He has left me with 3 kids oldest 7, youngest 6 weeks

Looking for some advice here, my partner of 3 years left the house almost 3 weeks ago and has left me with our son of 6 weeks and my 2 from a previous relationship. I just feel like a total numpty!! He wasn't helpin out and I was gettin so stressed tryin to do everything so it spiraled into a mini argument (and I don't want to as that was all I did with older kids dad) about him being sooo tired from his work and made a comment about my daughter that I didn't like (it wasn't what he said, it was way he said it). He thought we should have a break I agreed (for a few days break). He is now denying that I said that and he has moved to the neighbouring county, and he is trying to get accomodation and a job thro there. I don't think he is comin back as he was too quick to go and leave us. Please let me know your thoughts! (I have missed out a lot of this story as there is not enough time or space!)

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claire3009
Reply claire3009 4 months ago
Sounds about right. They have no idea what we go through and how tired we get its all about them isnt it x
Yep!! Spot on.
he kept tellin me 'why is it always about you?!'
the bloomin cheek of him!!
He txt the other day and said there was probs with our relationship from before Dean was conceived. What probs were these?! I've no clue and this could have been fixed if he had let me know 9 months before Dean was born!!! GRRRRRR
WillowTurner
Reply WillowTurner 4 months ago
I just think he is being really selfish (man trait me thinks!)
cherry on the cake is this isn't his 1st child either!!
Sounds about right. They have no idea what we go through and how tired we get its all about them isnt it x
claire3009
Reply claire3009 4 months ago
It sounds to me he is a maybe freaking out about the new baby and actually having a baby of his own.

Men can really take the P cant they? My fella just decides he's going out an will go, or will stay in bed all day.. Men huh xx
I just think he is being really selfish (man trait me thinks!)
cherry on the cake is this isn't his 1st child either!!
claire3009
Reply claire3009 4 months ago
u say he wasnt helping so u no u can do it on ya own cos u have been my ex went i throw him out all he did all day was eat sleep internet he didnt even look 4 work he was nasty to my son and stricked even thow my boy is autistic and has adha im just over 9 moth preg now and i think il get on better on my own i did with my first son and im reg disabled if he can say things like that then that shows me that he will treat the kids diff he will fav the baby cos thats his work is hard we have all dun it but beeing a parent is a full time job u never get to clock of no matter how tied u r u have to keep going i hope u do what is rith 4 u and your kids good luck
Thanks Amanda, thank you for your reply!
I think it will just be me n the kids from now on, better off I think!!
Good luck I have posted a reply to your 'labour and pain'
amandaallard
Reply amandaallard 4 months ago
u say he wasnt helping so u no u can do it on ya own cos u have been my ex went i throw him out all he did all day was eat sleep internet he didnt even look 4 work he was nasty to my son and stricked even thow my boy is autistic and has adha im just over 9 moth preg now and i think il get on better on my own i did with my first son and im reg disabled if he can say things like that then that shows me that he will treat the kids diff he will fav the baby cos thats his work is hard we have all dun it but beeing a parent is a full time job u never get to clock of no matter how tied u r u have to keep going i hope u do what is rith 4 u and your kids good luck
WillowTurner
Reply WillowTurner 4 months ago
Well can I just say I tend to bottle things up as well, The last straw was Fri 12th June he came home from work, just sat in the kitchen and without even sayin anything to me went to his bed!! I just about had a fit, gathered up the kids and went to my mums as the wee boy had a tiny bit of colic.
The argument started on the Sunday as I couldn't talk to him as I was too angry with him as he kept givin me lame excuses for why he was being that way.
I was just askin for more help from him, he kept coming back with nobody lets him do anything for Dean.
The thing that really sticks in my throat was he said "I felt under pressure as YOUR! daughter keeps telling me I'm doing it wrong"
He hasn't been thro to see any of us keeps sayin he has no money cause he got fired from his job when he moved out.
It sounds to me he is a maybe freaking out about the new baby and actually having a baby of his own.

Men can really take the P cant they? My fella just decides he's going out an will go, or will stay in bed all day.. Men huh xx
claire3009
Reply claire3009 4 months ago
Can I ask how far the argument went? what was said? Me and my partner have had several arguments about the same thing, him not doing his part. It woldve helped if I spoke up when something annoyed me rather than leaving it all till I just exploded with rage.

Has he been to see the baby, children or you?xx
Well can I just say I tend to bottle things up as well, The last straw was Fri 12th June he came home from work, just sat in the kitchen and without even sayin anything to me went to his bed!! I just about had a fit, gathered up the kids and went to my mums as the wee boy had a tiny bit of colic.
The argument started on the Sunday as I couldn't talk to him as I was too angry with him as he kept givin me lame excuses for why he was being that way.
I was just askin for more help from him, he kept coming back with nobody lets him do anything for Dean.
The thing that really sticks in my throat was he said "I felt under pressure as YOUR! daughter keeps telling me I'm doing it wrong"
He hasn't been thro to see any of us keeps sayin he has no money cause he got fired from his job when he moved out.
WillowTurner
Reply WillowTurner 4 months ago
Can I ask how far the argument went? what was said? Me and my partner have had several arguments about the same thing, him not doing his part. It woldve helped if I spoke up when something annoyed me rather than leaving it all till I just exploded with rage.

Has he been to see the baby, children or you?xx
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