Tell your mum that you are going to let your grand parents see the kids and that if she chooses not to speak to you because of it the it is she that will suffer as she will lose out with the kids and you.

It is not your fault that they are not speaking and you should not be made to take sides in their dispute.

Tell your mum that you will not be threatened because of their problems, you are your own person and are entitled to see and have relationships with whom ever you chooose.

You can still support who ever you think is right but make it clear that you will not get involved as a go between.

You and your kids have every right to have a relationship with your grandparents, they are an integral part to n e childs life!

Good luck huni i know how hard it can be to make a stand against over bearing family members x x

Tell your mum nothing. This is your life and they are your children. You do what YOU think best. Im sure your mum will have a 'hissy' fit once she finds out..but just take everything she or anyone else says with a pinch of salt, and live your life as you see fit.
I let myself be controlled by my family for years and all it did was drag me down and make me miserable. I now make the decisions for myself and my children. I listen to peoples opinions and i respect them..but i will always do as i see fit.
Dont make it a battle..just do as you wish and ignore any nasty remarks.
xxx

i have told my mum i dont wanna see them i just wanna do best for my kids but responce to that was there better off away from them evil people cannot win

thats the prob i dont wanna lie to my mum but when i tell her anything she goes mad so its really hard, i wanna do the best by everyone but i cannot. i am just thinking of moving and never coming back

My family don't really talk either, my cousin has fallen out with her mum, but what upsets her the most is that her children will not get to see their grand mum anymore. It is difficult to comment on your situation without knowing the background, but what ever has happened it is not your childrens fault and I believe they should not lose the right to see there family, when they are old enough they can make that decision for themselves. Maybe if you explain that to your Mum she may understand and not make you choose, which seems unfair. Hope this helps, Good Luck

Ah, crap! No one should put you in that position, especially your own family. My vote is let your nan and grandad see the kids. I am sure your mum will forgive you, even if it takes her a while! Or could you not send your nan and grandad pics of the kids? Or let them meet them in secret? I really don't know, its a difficult situation, that really, only you and your family can sort out. Sorry.... xx

I there i am at the end of my teather i really dont know what to do with myself anymore, my family all fell out and we have not spoke for nearly a year but my nan and gandad have called and asked to see the children i got really upet and confused about what to do becuse i knew it would hurt my mum because of the way they have treated and just dropped us all, but my worry is that if i say no and then they die without ever seeing my youngest baby i would feel really guilty even though i sdhould not for everything they have done, i told my mum about my feelings yesterday and we had a massive fight about it and she told me to choose her or them, i am really stressed please help