Different second time around ?

I don't want to sound patronising but all of your stories have brought me to tears!! Literally, ladies you are very brave and I don't know that I'd of coped as well as you all have. It does make me feel humbled, after moaning about the path the birth of my first daughter took and then reading your stories it makes me realise how lucky we were. Take care, stay strong and good luck xx

Hi, my first baby was helped out by a vaccumm which I had to have an episotomy for, my second baby had a bigger head (need I say more) but was an unassisted birth and with my third baby I was completely panicking. She was born with a 3 hour labour and was the easiest birth. She was also the biggest at 8lb 13ozs. Now I am expecting my fourth and not as nervous.

Thank you for sending me your birth experience. I read it and held my breath, until your very last sentence. Wow, how strange it is that our bodies are built to carry and deliver a baby yet delivering is the most unpredictable thing we will ever do.

Thank goodness all is well with both of you, but I have to agree with you, because of our experiences, that worry lingers in the back of your mind. On the other hand do we want our fears to hinder the possibility of another babe. Think I have exhausted my mind with what ifs.....

What is so interesting is the comment from your acupuncture therapist, I believe if you want something so bad keep believing, if you feel strong in mind and body and you know you are ready then you go girl.

Kind wishes

Lisa xxx

Hiya Lisa i had a very traumatic delivery after a excellent pregnancy firstly i was in labour all together for 23 hrs and labouring in my back then my heart beat stopped and so did my little boys they nearly lost us both then after this i was rushed into theatre to have a emergency c-section when i was in there they started to make the cut i felt it as if they were stabbing me (this is due to having a operation in my back to give bone marrow when i was little)so they had to give me a general anesthetic while they were delivery him they caught a blood vessel and i lost 5 pints of blood to had to have a blood transfusion it was all a very horrible experience and its always playing on my mind about another baby i have been trying for another one for 3 years but was advised by the lady who did my acupuncture treatment she feels that my body wont let me concieve because it doesnt want to go through that again, i hope it does happen soon all i keep being told it that every pregnacy and delivery is different lets hope thats true xxx

Thanks a million for sharing your experience. Who knows what will happen but once I bite the bullet and start the ball rolling, by taking that first step again and going to see my GP, then at least I will know where I stand.

Your story has totally inspired me, it's good to know there are other ladies out there who have braved birth again, despite events not being classic text book.

Wishing you and your family a safe, happy and healthy No 3 when he/she arrives.

Hi, I'm eight weeks pregnant with number 3. The first birth wasn't so good,I also had an episiotomy. With my now eighteen month old, the birth was horrific! My blood pressure spiralled out of control, my placenta was in bits and I haemorraged so badly that I was in the operating theatre for three hours. My drug free birth was followed by a drug filled blur. All I can remember thinking was how scared I was.
Like you, I had pre cancerous cells removed, but my cervix is fine (I think!?).
Obviously I have put all my fears and worries to the back of my mind. My second child has been such a joy, and fitted in so nicely with her sister and the rest of the family, I really had to have another one!
You really need to speak to your GP about your worries. They do say, no two births are the same!

Hi i really feel for you and what you went through first time around. Lots of people have very traumatic births and go on to have more children My sister in law had a 36hr labour then c-section, then a m/c, 2nd baby 30hrs labour didn't realise she had pre-eclampia nearly lost both the baby and herself, then went on to have 3 more babies with a hernia the last time round. I think you would be best seeing your GP and talking through all your fears write down all your questions so you don't forget anything. Good luck with your decision.

Hi everyone Where do I start, well, my first and only daughter is 26 months She arrived safe and following an uncomplicated pregnancy came a traumatic delivery. We are thinking of trying for baby number 2. I had an episiotomy and though I have not been examined by a gynaecologist I feel I may have a cystocele due to delivery trauma. To further complicate matters, I had pre-cancer cells removed a year ago and fear this may lead to an incompetent cervix. I have so many questions and know I need to see my GP but just wondered if anyone has had a similar experience. Furthermore, due to the nature of the delivery a C-section has been offered, should I go on to have more children. I am undecided and a little worried, not about delivering vaginally but what further dammage could occur and what may require repair surgery following this. I would be so so grateful if anyone has any advice. Many thanks Lisa