I think i've been lucky with the 3 midwifes i've had in all 3 of my pregnancies, because they were/are all really sympathetic and nice towards me..... but i do prefer my first and second one slightly abit more than this one i have now although she is really nice. I don't think they are all nice though, because some seem to be abit moody and expect you always tell them when you want any help..... when really they should be the ones giving advice and asking the questions. I don't like the ones at the hospital, i much prefer the ones that they give you from the doctors. Most of the hospital ones i've met seem to want to get rid of you as soon as possible and rush through what they are mean't to be doing to help you.

Well am having a doule Jamesons when this little man as popped out! Ha ha

My Notes say I am due today, but I know it can be anytime really.

I have booked in with a midwife for Wednesday, When I made the appointment the lady asked why I was ringing them to book with a midwife? Did I need to see a doctor?
I told her what midwife said and she was confused! I just thought O Man what is this world coming to? But am in! and mi Chaps taking a day off work to come with me!

Now that I can waite for! he's not happy! Knowing my luck well be asked to leave! Ha Ha! But what he's said to me it's so true! Just cos am on baby number 3 I should not be ignored.

I HATE needles too!
When I went for mi blood tests to see if I was diabetic They gave me an Anti D Jab!
Now thats not funny! The needle was about 3" long and she stuck it right in the top of mi arm! It felt like I had gave mi Funny bone a propper clout! I had 3 injections that day! I had to stop eating at 8pm the night before The first blood test was at 8:30am the second at 11am. Was not aloud to eat between these times, but was given a glucos drink! That made me hyper I could not stop talking! But I tell you now I would have eaten anything! I mean ANYTHING!!!! I dint leave the hospital till 12 noon! Because of the anti D. They had to watch me for half an hour make sure I did'nt have a reaction to it! My Stomach was growling, this asian woman sat next to me was laffin. She had had to have the same and she was having twins. She told me she had made some dinner before she came out! I was gonna go home with her and shear it!

But my chap treated me to a slap up pub dinner! I had already stuffed my cheeks with a mars on my way back to the car! I was like a Hamster! LoL

Look at me gasing again! Not even had any glucos LOL! But have made mi sen hungery!

Chat soon
Luv
Claire X

just thought i would add my comments on my mid wife when i pregnant with my little boy who is now six months old. i had a really bad expoeriance with my mid wife and was really fed up with her by the end of my pregnancy, at my booking in appointment she implied that i had a one night stand and got pregnant even though i am in a seven year relationshiip with what she said, at one of my antenatal checks where she was taking my blood i said i would hate to be diabetic or have to regualry inject medicine as i cant stand needles and she said its a good job i dont inject illegal substances and i have never touched a drug in my life not even a cigarette. I had a total of about 8 appointmnets with her over nine months and at my second to last appointment she decided i was a bit small and signed me overto the hospital whcih was fantastic. not all mid wifes are the same, in hospital i saw many midwifes about 6/7 throughout my labour and 3 during my last antenatal checks and they were all fantastic. i think you can be unlucky and get a unsympathettic mid wife and it really puts youoff. if its not late to change mid wifes do it i wish i had done now with hind sight, hind sight what a wonderful thing.

thats really bad its not fair on us mum's we have enought worry and stress without the midwife adding to it. but i have to be fair my midwife has'nt been to bad i've seen your a lot i have an appointment every month and i have appointments at the hospital for bloods and check up i can't understand why you have'nt seen your midwife since you were 16wks. i had a bit of pain in my lower tum about a week ago but when i phoned the midwifes number it went to answere phone so i phoned the hospital and spoke to someone there and they were very helpful so their are some who care just hope i get one when my time comes x x x good luck to all you mums to be

Now I am fed up!
I just rang my midwife as we have not chatted about what kind of birth I want, and when I have just looked through my notes the last time I saw her was 16 weeks. I rang and got put onto the answer phone, she rang back and if I could take the voice mail and let you listen to it you would think I was pranking you!

To start with I am not 39 week now according to her notes I am 37 Week. If I want to seen a midwife I have to ring my GP and book an appointment and they will fit me in on the next available date. The number in my notes says "if you need to chat to us or would like to book an appointment ring this number" so thats what I did and got told off for doing so. She said "Look Claire only ring this number in an emergancy!" so why put that number on the booking to see a midwife info???

Now i am confused, I was told that i am 39 weeks due on the 14th Jan, now I am being told I am 37 weeks. Babys moved down movments have slowed down Braxton Hicks are kicking in I can hardley walk, I have pain in my hips and spine. I dont think al make it to next week to see a midwife.

Also one of my daughters was born with earing problems, on her last visit I chatted to the doctor about having this baby tested as soon as possible to make sure he's ok with this. He told me to tell the midwife and she could put this in my notes, but if she dont wanna see me how can I ask?

I will be going into Huddersfield hospital to have my baby but rumor has it that it going to be moved to Halifax. I need to find out if the change has been done or not!

Its awful, I just wanna cry. But what use is that gonna do me? Just stress me more. My Chap has gone ape! He says they are having a laff! He dont loose his temper but after chatting to him He is not happy at all. I am gonna book the appointment and hope for the best.

And to put the Iceing on the Cake I have just found out one of my kids has human parvo! It says if your pregnant dont go near themin the 1st 20 weeks! Passed that ok but theres a 1 in a million chance of heart failiure to the unborn baby!

I am peed off! REALY PEED OFF!!!!! This little red head is going to blow soon!
If they dont want the job the should go else where!

From one very unhappy scared confused
Claire x

Sorry bout spelling but I just cant be bothered checking it!

I went for a home birth with 2 community midwives and they were amazing!! Didn't want to go in to hospital due to the state of maternity wards and the lack of care some women receive! I must say my community midwife - also delivered my son was amazing all the way through my pregnancy.

it's bad int it!
A think am just gonna have mine in the kitchen! less hassle!
I dont do running around after anyone! Only mi kids and Mike. Anyone else if they cant be bothered I just walk away. It's only because of the risk of any complications am keeping mi cool, Well sort of! If it was just to do with me and not a new life I would just blow them out of the water. But a cant cut mi nose off to spite mi own face when babys are involved. I just hope that when I do go into labour I have a decent midwife cos am like a ticking time bomb ready to blow. Mike's not very happy about it either. As we all know at the back end of pregnancy yer all over the place, cant get comfy, lack of sleep, feeling fat and ugly, wanting to fight with everyone one muinet then crying and wanting a hug the next. Or is that just me???? :0)

Luckly Mike and the kids have been helping me so much, I have not had to cook a meal, tidy the house, do the washing anything. They even run me a bath evry night and get my jammis ready 4 me when I get out. I feel like a Queen, but look like a beached whale hobbling around ha ha! I just hope I can keep mi temper on the day, cos nine month of annoying midwives who dont give a damn and when am in pain I can be very un-nice, gow know what al be like.

Take care
Claire

Hi

I had my second child 7 weeks ago and found the help and support from my midwife really bad.

Basically she wasn't interested in anything I had to say, she would always be over-running on her appointments by at least 45 minutes (which isn't good when you work full-time and stressing about getting into work on time.) I could never understand why the midwife was running late as I was never in with her more than 6 minutes (it got so bad I actually timed my appointments).

When I was about 8 months pregnant I arrived for my regular check up to have her say 'are you a new patient of mine' to which I replied 'no I've been seeing you for 8 months'. I got the impression she didn't believe me as well as not remember me. She then had to admit I was right when she saw her handwriting in my notes. She spent a few minutes reading through my notes and the section about your previous pregnancies. She then looked at my son and asked how SHE is doing, now, not only does my little boy look like a boy, she had my notes open on the page where it said previous pregnancies 1 male named James. It was at this point I realised my midwife is away with the fairies!

My midwife told me to go to our local midwifery led hospital to be assessed to see whether they would admit me for when the time comes. After the hassel of getting the appointment to fit in around mine and my partners' job we arrived to be told that the assessment could have been done during my routine midwife checkup!

My scan dates did come through on time - luckily - but all my blood test results went AWOL, the hospital rang up the blood department who swore blind no bloods had been taken from me.

After all this I was starting to worry, it was lucky that this was my second pregnancy so I did have an idea of what to expect, it would have been a really worrying time if this had been my first pregnancy.

In the end if I was worred about anything I would go direct to my GP.

When I started to have labour pains 11pm the sunday night I waited until 7.30am before I called the midwife for advice. My 1st labour was induced so I had no idea of when to go to the hospital. I was told by the midwife to go back to bed take 2 paracetamol and if I was still in pain at 9am when she starts her shift to call her back! I was upset by this abrupt attitude I refused to have anything to do with her from then on.

Unfortunatly things didn't get better when I arrived at the hospital monday morning at 9am, I was told I wasn't in labour at all. Now with this being my second child I knew this was the start of it all and didn't want to get stuck in traffic by going home. I went from 9am round to 8pm in the hospital with all the midwives telling me I'm not in labour. They gave me 2 paracetamol and a TENS machine to shut me up. I insisted on them examining me at 8pm to which they realised I was 8cm dialated. I was pleased I had gotten so far, but really upset that no-one had believed me when I was saying I'm in labour.

Once I was in the delivery suite, I had this lovely trainee midwife who stayed with us right through until Kaitlyn was born tuesday morning at 2am. This midwife was really supportive, encouraged me to try different positions and to stay positive. My only wish was that she had been around when I arrived at the hospital monday morning.

The whole experience has put me off having another child. Good midwives are in the minority. It was a completely different experience to when I have James in march 2006.

(Sorry for any spelling and grammer mistakes, I writing this quick before Kaitlyn wakes for her bottle).

Ellen