I dont know why this is

thanks for your help :) x

Yes it's not right for him to be in any kind of pain - he really needs to get a second opinion as it's clearly affecting your relationship. At some point in our lives most of us have to go to the doctor(s) about something personal so you could softly point this out. May be he needs some gentle persuasion as you know how touchy men can be when it comes to health and personal issues. I'm sure he won't be alone with this problem and someone will know about it. Hope you both get things sorted soon - I'm sure he would love things to be better for you too xx

im glad that other men experiance it, it makes it a little more likely that i can find out what it is and there for stop it. me and my partner recently changed drs surgery and i told him to get a second opinion but he wont, so the situation has just been left like this. I'm feeling really frustrated because he assosiates ME with being in pain, we rarely have sex, he rejects me most of the time and if sometimes i get it off him he says 'if i have to' i dont want him to do it because he feels he has to, i miss the days when we would when HE wants to, i feel like im practically raping him to tell you the truth, this has gone on for almost 2 years now and i feel like he isnt making much effort to solve the situation

Hi! I can only suggest that may be you need to do some research or try and contact a specialist who will may be be able to shed some more light on the issue. It could be combination of different things that is causing this reaction in your partner. I only know that many men (I've read this not slept with many men ; ) quickly lapse into a sudden short sleep after climax, which the victorians called the 'little death'. Does he get light headed or have a milder reaction to other kinds of exertion - may be this will help shed some light on the matter? I think def go back for some second opinions and try not to worry xx

When me and my partner have sex, when he cums, he collapses for about 5 minutes and after and during that time he is in alot of pain, he complains his head and stomach hurt. He has been diagnosed with Trigeminal Autonaumic Syfalger, although im not sure if it is related to this. He went to his gp about it, and the gp said he'd never heard anything like this before happening, and suggested to my partner that he should lose weight (my partner is overweight)because it might be due to exhaustion, but many men get tired, they never collapse, im just wondering what it could be and what can possibly be done to fix this