Just wondering.... What do you do with the rest of your boyfriend' family if you don't get on with his mum? Basically I can't stand her, my boyf doesn't get on with her either (at all) she's an all round nasty bit of work. I'm just a bit sad that my daughter has cousins that she never sees. I'm not sure how much of an effort to put in with my boyf's brother and his wife. They live in Cornwall and we've been to visit them 3 times now and the last time they were really off with us (but it's hard to tell if we're reading too much into it...). Anyway his brother has always been a bit of a nob, but he's alrightish, his wife is usually nice enough though and can be a bit of a laugh. It think she's keen on keeping in touch and sending b'day cards etc.. but my OH reckons that's so fake that it's worse than not having any relationship, seeing as they can't even be bothered to phone... sorry about the rant..... anyway I just don't know whether I should send the wife an e-mail to explain the worries, or just stay out of touch with them or what..... Oh man! I'd just appreciate any input as I'm stuck!!!
maybe just send cards but not visit her that way if things do (although not likely by the sound of it) improve with MIL you could pick up contact again
Ah i see in laws are pi55ing everyone off today dont even get me started on my FIL its too much to handle. I wish i had a wand to wish the bug gers to the other end of the world!
It's true, it's more of a constant disappointment which really leave you feeling drained every time you try and get nothing back in return.... Thank you everyone! Now I'm off to a PCSA meeting - I feel like such a mummy now she's at school!!!!
youve made the effort hun if they dont want to try to think of it as their loss not your daughter's loss. theres that age old saying bout you can choose your friends but you cant choose your family. make sure that you and your family are surrounded by people in yuor lives that make you feel good and treat you nice and your daughter wont miss out on anything x x
hmmm so do I cut all ties and make the final clean break and delete them from Facebook? These crazy modern dilemmas!!! p.s. we moved a couple of months ago so then there'd be no way for them to get in touch.... it might be a relief....
I wouldn't bother, it's more hassle than it's worth sometimes and I've figured that you have to think of yourself in this life as no one else does apart from the people closest to you, i.e. your other half and your baby.
I'm kind of relieved to hear that's what others reckon too - I spoke to a friend (she's not got any kids - so no MIL!!!!) who was saying you only get one family etc etc so I felt a bit guilty. Feel better now. I do feel quite sad about the cousins, but I guess life's not perfect. Just read your posts in the other conversation - I can see everyone's having a bit of a MIL mightmare time - something in the air maybe?
I would say don;t bother with them! All MIL are horrid!!! LOL Bad day chick, sorry! lol
Do what you feel is best, but don;t you always be the opne making the effort, not woth it babe. xxx
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