hi, im 29 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby, and feel like my partner has forgotten i exsist. when i was pregnant with our son i was still at work so had something to occupy my mind, i didnt even go on maternity leave till the last minute, (my manager had to remind me to give up work 5 days before i was due!) but this time i feel so alone. we suffered a molar pregnancy before i fell prgnant, where 2 sperm had fertilised 1 egg there was a feotus but nothing internal had developed. Shortley after that i fell pregnant while i was being monitored by charring cross hospital because molar pregnancies can cause complications, am now 29 weeks and feel so alone and unloved my partner doesn't seem to notice how im feling and when i try to tell him i feel he isn't listening. He's very much a man and not very good with emotions so it could be that he doesn't know what to do with a hormonal emotional woman, but that leaves me completely alone with a very active 3 year old feeling very emotional and abandonded. i dont know how to make him see how im feeling, he works 6 days a week to keep a roof over our heads and i know he's tired and hates his job, but dispite that he's a great dad and has all the time in the world for our son, he tells me he loves me and he always will and i believe him i love him too but feel so alone and emotional, please help me to make him understand that all i need is a little bit of attention and understanding, i cant keep crying alone.....
Hi,
I feel as thought i can relate to your situation. My husband works 15 hours some days and comes home very tired. He comes home in a good mood most of the time but I feel as though he does not want to be involved in the pregnancy. He does not show his emotions very much but is a very emotional and caring person. He's very excited about the baby but does not show it just because he's so tired all the time However when he is off work, i.e a weeks holiday, he is very caring and very supportive so maybe he is just so tired when he comes home. Mt husband also works 6 days a week, he gets up at 3:15am and starts at 4am so i understand why he does not show his feelings a lot. Maybe you 2 should arrange a weeks holiday together even if you are only mucking about at home. It sounds as though you need some 'us' time so that your hubby can be with you and enjoy you being pregnant. It really sounds as if you need some time alone with him. Maybe suggests going out to see a movie or dinner. Its important that you spend time together. I dont think he's forgot about you hunni, it could be that he is just so tired. How is he at the weekend is he any different?
xxxx
Hi, thanks it helps knowing im no the only one! he only has 1 day off on a saturday and he likes to spend time with our son then, so again i feel pushed aside, i know he's excited about the baby but i cant get him interested in anything i tried getting him to use the babynamer on here but after 5 mins he got bored. My friend has sugguested that because of the molar pregnancy he's affraid of getting to excited because he believes something will go wrong this time, and will snap out of it when the baby comes, I hope shes right because right now i need him and he doesn't seem to care.
To make things worse we live in a small village and i know no one we only have 1 car and my partner needs it for work, which means i feel trapped on top of everything else, my son goes to school nursery in the afternoons so we cant really do go anywhere without the car cos public transport here is crap!!
I just want him to give me a hug every now and then and to understand that im still me and i still need him, im not super woman i cant do this by myself!!
hi ya hun! well im sorry 2 hear ur feelin this way! im sure ur partner loves u dearly! some men jus dont really no wot 2 do wiv a pregnant hormonal woman! lol! i was extremally emotional at start of my pregnancy n was a complete nitemare! sumtimes i jus wanted my fella 2 jus cuddle! but he didnt really seem 2 understand! i had tantrums the works! lol! nuffin got through 2 him! lol! men!!! so i sat 1 night n wrote a 10 page essay!! lol! but he read it! n started 2 understand more! and has been fantastic since! i put every single thought feelin n emotion i felt in2 this letter i wrote him! and glad i did!
if u feel writin isnt 4 u, how abt mayb gettin a close friend or a member of ur family 2 sit wiv u and ur partner and help u explain how u feel, sumtimes it beta wen sum1 else can explain things for u, as he may feel wen ur sayin things that ur jus moanin (wen ur not!!)if he hears it frm some1 else he may understand abit beta! hope this is of sum help 2 u?? xxxxxxxxx
hi, im 29 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby, and feel like my partner has forgotten i exsist. when i was pregnant with our son i was still at work so had something to occupy my mind, i didnt even go on maternity leave till the last minute, (my manager had to remind me to give up work 5 days before i was due!) but this time i feel so alone. we suffered a molar pregnancy before i fell prgnant, where 2 sperm had fertilised 1 egg there was a feotus but nothing internal had developed. Shortley after that i fell pregnant while i was being monitored by charring cross hospital because molar pregnancies can cause complications, am now 29 weeks and feel so alone and unloved my partner doesn't seem to notice how im feling and when i try to tell him i feel he isn't listening. He's very much a man and not very good with emotions so it could be that he doesn't know what to do with a hormonal emotional woman, but that leaves me completely alone with a very active 3 year old feeling very emotional and abandonded. i dont know how to make him see how im feeling, he works 6 days a week to keep a roof over our heads and i know he's tired and hates his job, but dispite that he's a great dad and has all the time in the world for our son, he tells me he loves me and he always will and i believe him i love him too but feel so alone and emotional, please help me to make him understand that all i need is a little bit of attention and understanding, i cant keep crying alone.....
Hi,
I feel as thought i can relate to your situation. My husband works 15 hours some days and comes home very tired. He comes home in a good mood most of the time but I feel as though he does not want to be involved in the pregnancy. He does not show his emotions very much but is a very emotional and caring person. He's very excited about the baby but does not show it just because he's so tired all the time However when he is off work, i.e a weeks holiday, he is very caring and very supportive so maybe he is just so tired when he comes home. Mt husband also works 6 days a week, he gets up at 3:15am and starts at 4am so i understand why he does not show his feelings a lot. Maybe you 2 should arrange a weeks holiday together even if you are only mucking about at home. It sounds as though you need some 'us' time so that your hubby can be with you and enjoy you being pregnant. It really sounds as if you need some time alone with him. Maybe suggests going out to see a movie or dinner. Its important that you spend time together. I dont think he's forgot about you hunni, it could be that he is just so tired. How is he at the weekend is he any different?
xxxx
hi, im 29 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby, and feel like my partner has forgotten i exsist. when i was pregnant with our son i was still at work so had something to occupy my mind, i didnt even go on maternity leave till the last minute, (my manager had to remind me to give up work 5 days before i was due!) but this time i feel so alone. we suffered a molar pregnancy before i fell prgnant, where 2 sperm had fertilised 1 egg there was a feotus but nothing internal had developed. Shortley after that i fell pregnant while i was being monitored by charring cross hospital because molar pregnancies can cause complications, am now 29 weeks and feel so alone and unloved my partner doesn't seem to notice how im feling and when i try to tell him i feel he isn't listening. He's very much a man and not very good with emotions so it could be that he doesn't know what to do with a hormonal emotional woman, but that leaves me completely alone with a very active 3 year old feeling very emotional and abandonded. i dont know how to make him see how im feeling, he works 6 days a week to keep a roof over our heads and i know he's tired and hates his job, but dispite that he's a great dad and has all the time in the world for our son, he tells me he loves me and he always will and i believe him i love him too but feel so alone and emotional, please help me to make him understand that all i need is a little bit of attention and understanding, i cant keep crying alone.....
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