Hey. My told me awhile ago that she had a miscarriage and she was 16 weeks pregnant, i dont know weather to believe her because 1. she didnt look 16 weeks pregnant, nor did she mention she was, 2. when she describes what it was like, she said 'there was just blood', i thought you'd be able to see something if its 16 weeks gone, i was under the impression that a baby of 16 weeks was fully formed, so how could there be just blood and no sac, nothing!? 3. She said she knew she was pregnant because she missed her period, she said she didnt do a pregnancy test, she was pregnant just because she missed her period. She said the miscarriage happened on the toilet, she suddenly started bleeding, what i would believe to be her period coming late (16 weeks late hense why she believed she was 16 weeks pregnant), she said she had no medical attention after it, she felt physically fine and carried on as normal and waited for the bleeding to stop (a few days after she said). I dont know, i feel bad for saying this but i dont think i believe her because of 1, 2 and 3 ^. I think she'd either lying or she was genuinly mistaken, but i feel like rubbish for even doubting something like that incase she did actually have a miscarriage, but things just dont seem to add up? xxx
OMG this happened recently to a girl that i work with. She said that she miscarried last year and nobody believed her then. Then a few months ago she said again that she was pregnant (she knows im ttc). Everytime we asked her about midwife appointments she was making excuses. I even said to her to ask for an early scan due to her previous 4 miscarriages but she said that she didnt want to be a nuisance. I couldnt understand why she was not having an appointments at all. Nobody in work believed her again except her poor fiance who also works with us and then low and behold she was given a date for her 1st scan at 15 weeks and miscarried the day before!! Her poor fiance was devastated but she said there was just a little blood and took the week off work to recover. Her fiance said that she went to the loo and there was just a load of blood. She refused to go to the Dr's after it happened??
My so called friend did this to me a few months back..i posted it on here. |She blatantly lied to my face about having a miscarriage and even told our boss in work so she could have time off. I busted her and made her tell the truth to everyone. She says she was depressed at the time..this is no excuse in my eyes.
Ask your friend outright and see what their reaction is. My 'friend' was outraged I could accuse her of such a thing and I couldnt be a real mate for saying that - and then she burst into tears and admitted lying.
Pretty sick thing to lie about. If she is lying, u need to have a chat with her to see why she did it. x
hey i misscarriaged at 16 weeks but didnt find out till i was 18 weeks the baby was still there so they had to set it off for me. its not jsut blood theres a feots un there and you can see everything arms, legs, eyes ears although the eyes had skin over them. so you wouldnt just loose blood, when mine happened it felt like when you waters are about to break but it was blood now just water so she cant have hun. its not nice when people go round saying things like that have happened when it hasnt i had a friend like that you just learn what there really like. xXx
hey i misscarriaged at 16 weeks but didnt find out till i was 18 weeks the baby was still there so they had to set it off for me. its not jsut blood theres a feots un there and you can see everything arms, legs, eyes ears although the eyes had skin over them. so you wouldnt just loose blood, when mine happened it felt like when you waters are about to break but it was blood now just water so she cant have hun. its not nice when people go round saying things like that have happened when it hasnt i had a friend like that you just learn what there really like. xXx
I can only reiterate what others have said on here. Having a miscarriage even in the earlier stages is not just a bit of blood and then a heavy period. I didnt have excruciating pain, but for a start I was earlier than your friend and I saw the fetus. Secondly, I found the whole experience very traumatising and didnt wanna let go of the fetus in the beginning. I cannot imagine you'd carry a baby for so long and then flush it in the toilet or throw it in the bin. Especially of how developed it looks.
With regards to dealing with her, I would suggest you give her the benefit of the doubt. Ask her how she is feeling, whether she'd like to talk about it, etc. After all she IS your friend. If she does "trip" up and it becomes apparent she's lying, I'd be upfront and tell her that you know, but also ask her why. Maybe she's jealous because you're pregnant, or has, as someone else suggested, some underlying issues that need sorting out. Lying is not always purely attention seeking. Sometimes its really an unconscious thing and the lie comes out before one has really thought about it. If you tell her you know she'll save herself the embarassement of digging her hole deeper and getting more and more into the lie, because she will, if you ask her about it. Because lies arent based on actual events you tend to forget the details of whats been said. Decide how important the friendship is, and tell her how you feel (i.e. that some people DO go through this traumatic event and its nothing to lie or boast about) but try and ask her for her reasons. Everyone makes mistakes, and if she's your friend you should be honest with her.
I don't know if it is too late for a response to your friend and her miscarriage. I was 16 weeks pregnant when I miscarried. It hurt as if I was in real labor. I was in constant pain all day. Oh I did go to the hospital, but they sent me home! Finally, in the evening, I miscarried in my bathroom toilet. I had a baby/fetus and cord attached. Paramedics had to come help and thankfully cut the cord. I couldn't look and they took me to the hospital where they had to pull out the placenta. It was the absolute worst and painful experience of my life. And still no reason why this happened to me. If your friend gives you a story like that than she is telling the truth. If a woman is that far along and miscarries it's not that quick and painless.
I had a friend that was the exact same as yours but she didnt lie about it not once not twice but 3 times!! i did believe her at first but when it came to having my own chid i knew she was lieing then she had the cheek 2 lie about it anouther 2 times! i think people like that i just desprate 4 a baby or have just got issues they need 2 sort out xx
yeah this is why i dont believe her, im really annoyed that shes lied about it. Not meaning to sound nasty but shes either extremely stupid and genuinly thought it was a miscarriage or shes just a horrible attention seeking cow. I didnt actually think about the flushing it down the toilet thing :( thats horrible, even if she didnt have a miscarriage its the principle, she thought it was a miscarriage yet she still put it in the bin or toilet! you dont just disgard your baby like that, if you get what i mean. i feel abit embarrist asking her though because, what if she forgets she told me? and she geniunly doesnt remember telling me? im gonna look like a idiot and shes gonna think im lying. Leahkuar, if you're reading this, im really sorry if my post upset you, it must have brought back alot of painful memories xxx
I don't know if it is too late for a response to your friend and her miscarriage. I was 16 weeks pregnant when I miscarried. It hurt as if I was in real labor. I was in constant pain all day. Oh I did go to the hospital, but they sent me home! Finally, in the evening, I miscarried in my bathroom toilet. I had a baby/fetus and cord attached. Paramedics had to come help and thankfully cut the cord. I couldn't look and they took me to the hospital where they had to pull out the placenta. It was the absolute worst and painful experience of my life. And still no reason why this happened to me. If your friend gives you a story like that than she is telling the truth. If a woman is that far along and miscarries it's not that quick and painless.
hey in the past i have had 2 m/c 1 at 4 weeks and that wasnt just blood it had smal clots and very bad paind and the bleeding lasted 2 weeks, i had another one at 7 weeks and i had loads and loads of blood clots the size off my hand nearly and i saw the small 7week fetus with a little amblical cord as well and i had to be rushed to hosptail coz it was so very pain fall thati couldnt stop screaming and if she was 26 weeks pregnant it would be 10000000 times worse im gessing x she is lieing or stupid (sorry) x dont worry about her and let her get on with it
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