In the 10 years since i had my last child i have come to love a good night out. Dancing until my ankles gave out,
drinking the local rugby team under the table, introvenously inbibing whole vineyards in a single night!
I knew i was gonna have to give up the booze when i became pregnant, after all giving birth to an alcoholic isn't an option! I'm 29 weeks now and although i have tried going out and socialising it's BORING! sitting around sipping orange juice while everyone around you is frivilously necking down their favorite tipple is not my idea of fun!
Although i know it'll all be worth it when i'm holding
the newest member of our family in my arms, at this moment in time i feel as though i am dying a very slow and agonising death! My once active social life is virtually non-exsistant, i'm not looking forward to a christmas of sobriety and 11 more weeks, plus months of breast feeding is not going to fly by the way i'd hoped!
I can't be the only one feeling this way, i'm not an alcoholic(honestly), i just think that it would be great if someone could be pregnant for me for just one night while i went out and got completely wasted!!!
Any offers?
Well,i'd give anything to pregnant! after losing 3 pregnancies,i would just give anything to get to 20 odd weeks pregnant! Just think how lucky you are to be having a baby! It' such a gift!
Your nights out will still be there when your baby is born!
elliemama, thanks for ya support huni. Ladies trust me! This baby was planned and wanted very much. After trying for 5 years i was convinced that it wasn't to be!
God willing, when the time is you times will come. My heart goes out to thoughs that have lost children and miscarried, i can see why you think i may be being ungreatful.
I was having one of thoughs days when i feel like being someone else for a while. I'm pretty certain, as elliemama said you'll get the chance to experiance that feeling when it's your turn!
Good luck to you all, i pray that you'll get all your desire!
Daffydil, I hope you don't think that my post to you was in any way having a go because I didn't want it to come across that way. All I meant was that you can have a calmer few months now and then take up your social life again once you are ready to leave baby with a babysitter. If you're used to a great social life it's very hard for it just to suddenly have to end so I think I know where you are coming from. I guess the grass is often greener - many ladies on here would love to be pregnant and in your shoes and you would like their freedom just for a short while. When your baby comes please don't try to rush away the first few months - "plus months of breast feeding is not going to fly by the way i'd hoped!" the time rushes by so quickly and you can never get those special baby moments back. The party will always be there for you to return to but baby, as a baby, won't be. Good luck with everything!! XX
thanks for your reply huni. I didn't mean to come across as a raving alcho! It was wales playing south africa in the rugby that day and i was just feelin a bit hormonal and sorry for myself, i love being pregnant and i can't wait to try breastfeeding, i couldn't breast feed my other two because my boobs bled so much! Believe me babes if im successful i'l treasure every moment and probably breast feed until it's time for him to leave home!
i do do other things that i enjoy but when ya hubsband phones you from the pub and it sounds like everyones having a laugh it can be a bit disheartening! Im good tho. but thanks for the support to you and everyonr else who replied x
Hey Girlie,
I really do understand what you mean; I find that I miss things because I can NOT do them; not because I want to!!! Its a bit like wanting to spend loads of time at home relaxing instead of going out, but when you have no choice but to be at home all you think about is going out!!!
I miss my karaoke nights, but now I just sing sober and very loadly when I'm cooking; I just have no excuse for how bad it sounds now!!! Still, I might try and learn to sing properly!!! LOL, not a chance really, everyone can just suffer!
Hope you are feeling better after getting things off your chest... Hugs to you xxx
I can understand where you're coming from. I used to hate going out when I was pregnant. It was so boring when people were really drunk and you're sat there sober. They'd be laughing and joking and the jokes really weren't that funny!! Plus I would always end up driving all the drunken people home. Perhaps you could book a date in now with your other half for a night out with the girls so you have something to look forward to?? My friends just had her baby and we've planned a night out in feb for a meal and a few cosmo's!!
With my first baby i was heavily pregnant over christmas and my best friends wedding at the start of Jan, i must admit it was hard trying to enjoy yourself as much as those around you, esp as my husband was going through would my life had been different if months. So it is very hard to try to be happy all the time, now on my 2nd baby and nearly 5months of breastfeeding and i don't miss the drink at all now didn't really start drinking again between babies. I found a wee non alcholic beer always made me feelpart of it during christmas. And ona brighter note all the dancing around during your last few weeks will help move the baby down so get your dancing shoes on.
I know it sounds stupid, but just try and get yourself in a bit of a going out mood when you're on your way, like listening to music that you would normally get ready to. I had loads of giggles when I was pregnant, I LOVED going out! It was really funny watching all my friends getting drunk and talking complete crap, they were all so sweet! It was a bit of a novelty dancing round in the pub absolutely massive. Also it was extra exciting going out towards the end, everyone was on the watch out for me going into labour especially when I was overdue!! Now that I'm breastfeeding it's just nice to be able to wear a normal bra for the evening when I do go out!! You'll be alright, I can totally relate to just wanting to have a bit of a moan, if you can't do it here where can you? xx
i'm sorry to be so honest, but i think it's quite sad that you can't enjoy a night out without the drink. not sure if that's how you meant to come across, but that's the way it seemed to me.
have you tried talking to your mates/partner, and trying different things for a night out... bowling, cinema, nice meal, games at someones house, night at the dogs/horses, girly movie? hope the rest of your pregnancy goes ok though x
while I see your point it is hard when everyone around you is pissed or aleast having a laugh heading that way and your sitting there watching. I felt that way while I was with bump it was especially tough at my sister in laws wedding, not helped my people keep telling me few glasses wouldn't hurt (I was piss up free for all the 9 months) everyone else was doing some pretty daft stuff and letting their hair down (in some cases what was left of it) while I sat on sidelines to selfconsious and sobor to join in). all those who say they'd swap places with this lady I bet you would but guranteed you'll all have least one day when your fed up and could murder a double vodka or 2. x x
Daffydil, I hope you don't think that my post to you was in any way having a go because I didn't want it to come across that way. All I meant was that you can have a calmer few months now and then take up your social life again once you are ready to leave baby with a babysitter. If you're used to a great social life it's very hard for it just to suddenly have to end so I think I know where you are coming from. I guess the grass is often greener - many ladies on here would love to be pregnant and in your shoes and you would like their freedom just for a short while. When your baby comes please don't try to rush away the first few months - "plus months of breast feeding is not going to fly by the way i'd hoped!" the time rushes by so quickly and you can never get those special baby moments back. The party will always be there for you to return to but baby, as a baby, won't be. Good luck with everything!! XX
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