starting to get annoyed with her now

One trick my OH has started doing is when I'm mad, he cuddles and kisses me and says things like "I'm horrible aren't I?" in a really over dramatic way, as if he was speaking to a child. Even though I know deep down he hasn't, it makes me feel like he understands that sometimes, I can't control my feelings. It calms me down a lot and just knowing that I can occasionally have a tantrum or two makes me feel a lot better in itself! Let me know if this works, because if it doesn't that makes me a spoilt brat lol! Good luck =)

I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship, but my OH and I argue that black is blue sometimes. The biggest thing here (from a female perspective)is that although he listens he doesn't acknowledge that he has heard what I said, or he tries to fix things all the time. I'm quite happy being broken, I just want lots of cuddles and reassurance that it's OK to be broken.

Next time she tells you your shirking your esponsibilities - try to acknowledge that you understand why she is upset with you... don't try to be defensive of your point of view, just cuddle her and reassure her. That will soften her up a bit... (she may still rant on... I know I would...) but would be good to let her get it off her chest... try not to take the barage of accusations personally, and try to respond reassuringly, and supportivley to everything she says.

This may help and she'll probably realise the next day that she went too far and treated you terribly.

From experience that's exactly how I would react, and usually tiredness causes it for me. My poor husband!!! He's used to me now!!!

The day after an argument bring her home a little treat, to show you love her... flowers, chocolate, something else she likes, or maybe try cooking a great meal for her, so she doesn't have to do it. Really romantic and takes a lot of pressure off her.

Good luck - as you know we women can be hard work!

Ive bought my oh a book called The Blokes Guide to Pregnancy, by Jon Smith. It's brilliant! (Mothercare do it and I've seen it in Asda) It might be helpful for you as it tells you everything that is happening and how it affects you and her (its very honest from the blokes point of view) and quite funny! It may also help reassure your girlfriend if she sees you reading it and trying to understand what shes going through! (I know you are going through it all as well, but its really not the same.)

nah you aint only one to start arguments to see if the bloke cares enough to stick around lol. it can backfire big time though! infact i'd put money on it ALWAYS backfiring eventually! hormones dont help though during pregnancy- btw to the original poster for god sake DONT ever say "i know it's just your hormones love". guranteed to end up in a trip to a and e. if your lucky she might give you a lift! x x

I think she may be feeling a little insecure right now after you rightly voicing your concerns. Girls can be very strange on times as babymouse pointed out and sometimes we cause arguments to see if you will stick around. If you do, then it makes us feel secure and loved but unfortunately that security doesnt last very long hence the reason to start another argument. (i really hope its not just me who has done this in the past lol!) Women can also be very picky and tearful in the 1st few weeks of pregnancy and unfortunately you wont be able to do anything about this. Tell her that you feel that she is trying to make you wriggle out of your responsibilities, but that you dont want to and that you will be there for her. Has the shock actually sunk in for you yet? Are you feeling any better about becoming a dad?

she sounds pretty hormonal hun so try not to resort to blaming her for starting it and bear in mind it could and probably will get worse- sorry to pee on your parade! i would suggest that when shes in a better more reasonable mood you could sit down together just you two and suggest to her that she asks her family to step back a bit and not get so invloved in your arguments. coz there really isnt any need for them to and i doubt it helps. i speak from experience- my mum and sister used to be quite bad for it and i had to ask them to back off. my dad in law just as bad. if your girlfriend wont do this is there anyone in her family who you can trust to talk to bout this? they might be able to have words with the rest of them. you dont all want to be at all out war by the time baby comes along! x x

From the sounds of things she's probably feeling really vulnarable because she knows you've already had doubts about having a baby. This and the fact that her body will be swimming with loads of hormones probably means that she's reacting in a way that seems a bit extreme to you. I guess she might be trying to push you away now as a bit of a defence mechanism so that you can't hurt her later on (crazy girly logic - but it makes sense to us!!) The important thing is to keep talking to each other. It's great you've been honest with her already about your concerns, but she was bound to get a bit worried about your feelings and how it will effect the future. I expect that is where all this is coming from. Reassure her that you love her as often as you can. I know it might feel that it's not worth it is she keeps on pushing you away, but trust me the message will get though to her eventually. Time, hugs and conversations together and I'm sure you'll both be fine.

I posted here a couple of weeks back about my girlfriend being pregnant. i thought we'd sorted it all out and were going to work through things but now she's accusing me of wanting to wriggle out ofmy responsibilities!! i can't believe it, as soon as i say anything she just assumes i'm trying to get her to break up with me. worst thing is that as soon as i say anything back her family all have a go at me saying how can you horrible to her when she's pregnant??? but she started it!