its not fair

hi everyone just wanted a moan and wanted other peoples views on this. have just been invited to a do with couple we vagueley know who have a baby.my idea of torture. the thing is this lady? smoked/drunk all pregnancy and baby was 9 wks early. i did not smoke/drink and my baby was 8 wks early and i nearly died. i cant get pregnant why can someone like that?i think it is so unfair i actually want a baby and would do anything in the world .why should someone that selfish get to have one? i just feel so mad i cannot stand people who smoke/drink when pg if you cant give up then when will you ever have such a good reason.needless to say we are not going to do oh is trying to think of excuse i say tell the truth,its so upsetting seeing babies anyone but at least most people love and deserve their babies. i was 16 when i had dd and i gave up smoking straight away and didnt miss it.my baby was small and nurses accused me of smoking but i had more sence even at 16