Can you identify what is triggering these episodes? Is he behaving like this when he is frustrated by something? Are you having to tell him he can’t do what he wants to do and this is his retaliation? Try to take a step back over the next few days and see if you can identify what it is that is sparking him off. Once you have found out what the cause is you can then take steps to avoid the situations that cause these outbursts, or at least be prepared with some distraction techniques.
As your little boy is over two years old he should really be able to understand that sometimes he has to do things he may not want to do. He should also be able to understand that he can have some choice in what he does. If he is getting frustrated by being told what to do all the time then see if you can offer him some choices in his day. There are many times when he cannot choose what he will do but equally several occasions when he can have a say. If you are going to offer him a choice then make sure that whatever he chooses can happen, don’t ask him where he would like to go today or he may say to the moon! Instead ask him if he would like to go to x or y as long as either are possible. The important thing is to find the cause – the answer will usually present itself to you.
Hey,
i think you should probably start a time out.
However instead of doing the whole step thing or spot thing, maybe try a playpen or cot. Otherwise you cant sit and explain to him about the whole stay there for 2 minutes as he'll be so fired up he wont want to listen.
Remind him when you know hes going to start being naughty that he will go in the naughty place, and take him firmly and show him and clearly say that if hes naughty and bites mummy or kicks mummy that he will go in there.
If he still does it, firmly and quickly take him upstairs to his cot in his room or the playpen that is out of the way in a room, and put him in and say 'You do NOT do that to mummy! And you can stay there because its naughty (or something along those lines).
Do not answer anything he says, or say any more. Swiftly walk out the room and dont look at him or anything. When hes calmed down, go in - he may start crying more just out of anger, but say to him clearly but gently 'Stop crying and you can come out'. If hes not stopped before you go in and he's been in there a while, go up to where he is on his level and tell him that if he stops crying then he can come out, if he doesnt walk back out.
Then when you do get him out make sure he says sorry, gives you kisses and cuddles and make sure he knows exactly whathes done wrong and that thats where he goes if hes naughty - then carry on as normal like nothing has happened :)
I know its really hard to ignore them crying and everything, and you just want to pick them up and tell them off playfully but it needs to be nipped in the bud otherwise he may do it to other children or something.
Hope it helps hun! Let us know how you got on! xxxxx
hi my son is 27months and he has started screaming hitting kickin biting me no matter how much i tell him what he is doing is wrong he still wont stop. this has been going on for well over two months and i dont know what to try now.any advice would be appreciated greatly xx