Hubby and I chose our baby names years ago (kid is still a twinkle after 7 months of trying). Mia or Ava for a girl and Daniel Kieron for a boy. I have loved the name Mia since I was a teenager and all the family know our little girl will be called that. The Daniel Kieron name came along about 2 years ago. Hubby is called Robert Kieron. Robert is a 5th generation name but we have decided not to carry it on. Hubby goes by Kieron so we decided we wanted that as a middle name and Daniel goes perfect with it.
Sis in law is expecting in April and we discussed our choices with her and told her why and how much we loved the names. Now Sis in law wants to call hers Daniel, to try and force us to have to follow the family tradition. She is of the opinion we should be following tradition. She also loves the name Mia. I know its just a name but hubby and I will be devasted if she uses them names, even when she knows we got our heart set. hat makes it worse is we can't get pregnant.
update on situation. Hubby spoke to her and told her that it was our choice of name and actually said the word 'stealing'. Watch this space - hopefully it won't get used. Then I'll fall pregnant and it'll be a girl lol:)
thanx for all advice
fingers crossed for you. don't know where some people get off TELLING other people what to call their children. x x
update on situation. Hubby spoke to her and told her that it was our choice of name and actually said the word 'stealing'. Watch this space - hopefully it won't get used. Then I'll fall pregnant and it'll be a girl lol:)
thanx for all advice
Stick to what you want and don't let anybody influence you to change because of THEIR opinion. Mia and Ava are beautiful names and Daniel Kieran is a really strong boys name. Good luck & Best Wishes for the future and I hope your sis-in-law realises how ignorant she is actually being x
hi i never had this problem but i can really appreciate how hard this must be for you. being that she is family ect...
i called mine Aiden Sophia and Rosa and im due in 3mths with a boy i prefer unusual but classic names that most people wont think to coppy! tho Aiden was unusual when i had him till corronation st put an Aiden in it!!! we are thinking of calling our son raphael as it means God has healed which has meaning for us, we use family names as middle names like marie and giovanni which are brother and sister names. i would be heart broken if one of my family stole the names i had chosen, but i have been lucky enough to be pregnant when no one in my family has been. i wish you luck and love in getting pregnant and getting the names you want. xx
what a total cow your sis in law is. sounds like she only picked daniel out of spite. if you don't want to carry on some family tradition it should be up to you and your hubby. you never know tho, as someone said already, you could tell her again how important this is to you, you know appeal to her nice side, assuming she has one. she might change her mind when she sees her baby for first time, realises how petty she is being and choose a name because she likes it, and not to spite you and your hubby. x x
its unfortunate that there are people like that out there, it's even more unfortunate that you happen to be related to one.
my advice would be to not say anything but let her know you still like the name daniel and WILL be using it when you have you're baby son. if she is doing it to force you to carry on tradition letting her know that her choosing daniel too won't change you're choice. this may make her back off a little.
good luck and just concentrate on the thought of a lovely healthy baby as surely that the most important thing.
ps if it's ur first then you will realise when they are born things like this actually don't matter as much as you thought they would.
again good luck
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I agree with mammerae. What a spiteful woman she must be! She must have a total lack of imagination or just be plain lazy.
I love the fact that we are able to choose names for our kids. I made sure that my girls had names that wouldn't be duplicated to often. My eldest Jordan Rayelle and youngest Lauren ellese, Not completely unheard of but not names you find in every class room across the width and breadth of the country!
If the spiteful woman insists on stealing your babies names then why not use the same names but maybe spell them a little differently and give them beautiful middle names!
that's a bit much that she would use your names knowing how much you like them!think it's quite insensitive when she knows you are trying just coz she got in there first doesn't give her rights over the name! not quite the same but the nursery my daughter used to go to there was woman there pregnant at same time as me but i was 3 months ahead and she used to quiz me on names but we honestly didn't have a clue but when our daughter was born and called her Maia and she used the same name! she lives near us too so i see her sometimes and she always makes a point on calling for her daughter so i can hear it which bugs me i bit coz i think with all the books and website etc she should have been able to come up with her own! it might sound petty but when you've gone to all that trouble it's personal and important to you! our daughter is named after my grandmother so my hubby keeps saying our Maia is the original and i should feel sorry for the woman not having the imagination! would suggest telling your sis in law nothing in future and try not to let her get to you, she might not use them yet or she might just be saying that to wind you up, best of luck and i hope you have your beautiful baby soon x
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