Pregnancy and birth: what they never told you

So go on, why isnt anyone sharing? I came here to hear the naked truth about everything I need to know about. I am already intensely worried about having a bowel movement whilst giving birth, or having a tear, but what else is there that I need to be prepared for now:-P
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xXCelesteXx
Reply xXCelesteXx 1 days ago
Apparently rubbing olive oil on the perineum (the bit of skin between your vagina and your bum) from about 25 weeks is meant to reduce the risk of tearing, but not stop it completely. Also, listening to your midwife's. When you are crowning, they will tell you to pant, not push. this is because pushing whilst you are crowning will mean that you will prob tear. It helps to have a mum thats a midwife!! lol xx
Why olive oil in particular? Are there specific creams for that purpose and what does it do? Just soften the skin and make it more flexible? In that case wouldn't any cream do that moisturises. And are you just supposed to cream it (or oil it) or do you have to actually rub it and massage it for some time. Sorry I'm being so crude, I just would like to know whether I can actively do something to prevent a tear. I'm terrified of that so much more than the actual thought of giving birth. lol
mummysam01
Reply mummysam01 2 days ago
Do most mums end up with tears?? I'm abit worried about that actually. I hear most people say they had stiches or were cut and whatnot. Anyone here that didnt? And also, sorry if this is a weird question, but is there anyway you could prepare yourself for it and reduce your chances to tear? Like maybe creams or something? xx
Apparently rubbing olive oil on the perineum (the bit of skin between your vagina and your bum) from about 25 weeks is meant to reduce the risk of tearing, but not stop it completely. Also, listening to your midwife's. When you are crowning, they will tell you to pant, not push. this is because pushing whilst you are crowning will mean that you will prob tear. It helps to have a mum thats a midwife!! lol xx
mummysam01
Reply mummysam01 2 days ago
Do most mums end up with tears?? I'm abit worried about that actually. I hear most people say they had stiches or were cut and whatnot. Anyone here that didnt? And also, sorry if this is a weird question, but is there anyway you could prepare yourself for it and reduce your chances to tear? Like maybe creams or something? xx
Apparently rubbing olive oil on the perineum (the bit of skin between your vagina and your bum) from about 25 weeks is meant to reduce the risk of tearing, but not stop it completely. Also, listening to your midwife's. When you are crowning, they will tell you to pant, not push. this is because pushing whilst you are crowning will mean that you will prob tear. It helps to have a mum thats a midwife!! lol xx
xXCelesteXx
Reply xXCelesteXx 4 days ago
One thing they never tell you about it the painkillers they give you after you've had your stitches. I remember the doctor telling me he was going to give me a painkiller and getting the tablet out, and I thought ooh, that's a big tablet, I hope they'll give me a drink of water with that...and then he shoved it up my bum! Quite suprised!!! x
OMG, that actually made me giggle a bit ('I hope they give me water;)')I've never heard that before either. It thought every time a women gives birth all they talk about is boobs and some sorts of fluids coming out of various ends and of course poos and sick - and thats all quite personal. but by the looks of it there is a lot more to it ... x
KatyJane83
Reply KatyJane83 9 days ago
One thing they never tell you about it the painkillers they give you after you've had your stitches. I remember the doctor telling me he was going to give me a painkiller and getting the tablet out, and I thought ooh, that's a big tablet, I hope they'll give me a drink of water with that...and then he shoved it up my bum! Quite suprised!!! x
spaceduck
Reply spaceduck 11 days ago
Do most mums end up with tears?? I'm abit worried about that actually. I hear most people say they had stiches or were cut and whatnot. Anyone here that didnt? And also, sorry if this is a weird question, but is there anyway you could prepare yourself for it and reduce your chances to tear? Like maybe creams or something? xx
I tore and had stitches. Pushing the baby out was fine and the only part that stung was when the needle went in with the anaesthetic for my stitches - and it was only seconds long!! My stitches healed quickly and never hurt. So don't worry about it - it was my top concern and honestly it really was nothing!!! (Oh and I bought the creams and never used them!!!)
xXCelesteXx
Reply xXCelesteXx 14 days ago
Do most mums end up with tears?? I'm abit worried about that actually. I hear most people say they had stiches or were cut and whatnot. Anyone here that didnt? And also, sorry if this is a weird question, but is there anyway you could prepare yourself for it and reduce your chances to tear? Like maybe creams or something? xx
Anonymous
Reply Anonymous 1 months ago
hi all when i was pregnant they had to give me an internal'she put her hand up there'to see if i was ready to go into labour.
As my baby was no longer growing they decided to start me off...
that night i went into hos they was going to give me a pesery 'a tablet to soften your cervix' but after closer inspection AGAIN they realised i had started my self off
the next morn on labour ward they felt to see how dilated i was as my waters was bulging they broke my waters,my mum and bf kept going down the end of the bed to have a look lol
the nurses check you every three hours or more and while pushing the baby out you are in soo much pain you dont care about the fact you have your bits on show to about 6 people,id say its worse than pushing a melon out id say it was like someone setting you on fire dwn there...but all said the pain goes as soon as they are out...i didnt have any stitches or didnt need to be cut,but the worst for me was trying to go for a wee after'stings' pour warm water down yourself whilst you are going...good luck x
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