Going from excited and happy to nervous, scared and not wanting this:(

I feel the same - I am scared about everything and constantly feel that I wish it would just go away. I'm lucky because the pregnancy was planned and my husband is very supportive so I can't imagine how I would be coping with the problems you are also experiencing. It is my first baby and I'm 36 weeks gone. It seems that the next 26 days are going to be the longest I've ever experienced. I am scared about starting labour, coping with labour, whether I will be a good enough mother, how my life is going to change etc.

Like you say - everyone just wants to talk about the baby or remind me that I am having last experiences without being a mother (eg this will be the last time you go out for a curry without a baby!!). Worse still people want to tell me their horror stories about birth! I know every birth is different but I just wish they would shut up!

I'm sure, like the others have said, we will love it when the baby arrives, even though it is going to be really hard work and a major change to our lives. Hang on in there - but perhaps speak to your GP about it. I had my consultant tell me that perhaps I needed to go on anti-depressants because if I am feeling like this before the birth there is a chance that I might suffer with Post-natal depression as well! I have refused to take them!

don't forget you can always rant here - it's a safe place! xx

relax i have 5 kids and as i got nearer the end i thought oh god what have i done why did i want this again and worrying id hate baby and how my life changed but in reality as soon as i was given baby all i felt was love yes i was still thinking oh god what have i let my self in for and how will i cope will people stop seeing me as i was before etc but things just fall into place and get easy and the bonding happens just take each day as it comes dont try to see the whole future in one go as things rarely go how we planned anyway a baby will change things but not in the way most people think you fit the baby in ure life not the other way around so dont worry you will be forgotten as anything but a mum you are still you just alittle bigger for 40 weeks then just with extra to you what your feeling is normal for lots of women and it has no refection on how youll be when baby arrives

Having a baby is such a big change its only natural to have doubts! Its usually in the last few weeks that it happens because all along u plan everything but it still seems like ages away where as now u know in a few weeks its gonna happen! I was exactly the same..its probably the hormones making ur mind go crazy! Once u have ur baby here everything will come naturally to u! I was only 20 when i had my little boy and he wasn't planned so i had so many doubts as well..but once he was here i wouldn't have changed any of it and he has made my life so much better! Obviously its not always easy but u will get through all the ups and downs and come out stronger..coz ya have to keep going for the little one! Its all gonna be new to ya and its normal to be scared of the unknown! Is there no way u and ur partner could get somewhere together to live before the baby comes along? Maybe being together would give u a bit more support. People get over excited and they probably think that ur happy to talk about the baby all the time...but u are still the same person as before! Soon this phase will all be over and it will be worth it when u have ur little baby!xx

I am 35 weeks pregnant, almost, and for the past couple of weeks I have been struggling to accept that I am gonna be a mum soon. I have been pretty happy thoughout my pregnancy, talking about it, planning the arrival, but lately I just don't feel happy about it anymore. I have tried talking to friends but they always expect me to be jumping for joy and as soon as I mention being scared, all I'm told is that I'll be fine etc... They aren't listening. I am scared about the birth, I am scared how this baby is going to change my life, and what if I don't like how my life changes, it is too late then. Instead of feeling love for my baby I am starting to feel hate :( I feel so bad saying it, but all everyone wants to talk about is the baby. I was a person before this baby but everyone seems to have forgotten that. I've had a rough time through this pregnancy with family falling outs, my partner being made redundant, us losing our flat so having to live with my mum and sister while he lives with his sister, we're arguing all the time because we're apart and I am constantly moaning about how this baby is changing everything. I don't know what to do :( I want to love this baby but I am so scared I can't do this, I feel like it's all a waste of time :(