Oversentive?

Just stumbled across my husband's mucky photos on computer (I almost accidently uploaded one onto facebook!)and now I feel really upset. All the women were blonde with huge boobs and perfect bods. I on the other hand - brunette bag of bones with A cup boobs and covered in body hair. I feel gutted - my husband doesn't have the highest of sex drives but does he have to look at these to get himself going to get into bed with me? Am I that repulsive? If I looked better would he have a higher sex drive? I have such low confidence in myself and was just starting to get it picked back up and initiate sex (something I struggle to do)and now I am back to square one. Don't get me wrong, hubby is the sweetest man you could meet and I can cope with him fancying celebs out of daftness and stumbled across a porn vid years ago before we were married which I was assured he got rid of after I went ape but I can't cope with this. Am I being oversensitive or is this normal?
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katethegr8
Reply katethegr8 9 months ago
Everybody is entitled to their opinion however I would have to disagree with the statement 'what the hell is a beautiful girl doing with a guy like that'. At the end of the day, this is the guy I have chosen to spend the rest of my life with. I think he is gorgeous and this 'issue' is his only flaw, granted a very upsetting one for me. Away from this he is a wonderful person who picked me up when I was in a really bad place and turned my life around. It was never him that sapped my confidence in the first place, he found me that way many years ago and believe me I am a more balanced person now so you can imagine what the previous person was like.
He was most upset when I told him and now feels a complete failure at our marriage. We have talked it through now and look forward to some fun making up!
I didnt mean he was minging or anything..just that you need to have more faith in yourself with your looks. Most people if they are honest would look at your profile and think the same as me.
Glad you talked it though and seem to be sorting it out :) xx
millsroobs
Reply millsroobs 9 months ago
Thanks. I did have counselling a few years back for this issue. I just need to give myself a break. What is with the blonde thing and men anyway???
God only knows. He loves Emma Bunton. Just makes me laugh cause he has no chance!!! lol I know my issues aren't exactly the same but before I lost a bit of weight I was so self concious and didn't want to go near my partner and even now when he says he loves my wobbly belly I don't believe it. I'm not fat but still have plenty round the middle. You just have to try to believe what he's saying.
MandyP83
Reply MandyP83 9 months ago
Glad you're back on track. Men are funny things. My partner seems to be completley obsessed with slim blondes (I'm brunette and not v slim). I'm just within the healthy range for my weight and a size 12. I have the opposite problem to you. I just have to look at food and put weight on!! I've had two children and have to accept that I'll never have a flat tummy again. I think you look so beautiful and need to learn to love yourself and accept that's just the way you are. Your Hubby obviously finds you sexy and loves you otherwise he wouldn't have married you xx
Thanks. I did have counselling a few years back for this issue. I just need to give myself a break. What is with the blonde thing and men anyway???
millsroobs
Reply millsroobs 9 months ago
Glad you're back on track. Men are funny things. My partner seems to be completley obsessed with slim blondes (I'm brunette and not v slim). I'm just within the healthy range for my weight and a size 12. I have the opposite problem to you. I just have to look at food and put weight on!! I've had two children and have to accept that I'll never have a flat tummy again. I think you look so beautiful and need to learn to love yourself and accept that's just the way you are. Your Hubby obviously finds you sexy and loves you otherwise he wouldn't have married you xx
MandyP83
Reply MandyP83 9 months ago
The fact that he feels like a failure means that he's bothered....he cares. If he was more interested in porn stars then he wouldn't have those feelings. Have you been to the doctors about your weight? Might be over active thyroid or something like that? It's worth just checking it out to be on the safe side. x
He does - a lot. He's a great man - this is his only flaw.
I intend to check out weight with docs.
Monkeymoo
Reply Monkeymoo 9 months ago
Thanks. I am really unhappy with my size. I am 6 stone 6 pound - extremely underweight. I am naturally tiny but have a good appetite for food. I would just love some curves to make me feel more womanly.
I did confront him and it did lead to an argument and a very upset husband and wife. He now feels like he is a failure at our marriage because I was so upset. We're working through it and I'm looking forward to making up.
The fact that he feels like a failure means that he's bothered....he cares. If he was more interested in porn stars then he wouldn't have those feelings. Have you been to the doctors about your weight? Might be over active thyroid or something like that? It's worth just checking it out to be on the safe side. x
MandyP83
Reply MandyP83 9 months ago
i'm glad you've sorted it out making up is always fun lol. he obviously loves you very much he married you after all not some slapper from a porn movie or whatever. i swear men see looking at porn as natural as scratching their arses i'm sure he didn't intend ti hurt you in any way. by the way your wedding pics are lovely, and you ARE stunning! x x
Thank you so much. That is a very scrubbed up version of me!!
prozacfairy
Reply prozacfairy 9 months ago
Everybody is entitled to their opinion however I would have to disagree with the statement 'what the hell is a beautiful girl doing with a guy like that'. At the end of the day, this is the guy I have chosen to spend the rest of my life with. I think he is gorgeous and this 'issue' is his only flaw, granted a very upsetting one for me. Away from this he is a wonderful person who picked me up when I was in a really bad place and turned my life around. It was never him that sapped my confidence in the first place, he found me that way many years ago and believe me I am a more balanced person now so you can imagine what the previous person was like.
He was most upset when I told him and now feels a complete failure at our marriage. We have talked it through now and look forward to some fun making up!
i'm glad you've sorted it out making up is always fun lol. he obviously loves you very much he married you after all not some slapper from a porn movie or whatever. i swear men see looking at porn as natural as scratching their arses i'm sure he didn't intend ti hurt you in any way. by the way your wedding pics are lovely, and you ARE stunning! x x
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