for no reason and you will understand that he just wants to make a bit of noise, there is nothing wrong with him and doesnt need anything.
Hope this helps, and of course you aren't a bad mother!
xxx
By LucyRuth 12 months ago Newbie Lucky Superstar
yes youre right and i suppose it all stems from understanding your baby's cry. i had 1 parent that is so frightened of their lo that they dont let him cry he is now 2+ and is walking all over them (he doesnt get away with it with us and is as good as gold for us lol) they never learnt the difference between his cry in pain with reflux and his cry for wanting to be left alone to go to sleep so they would be up 25+ times a night for almost a year and she is refusing to have anymore children which is such a shame!
Sounds like a couple of mums I know and as you say it's a shame as I feel sure they would enjoy life with their child so much more if they put their foot down-one hates her child grumpy at tea time (mine all were) so he goes down at 4pm for a 3rd nap then is up til 9 or 10pm playing. It gives them no time together as a couple of an evening. Another hates them to cry when told off so she simply doesn't-her kids run rings round her and are the wettest kids at school when they are rightly disciplined-I dred to think what kind of adults they'll make!
By dratsum123 12 months ago Newbie Lucky ChatPRO News Like
I think this is a different thing really and it depends on the age of the child-a newborn only has crying as a way to communicate and if they are ignored for any length of time they learn not to cry-for extreme case remember the Roumanian orphanage children who became shut off emotionally. But older babies like that 11 mth old are responding to the way they've been treated ie spoilt. I know several parents who don't like their kids crying to the extent they give in to every request and tantrum-clearly this is not good either! It's a balance and hopefully as the baby gets older they can be left to cry for short periods for eg controlled crying around 8mths or if they have had something dangerous taken off them, without emotional harm coming to them as a result!
yes youre right and i suppose it all stems from understanding your baby's cry. i had 1 parent that is so frightened of their lo that they dont let him cry he is now 2+ and is walking all over them (he doesnt get away with it with us and is as good as gold for us lol) they never learnt the difference between his cry in pain with reflux and his cry for wanting to be left alone to go to sleep so they would be up 25+ times a night for almost a year and she is refusing to have anymore children which is such a shame!
By LucyRuth 12 months ago Newbie Lucky Superstar
i hate to disagree but i look after a baby whos 11 months and he cries almost continuously throughout the day. i will admit to knowing that he is crying for a reason, its because he's cross at not getting his own way 24/7. he is pampered to the extreme at home, carried EVERYWHERE and his mum is too frightened to let him cry (i dont know why). i refuse to carry him around all day, he needs to be on the floor to develop (he was late to sit up and is very late trying to move because he is never put down at home) so i'm afraid he cries. mum has taught him that if he screams she picks him up ie she will put him in his cot 15 mins before we collect so he screams, this has taught him that if he cries for 15 mins she will get him. when i mean scream i mean real full on temper.
he is slowly learning that if all he is screaming for is 'nothing' he doesnt get his own way. (i know what i mean but its really hard to explain by typing but you would understand if you spent 7 hours a day with him 4 times a week!)
I think this is a different thing really and it depends on the age of the child-a newborn only has crying as a way to communicate and if they are ignored for any length of time they learn not to cry-for extreme case remember the Roumanian orphanage children who became shut off emotionally. But older babies like that 11 mth old are responding to the way they've been treated ie spoilt. I know several parents who don't like their kids crying to the extent they give in to every request and tantrum-clearly this is not good either! It's a balance and hopefully as the baby gets older they can be left to cry for short periods for eg controlled crying around 8mths or if they have had something dangerous taken off them, without emotional harm coming to them as a result!
By cheery_chick 12 months ago Newbie Lucky ChatPRO News Like
My LO is nearly 5 weeks old and I still haven't worked out the different cries.....am I a bad mother?!?!?
Don't get me wrong I don't ever leave my LO crying but I do end up going through everything to work out what's wrong!
God no! I don't know how old Zoe was when we finally worked it all out, I don't know if we even did lol! I never leave Zoe crying but I agree with dratsum that some babies cry because they want their own way. For instance of course if I take a wire away from Zoe she cries and I ignore her for a couple of seconds cos I think she does need to learn :( Or if I leave the room she sometimes cries so I'll wait a minute and sometimes she stops. I think also once you have some sort of pattern established then they'll know they're going to get what they need hopefully! We've had to ride out a wee bit of crying though, the colic was really tricky and sometimes for a nap for some reason she'll have a wee wail. x
By dratsum123 12 months ago Newbie Lucky ChatPRO News Like
I hate when people say that! In my experience, no baby cries for the sake of it. Ray was a real cry baby but there was always a reason for it even if he was just bored and wanted to play... I can't stand when I see people just ignoring their crying baby... They wouldn't want to be just ignored if they were hungry or in pain and a baby shouldn't either! Sorry I'm ranting I just see it too much x
i hate to disagree but i look after a baby whos 11 months and he cries almost continuously throughout the day. i will admit to knowing that he is crying for a reason, its because he's cross at not getting his own way 24/7. he is pampered to the extreme at home, carried EVERYWHERE and his mum is too frightened to let him cry (i dont know why). i refuse to carry him around all day, he needs to be on the floor to develop (he was late to sit up and is very late trying to move because he is never put down at home) so i'm afraid he cries. mum has taught him that if he screams she picks him up ie she will put him in his cot 15 mins before we collect so he screams, this has taught him that if he cries for 15 mins she will get him. when i mean scream i mean real full on temper.
he is slowly learning that if all he is screaming for is 'nothing' he doesnt get his own way. (i know what i mean but its really hard to explain by typing but you would understand if you spent 7 hours a day with him 4 times a week!)
By RikkiHep 12 months ago Newbie Lucky ChatPRO News LikePRO
My LO is nearly 5 weeks old and I still haven't worked out the different cries.....am I a bad mother?!?!?
Don't get me wrong I don't ever leave my LO crying but I do end up going through everything to work out what's wrong!
Some babies dont really have massively different cries hun, I just worked thru the obvious things and eventually it would be the right thing, usually it was food for my lo lol!! I expected to get better at sussing it out but its just one of those things! xx
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