I there, This is baby number 3 for me. Is there any one out there who's older kids are giving them hassle and upset about new baby coming? My 7 year old is fine about everything, but my 9 year old is really hurting me at times. Its not only what she calls me am fine with that. At the moment I am a fat lazy lump! Its the telling people that I wont love her anymore, begging grandma to let her live there because she dont wanna be in the same house as the new baby. And the worst one wishing that the new baby dies. Its very upsetting, this whole pregnancy has been upsetting for me, what with the midwifes and false diagnosis i've been given. Now she starts upsetting me too. I could be here all day with what she's done and said. And I have tried allsorts to let her know I still love her because I do. Weve had one on one time and that worked for a week or so. But then Christmas day she started because the game I got her was'nt the one she asked for and I never listen to her. She broken half of her sisters toys, she's gone through our bedroom and used half my perfumes. Now I know what you are thinking! This is one spoilt brat who get everything she wants! But I can assure you I have never over spoilt my children. They only get toys on Birthdays and Christmas, If they start demanding things then we say NO! No matter what it is. But things like new clothes and shoes when needed they get them no matter what. But they get some pocket spend on a week end and they can buy anything they like with that. Even junk like a pot noodle! Yuk! But if they are naughty they dont get it or as much! and this has always been so. But now I am in a possition where I am stuck! Because if I dont give her some spend or half her spend because of her behavior shes giving me real problems. Like "Yell be spend the rest of MY money on the baby!" Shes even taking money from her younger sister. The rest are silly things like, wiping bogies on the wall, putting her rubbish in the cats litter tray, leaving her dirty washing in the middle of the floor and toys on the stairs, throwing her clean clothes on the floor and taking clean clothes out of the draws and throwing them on the floor. Melting crayons on the radiator, leaving the fridge door open. Sticking glue and paint on the curatins, carpet and clothes. Rapping things like bobbles, ribbon and cellotape round the cat, slaming door, screaming and shouting at me and her sister, nipping and biting her sister and also the things shes called me. We have never ever had any problems with her she has excellent school reports. Everyone she meets loves her, and says how nice she is. But over Christmas I got asked a few questions by the family as they have noticed a difference. But everyone has also said she will be fine once the babys born. The only things that have changed from me is I can get up and do Irish dance with her, But I cant go Horse Ringing with my 7 year old either. Is there anyone who can help me! O and by the way Daddy can do no wrong! She has no beef with him its just me and her sister and the baby! Thanx Claire