feeling left out

oh dear! i really thought she'd go for it mate sorry! umm give it time hopefully not to long and she might be gagging to leave the baby with someone so she can go out! just a thought does she ever leave the baby with you at all? have you offered? if not that could be first step. you could have LO for a few hours, she could go hairdressers or shopping with her mates or whatever and and come back to her lovely baby and kind caring man to find you aren't totally incompetant lol. then hopefully she'll feel better bout leaving LO with someone else? just a thought. if not you're gonna have to wait it out. keep trying though! x x

i think shes scared to leave baby how about after baby is alsleep put dvd on popcorn candles etc and cuddle up on sofa? xxx

I am mother to 4 children , the eldest being 15 and the youngest just 6 weeks. I try really hard to make time for my hubby as i belive whilst i am a mother i am also a wife/partner. I think that happy parents make a happy baby/children. It can sometimes be all consuming when you are responsible for this tiny person for what seems like an probably is the rest of yr life. I used to try an be super mum an everything was about the baby and anyone ( such as my hubby) who didnt think the same was excluded. I thought ppl would judge me as a terrible selfish mother if i had some me time. I eventually wore myself out running around trying to live upto other ppls ideals. ppl talk the talk but very rarely walk the walk lol. Just reasurre yr lady that she is being a fantastic mum but that she needs to recharge her batteries every now an then an that u would very much like to share that with her. Life will get easier when yr little one gets a bit older an she relaxes a bit. right now (assuming yr lo is a tiny bub) everything is new , intense an very hard work. just try an be patient with her.Hope this helps an sorry if it doesnt but it is all about finding the right balance. good luck with it all xxx

ello again, thanks for your advice. i tied suggesting the date and she just said how can i think about that when we have a kid together now. IS this what the rest of my life is going to be like, seriously??!!

have you tried surprising her with a date? you could arrange to have someone you know she's happy and comfortable with to look after baby for the day or evening or whatever and take her out just two of you. hopefully she might really like that and appreciate it, i know i would have... x x

awww hun ...you need to sit down with your girlfriend and tell her how you are feeling...perhaps suggest that the grandparents have your son for an hour or 2 and go out for a nice walk or a meal or something xxx just have the time with each other xxx hope this helps xxx

Don't worry it's nothing you've done!!! I felt exactly the same after the birth of my son and going through it again with my second pregnancy. You've got to remember that her body has gone through alot of changes and I know that I didn't really feel very attractive and wanted by my husband. He kept telling me that he loved me, but I wasn't really feeling myself. It takes a bit of time, but show her as much attention as possible and just be there. Sorry couldn't be more help and I can only tell you from my point of view. Good luck

had a son 3 mnths ago. luv him to bits but have to admit hate the way its changed my girlfriend. we're never intimiate anymore - don't mean sex just cuddling and stuff and she only gives attention to the baby. What can i do to make her notice ME again???!