Oh gosh, I'm exactly the opposite, I want a planned c-section this time, everything else you said i can relate to, but in my room there were 4 other people all on 2nd & 3rd babies all with sections and they said it was the best decision they had made, I do agree i didnt bond properly with my baby 1st few days I couldnt even hold her properly until she was 3 days, I hated it but i just dont want to get ill like I did last time. I had pre-eclampsia and was induced then had a 4 day on off labour my waters broken a 14 hour established labour with epidural (which they put in wrong 1st time OUCH) and then an emergency section due to distress. I've asked for a planned section this time and they tried to talk me out of it at 1st but once blood tests etc were taken they decided to agree I more than likely will need one as I'm high risk for absolutely everything. Just make sure that you tell them instead of listening to them you have to get your point accross because at the end of the day they are there to help you and if the stress is getting to you, you don't need it which they should understand make sure they know how much they have upset you and complain if you have to! good luck x
thanx chloe i can understand where ur comin from 2 as most ppl think am crazy 2 want 2 do it myself as im also what they class as high risk 4 weight bp etc but i had a meeting with my doctor on monday and shes happy 2 let me go it myself unless somethin changes and i have 2 have extra scans n tests but i feel more confident having her on my side atleast i just really hate the thought of section again n if i was 2 have 1 this time then i know i could only really ever risk havin 1 more plus i got secondary infection in my section and had a pp haemorrage n was really ill i hated everything bout it but i do respect ur decision my sister had 2 have a emergency section 1st time n elected for 1 with her twin boys didnt even want 2 try do it with them n i think medical staff should sometimes keep opinions 2 themselves n respect the mothers wishes hope everything goes well 4u tho hun xx
i hope everything is ok with your little 1 yes i know wat you mean about being upset over the c section i feel as tho i had failed and it actually stopped me bonding with my daughter properly and i feel as tho it was the reason 4 my post natal depression or a big part of it neway and i am dreading it happening again so much in fact that i feel this is the reason ive waited 4years 2 try again but i feel im older n more able to put my views across im even thinking of changing hospitals it has upset me so much but i have a appointment with a consultant the 15th of this month n depending on his views that will make me decide exactly what steps to take thanx 4 the support wish u and your little 1 all the best xx
Oh gosh, I'm exactly the opposite, I want a planned c-section this time, everything else you said i can relate to, but in my room there were 4 other people all on 2nd & 3rd babies all with sections and they said it was the best decision they had made, I do agree i didnt bond properly with my baby 1st few days I couldnt even hold her properly until she was 3 days, I hated it but i just dont want to get ill like I did last time. I had pre-eclampsia and was induced then had a 4 day on off labour my waters broken a 14 hour established labour with epidural (which they put in wrong 1st time OUCH) and then an emergency section due to distress. I've asked for a planned section this time and they tried to talk me out of it at 1st but once blood tests etc were taken they decided to agree I more than likely will need one as I'm high risk for absolutely everything. Just make sure that you tell them instead of listening to them you have to get your point accross because at the end of the day they are there to help you and if the stress is getting to you, you don't need it which they should understand make sure they know how much they have upset you and complain if you have to! good luck x
Hiya, I've just had my first and he was emergency C section and had the issues with heart rate and low oxygen levels. I'm trying not to think about next time and what delivery will be just yet, but the advice I got at the hospital was that if I wanted to try for 'normal' birth I could. I definately change midwife - maybe even make a complaint? She can't force it upon you, and when you're only 11 weeks she has no idea that you could go on to have VB fine. I'm already stressing about what will happen when we decide to try for another! Please don't feel low, you've got another little munchkin on the way, enjoy these first weeks! Silly midwives can bu**er off!
P.s I don't know how you felt about about your emergency c, I was gutted at the time and cried pretty much the whole way through (mainly cos I was scared!!) But someone on here called it 'a sunroof baby' which always makes me smile :) xx
i hope everything is ok with your little 1 yes i know wat you mean about being upset over the c section i feel as tho i had failed and it actually stopped me bonding with my daughter properly and i feel as tho it was the reason 4 my post natal depression or a big part of it neway and i am dreading it happening again so much in fact that i feel this is the reason ive waited 4years 2 try again but i feel im older n more able to put my views across im even thinking of changing hospitals it has upset me so much but i have a appointment with a consultant the 15th of this month n depending on his views that will make me decide exactly what steps to take thanx 4 the support wish u and your little 1 all the best xx
Hiya, I've just had my first and he was emergency C section and had the issues with heart rate and low oxygen levels. I'm trying not to think about next time and what delivery will be just yet, but the advice I got at the hospital was that if I wanted to try for 'normal' birth I could. I definately change midwife - maybe even make a complaint? She can't force it upon you, and when you're only 11 weeks she has no idea that you could go on to have VB fine. I'm already stressing about what will happen when we decide to try for another! Please don't feel low, you've got another little munchkin on the way, enjoy these first weeks! Silly midwives can bu**er off!
P.s I don't know how you felt about about your emergency c, I was gutted at the time and cried pretty much the whole way through (mainly cos I was scared!!) But someone on here called it 'a sunroof baby' which always makes me smile :) xx
as staceydo said, i would change my midwife, its your decision not the midwifes. Of course you can have a normal delivery after a c section unless there are major complications
thanx i am goin 2 try change my midwife i just feel really awful and low at the moment
i had my first appointment with my midwife on tuesday being just 11weeks and i left there in tears almost she basically was telling me because i had 2 have a c section with my 3yr old that i will have 2 have another she didnt even want to listen 2 the fact that i only had a c section because i had 2 be induced at 11days over and wen my waters broke their was meconium in my waters but i still laboured 4 13hrs until the doctors said my daughters heart rate was dropping n her oxygen levels were low i now feel so bad that i dnt even want to go 2 any further appointments and jus feel like doing it all by myself i just dnt know wat to do as it is myself n partner jus have enough to make a comfy life i cnt afford private but dnt want 2 go on feeling the way i do
as staceydo said, i would change my midwife, its your decision not the midwifes. Of course you can have a normal delivery after a c section unless there are major complications
Can't you change midwife? My mum had me c section and went on to have my little sis 18 months later normal birth xx
i had my first appointment with my midwife on tuesday being just 11weeks and i left there in tears almost she basically was telling me because i had 2 have a c section with my 3yr old that i will have 2 have another she didnt even want to listen 2 the fact that i only had a c section because i had 2 be induced at 11days over and wen my waters broke their was meconium in my waters but i still laboured 4 13hrs until the doctors said my daughters heart rate was dropping n her oxygen levels were low i now feel so bad that i dnt even want to go 2 any further appointments and jus feel like doing it all by myself i just dnt know wat to do as it is myself n partner jus have enough to make a comfy life i cnt afford private but dnt want 2 go on feeling the way i do
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