33 weeks and making love???

WARNING GRAPHIC CONTENT: Im 33 weeks pregnant and havent made love to my fiance for about 2-3 weeks. Im starting to feel guilty because I know men have 'needs!' and I am really worried he'll start to resent me or the baby and/or go to some one else for 'pleasure'. He has NEVER cheated and I wouldn't think that he ever would but I can't help being paranoid/worried. He's hinted at me giving him 'oral' as sex is uncomfortable now but I dislike doing that and HAVE to be in the right mood. Im struggling to feel sexy and or 'horny' at all at the moment and I don't know what to do. Last time we made love it was difficult finding a position that was comfy and I didn't really enjoy it! I'm REALLY paranoid about doing 'doggy' as I have piles (sorry for TMI)! and thats the best position comfy wise. ...... Dunno what to do!
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wannabemummy
Reply wannabemummy 4 months ago
I am nearly 34 weeks and we havent even touched each other for about 2 months now lol. I do give him a "hand" every now and again as i do feel guilty but im in no position, i dont like it at the moment, i dont want him near me in that way...its just hormones but he will understand if you explain xx
Kate1234
Reply Kate1234 4 months ago
Thank you for being so open and putting this post, i have been feeling the same, i am 24 weeks and have not even tried to have sex since we found out about babe. I have just felt too poorly. Now i am feeling better i really want to be close again, so i am determined to give it a go this weekend. Spoons it is. thank you ladies X
jakkiharley
Reply jakkiharley 4 months ago
yer im only 13 weeks + 2 and i have gone off sex 100% my bf is like oh how can u u aint that far in lol just 1 of thoughs things i gess but when u has far as u in it must be very uncomfortarbale xx
donnmark
Reply donnmark 4 months ago
dont worry i was the same as you but prob worse as i just went off sex completely my husband didnt get sex for 7 months, and i dont really like oral sex that much, but he stood by me and didnt mind at all as i was carrying his baby lol, xx
mollycoddles
Reply mollycoddles 4 months ago
Is that him laying behind me, with his chest to my back? Not tried that but it could be difficult as Im only 4'9 lol I think he finds my boobs more appealing as they are a lot bigger haha but not sure about the belly! Sounds silly but i get freaked about shaking junior around too much too!
Are you sure it't not your concerns for junior that is creating a psychological barrier. It will do junior absolutely no harm at all hun, don't worry!!!! He/she has amniotic fluid around him/her so will barely notice.
Lots of cuddles is a good idea though. Hey try spooning, but relax about the effect on the little one, don't think about it, it's the two of you having some fun!!! Try to focus on whether your OH looks sexy to you rather than whether you feel sexy.
elliesmumi
Reply elliesmumi 4 months ago
i so understand how your feeing. im 38+3 and tried to make love last night to bring on labour (it worked last time), finding it very uncomfortable at this stage especially with the weather, its sooooo hot i think im going to melt lol. i dont think your OH will resent you for not having sex with him, but you could show your affections in other ways rather than making love and not enjoying it. make sure you give lots of kisses and cuddles, and tell him you love him. im sure he knows already though, you're doing such a wonderful thing for him xxx
WillowTurner
Reply WillowTurner 4 months ago
Is that him laying behind me, with his chest to my back? Not tried that but it could be difficult as Im only 4'9 lol I think he finds my boobs more appealing as they are a lot bigger haha but not sure about the belly! Sounds silly but i get freaked about shaking junior around too much too!
Yeh you lie on ur side and he lies behind u like u do when you cuddle in bed, he can still get to your boobs lol x Mind you, if he wants sex its gna be your way or no way :D lol xx an awwwwwwwh 4ft9, xx
ravrachel
Reply ravrachel 4 months ago
Try spooning as suggested but maybe have a pillow between your legs and under bump to make it more comfy- i had spd as well as being huge and it was a nightmare! I used to leak milk too all the time - oh how sexy- i felt hideous! If in doubt there is always the 'hands on' approach... may not be what he had in mind but if you really don't feel like it then this might be the compromise. Speak to him about it - he might be more understanding if you tell how uncomfortable you are. good luck xx
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