anyone had another baby before their first is two. me and my OH are thinking about trying soon but our daughter has just turned one. i'd love them close together but is that too close.
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Eileen Hayes -
Parenting expert
This always has to be a personal decision made by yourself and your partner. There are lots of theories –for example that sibling rivalry is not as bad with a really short gap (18 months or so) or a really long one –approx 4+ years, but you wouldn’t just decide for that reason. In the same way, some parents think it is easier to have children close together, so that they have the nappy stage at the same time, then get to a point where all the sleepless nights are over. Others feel strongly that they want to cope with one child at a time and would find it too stressful to do all of the babycare things for more than one.
Some parents may feel strongly that they want to give undivided attention to each child till they are a little bit older.
There is no doubt it is hard work having two babies close together, but it is also hard work having two babies at any time. Babies are hard work, and the chores involved are the same whenever you have them. Only you can decide for yourself what you think would suit you best in your family circumstances.
From a health point of view for the mother, since it is over a year when you were pregnant, and might not be pregnant right away, this is not really an issue.
These sorts of decisions are always individual, with no right or wrong answer, but depending on your own circumstances.
i had my son when my daughter was 20 months old they were soooooo close it was lovely best of friends they were unfortunatly harry my son died from cancer when he was 8 and she misses him like mad but now we are having another one due in jan 2010 she is so excited and she wants it in her room from day one she says she will feed it and everything just not change its smelly bum lol she is 13 now
anyone had another baby before their first is two. me and my OH are thinking about trying soon but our daughter has just turned one. i'd love them close together but is that too close.
I'm having number 2 in a few weeks and my daughter's just coming up for 14 months. By the time your new one's born your first will be nearly 2 anyway so I don't think that's really a close gap. Good luck with TTC and don't worry, I think all age gaps have their pros and cons, just go with what you thinks best for your family. Em x
This always has to be a personal decision made by yourself and your partner. There are lots of theories –for example that sibling rivalry is not as bad with a really short gap (18 months or so) or a really long one –approx 4+ years, but you wouldn’t just decide for that reason. In the same way, some parents think it is easier to have children close together, so that they have the nappy stage at the same time, then get to a point where all the sleepless nights are over. Others feel strongly that they want to cope with one child at a time and would find it too stressful to do all of the babycare things for more than one.
Some parents may feel strongly that they want to give undivided attention to each child till they are a little bit older.
There is no doubt it is hard work having two babies close together, but it is also hard work having two babies at any time. Babies are hard work, and the chores involved are the same whenever you have them. Only you can decide for yourself what you think would suit you best in your family circumstances.
From a health point of view for the mother, since it is over a year when you were pregnant, and might not be pregnant right away, this is not really an issue.
These sorts of decisions are always individual, with no right or wrong answer, but depending on your own circumstances.
yeah i ave a 19mth old boy n am pregarooney wiv twins which r due in nxt few wks or so! guna b fun! cant w8! xxx
thanks everyone we've started trying so fingers crossed
anyone had another baby before their first is two. me and my OH are thinking about trying soon but our daughter has just turned one. i'd love them close together but is that too close.
hi, my two boys thate is 2 yrs apart. My daughter and baby to be, there will be 15 months. xx
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