i really carnt cope..

i fell down the stairs with my last child after a visit to see my midwife my mind was put at rest .dont blame yourself most pregnant woman have balance problems during the 1st few months .go see your midwife/doctor they can advise you on how to relax more and give you advice on how to manage your feelings its quite common to feel like this as your hormones go into hyper sensitive mode .best of luck to you .you can talk to me anytime you need a chat .x

i cant sort of relate to how you feel when i was 9months preg we moved house, and the house was a dump, me and my partner had 4 weeks to totaly decorate and put right the problems the previous tennant left. i was scraping wall paper until 11oclock at night up and down ladders. when we finally moved in i was so paranoid about my baby had died i would sit for hours poking my bump to make her move and i was over taking my life. i went for checks and everytning was fine. what im trying to say is alot of people get paranoid like you my bf was of no help and thought i was super woman. go and see your midwife tell her how you are feeling she can reasurre you and yo will come out of there with a huge weight lifted off you.xx

Hi hon xx many women fall during their pregnancys and many go on to have absolutely fine babies. You baby is protected by all that fluid and your body...so do not worry and do NOT blame yourself! You sound utterly stressed out. Stress makes us feel like running away sometimes, its not crazy-its just your body's way of telling you that you need a rest! Try and take a few days off work if possible, eat well and rest.
As for your man? he is male and you have to realise that they have no idea whats happening to your body and your feelings when your pregnant. As far as they are concerned, you made a baby-its growing-it'll be born-hey presto lol. He probably has no idea what to say or do..men like to be the 'fixers', and he is probably feeling useless right now.
Im on my 5th pregnancy...you'd think it'd be easy. Nope! i worry myself sick about this one-more than the others!
See your midwife and tell her exactly how you feel..she will assure you that your not going mad and will double check your baby. You will be fine! just dont cut yourself off..you need friends and family right now xx

i am the same sort of person - strong willed stubborn etc - i fell off our 3 foot high bed at about 3 - 4 months and landed on my stomach and i fell over in my kitchen when i was eight months pregnant and landed straight on my stomach and i didnt feel kira move for 2 - 3 days so i know exactly how you feel - the fear that you have harmed your baby in any way overwhelms you - make an appt to see your midwife or doctor as soon as you can and they will be able to feel if baby is fine and poss send you for scan if you want as for the other he will work it out soon enough and when he realises and accepts how much your lives are going to change he will wake up mine had to fend for himself because i had such bad sickness so he didnt really have a choice and when i had kira she was born by ceaserean cos she was breech and she was perfectly healthy and weighed 9lb 2oz she is now almost 5 months and trying to crawl as for stress i found that you just have to let go sometimes and if it helps just have a bloody good cry - i know how scared and stressed you are feeling but trust in yourself and please email me or message me its yvonne231177 on here or email dewday@talktalk.net

firstly, your baby is most likely totally fine. I'd put money on it infact. but if you feel this lousy the worst thing you could do is be by yourself right now, you'll just end up feeling worse, you need people around you. can you call someone like a mate or your mum or whatever to come over and be with you? have you spoke to your midwife? maybe she can reassure you bout how baby is doing. (scan, listening to baby on fetal heart rate monitor). it's true that you should avoid stress during pregnancy but at the same time it's easier said than done- the whole thing feels like a minefield, probably feels that way for your fella too, hence the slanging matches. maybe you could cut down your hours at work? the first trimester can be tough as your body gets used to caring for and carrying another little body. hope you feel better bout things soon. if you want to talk I'm here. (don't know if I've been any help whatsoever tho) x x

Hi, please talk to someone, some family or friends or your midwife. it's not your fault you fell so stop blaming yourself. Have you been and had a check over with your midwife or the hospital that everything is ok? If not, do this as soon as possible just so that you stop worrying and you get help. The stress is definitely bad so you need to try work it out as it is not good for the baby. I think that you are doing too much with your work and your home life and you need to cut down the hours you work. Have you any holidays left you could take to have a good break and a bit of "me" time? If your particular job is too stressful can someone take some duties off you so that it is less stressful? Your work does have a duty of care to you while you are pregnant. Tell your fella he can come back when he is more supportive, does he help out around the house. If not tell him to start now cos the burden of that will fall on him the first few weeks after baby comes so he might as well get started right now! I am so sorry you having a difficult time but once the baby comes, you wil forget all else and it will be great. but you need better support from family and your fella so tell them now what you need and what you need when baby comes. Best wishes! xxxx

hi girls. im having a nightmare. im 15 weeks pregnant and im absolutely on the end of my tether. I really crnt go on. i fell last week. the baby was fine but the blame and emotion i feel i just carnt cope. its got so bad over the week im now convinced my babies died. i just dont no what to do. i keep having huge rows with my man over it and ive asked him to stay at his mums. i need to be on my own. i crnt bare anybody near me. im so so upset cus now if i didnt loose the baby. i feel as though the stress and MAJOR rows will have made me miscarry. my hearts absolutley bleeding and i just feel like i want to be on my own miles away. it sounds strange but i feel like my bodies morning for a child that could be absolutley fine. please dont think im crazy but i feel like im having a brakedown. i have the worlds most stressful job and work 45 hrs a week plus maintain my home. i think my hectic life has just got the better of me. i feel my fellas really unsupportive and the novelty of me pregnant has worn off. ive had no miscariage symptoms but im just messed up. what does anybody suggest. im usually the most together and strong minded person u cud meet?!?! please i just need to talk to girls xx