why do i feel so unhappy when i should be happy about my pregnancy

thanks for ur support

Hun sorry to hear u are all worried, i was absolutely hge when i fell with my second, was even worse when i gave birth to her. I had all the scans and although they were concerned it wasnt that bad. I had all the regular scans etc and when i gave birth i was given pain relief. they do tend to worry if yr having a section cos it can affect the aneasthetic an they may need extra ppl at the birth but hun you should be fine. Just think to yr self that you have a little secret in yr tummy which is yrs an no-one elses. whatever they say to you, they cannot take that away from you. hun try to be positive. and enjoy feeling yr baby grow. it is such a special time an the rest can go jump xx take care hun xx

Thanks for your reply. it is nice to know there are people out there who i can confide in. thanks for helping me feel a bit more at ease with my pregnancy. i do have chances to talk to my fiance and he is supportive but people going through the same worries and concerns can be more advisable :) add me as a friend if u like i tried to add you but it was doing an error
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oh huni ignore your family , you will be well cared for in labour and throughout your pregnancy , i think they r giving u scare tactics which is so cruel they need to be supportive of u,eating healthy and excercise is good for u and baby, i believe u would not have got pregnant if your body cant cope, see your dr this week and tell him your fears, there is no reason to think u will lose your baby due to your weight,honestly hun i am being truthful, please take care and if i can help in any way get back to me ann x x

Ah sweetheart it sounds to me like you are being so hard on yourself! How many of us have perfect circumstances, health and bodies and get pregnant at the perfect time? I'd put a large bet on non of the ladies on this site for sure (including me : ), as such a circumstance doesn't really exist! You say you're eating right and doing some exercise so that sounds great to me. Your body will benefit far more from this than any kind of drastic regime anyway x Don't beat yourself up. As for your family members , well shame on them! It's early on so they may come round and bridges can be re-built. Miscarriage is something we all have a chance of, my only advise is to try not to worry. It could happen to anyone of us,be us larger ladies, slim or skinny. We can all only do our best and that's good enough : ) I'm in early stages of preg and have only been able to eat total rubbish as I feel so sick with morning sickness. I just think, well,I'm doing my best and that's all I can do. Don't be terrified, you're not alone xx

Oh lass don't think like that at all! Doc gave me a hard time cause i'm over weight too! Never pay attention, just concentrate on resting and relaxing! Baby won't b benefitin u worrying so much! I stay in the Shetland islands and cause i'm overwieght i can't have my baby here with my family and friends! Me and my OH will probably have to go to the nearest hospital..... (14 hours on a boat, 1 1/2 hours on a plane) to have baby and Neil can't even b with me the whole time! He'll have to go when leaving hours are up! Don't let it bother you that much sweetie! I'm here for a ranting session whenever you want! Big hugs! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

i have recently discovered that i am expecting. I am not the right weight at the moment. I am doing what i can to loose weight for my baby to be healthy. i didnt get a positive response from some of my family members about my news and this has turned in to them hating me. i have been told because i am over weight i will not be allowed any pain relief because they are not allowed to give it to me. I am scared as it is my first baby. how true is that? i have been told by the doctor i cant start loosing weight because i am pregnant. so it is literally only me eating right and doing as much exercise as i can to make myself healthy for my baby. on top of this worry i am now worried that when i go for my scan i will find out i have miscarried because i havent done good enough. please tell me how i can be reassured of these things. i am terrified.