hi all just feeling really down at the mo,
me and OH hav been trying for nearly 4 yrs now,
had tests etc... mine came back fine but my partners sperm test came back with what he told me was low sperm count (he finds it hard) he told me that doctor told him it was prob just the time he took the test, and wen i asked him more he didnt really talk bout it, which i have put down to male pride so i didnt push him, however last night (2 months after test) he told me that the doctor said that 50% of his sperm were dead and the other 50% were on there last legs so to speak, now i am really confused i unterstand that it prob took him a lot of courage to tell me, but i dont understand why he couldnt have told me sooner because i have always said to him that i will be with him no matter what because i love him,
also the doctors not being very supportive he has said my partner should give up smoking which he hasnt done completely but has cut down a lot, but doctor doesnt seem to want to help us any other way,
im also confused as to what this means in terms of us being able to have a baby naturally
please would any1 be able to help me unterstand this a bit better? sorry for the long rant AF turned up this morning so feeling really down and confused :( x
Hey hun, definitely need to look at getting him some Zinc supplements... Sanatogen do a trying to concieve his and hers vitamin pack... might be worth a look.... I guess any vitamin supplement with Zinc will be good though. Cutting out smoking will make a big difference... as will not too much alcohol, healthy diet and a bit of exercise (though not too much). And keep the little guys cool - no hot baths etc.
Also does he drink tap water? ... there is a theorey that because there are so many women on the pill there is a lot of eastrogen in the water system... this cannot be filtered out at the water works and gets recycled into the system... meaning men these days have more female hormones (a possible reason why men are now more fashion concious) and also a reason why sperm counts and activity are dropping... you could try having mineral water rather than tap water... I don't know how true this theory is - but bottled spring water won't do any harm.
Hope all goes well for you...there is so much dr's can do nowadays for fertility,you just need a helpful dr,which isn't always easy,when we were trying my partner smokes and he did cut down,but didn't stop,also i asked him to take zinc every day which i think really helps. Have you thought about going to a private fertiltiy clinic as they are so much more helpful and understandin,then just your local GP.
imange the doctor telling you that your the reason that you and you partner cant get pregnant not only is it upseting for you its embarrsing, i in the same boat as your partner i have pcos and thats why its hard for me to concive, i see why you feel decived by your OH but its harder for men and i guessing he found it to hard to tell you, hes had to deal with this him self, i dont think you should fixate on why he didnt tell you ,he probley feels less of a man and hes had to feel thta way alone untill now, give ur OH a big hug tell him you will still be with him and now you both no whats going on you can tackle this proble together. think about him.
I do think about him and he knows that he is the most important person in my life and that i love him no matter wat the test results said, which i tell him on regular basis,
hes not on his own he has me to talk things through and he can tell me anything ,
we have had a chat bout this now and decided to be completely honest with each other, and it wasnt the fact that i was just angry with him for keeping it from me its the fact that if he had told me sooner then we couldve started things moving along with doctor a lot sooner,
but whats done is done me and OH are strong and will get through this together,
got appt wiv doc but not til next week cuz iv gotta be isolated for 7 to 10 days wiv this bloody swine flu so not much we can do at the mo til next friday lol xx
hi all just feeling really down at the mo,
me and OH hav been trying for nearly 4 yrs now,
had tests etc... mine came back fine but my partners sperm test came back with what he told me was low sperm count (he finds it hard) he told me that doctor told him it was prob just the time he took the test, and wen i asked him more he didnt really talk bout it, which i have put down to male pride so i didnt push him, however last night (2 months after test) he told me that the doctor said that 50% of his sperm were dead and the other 50% were on there last legs so to speak, now i am really confused i unterstand that it prob took him a lot of courage to tell me, but i dont understand why he couldnt have told me sooner because i have always said to him that i will be with him no matter what because i love him,
also the doctors not being very supportive he has said my partner should give up smoking which he hasnt done completely but has cut down a lot, but doctor doesnt seem to want to help us any other way,
im also confused as to what this means in terms of us being able to have a baby naturally
please would any1 be able to help me unterstand this a bit better? sorry for the long rant AF turned up this morning so feeling really down and confused :( x
imange the doctor telling you that your the reason that you and you partner cant get pregnant not only is it upseting for you its embarrsing, i in the same boat as your partner i have pcos and thats why its hard for me to concive, i see why you feel decived by your OH but its harder for men and i guessing he found it to hard to tell you, hes had to deal with this him self, i dont think you should fixate on why he didnt tell you ,he probley feels less of a man and hes had to feel thta way alone untill now, give ur OH a big hug tell him you will still be with him and now you both no whats going on you can tackle this proble together. think about him.
hi all just feeling really down at the mo,
me and OH hav been trying for nearly 4 yrs now,
had tests etc... mine came back fine but my partners sperm test came back with what he told me was low sperm count (he finds it hard) he told me that doctor told him it was prob just the time he took the test, and wen i asked him more he didnt really talk bout it, which i have put down to male pride so i didnt push him, however last night (2 months after test) he told me that the doctor said that 50% of his sperm were dead and the other 50% were on there last legs so to speak, now i am really confused i unterstand that it prob took him a lot of courage to tell me, but i dont understand why he couldnt have told me sooner because i have always said to him that i will be with him no matter what because i love him,
also the doctors not being very supportive he has said my partner should give up smoking which he hasnt done completely but has cut down a lot, but doctor doesnt seem to want to help us any other way,
im also confused as to what this means in terms of us being able to have a baby naturally
please would any1 be able to help me unterstand this a bit better? sorry for the long rant AF turned up this morning so feeling really down and confused :( x
just wanted to say it only takes one sperm.theres still hope i think the hospital can give him something.you can get fertilaid and fertility plus to boost sperm look online.he should also have a retest.even if sperm count is very low they can wash the sperm.dont know many details but you could look into it.good luck hope this helps
Hi,
Have not be in your situation before. There are things that your OH can do to help with his sperm quality. He can start by giving up smoking completely, changing his diet to healthy diet (alot of fruit & vegetables), taking zinc supplement etc.
hi thankyoufor the advice, he is trying really hard to give up completely and doin quite well at the mo,
have decided 2 put trying on hold now for a while cuz iv been told i have suspected swine flu which is just another thing to add to the list (it all seems to happen to me lol)
so gunna wait til im feelin completely better hopewfully if he gives up smokin completely and changes his diet (cuz he does like his takeaways lol) then things should improve thanks for ur advice, feelin abit better bout things now think its just havin swine flu has completely drained me and then AF turning up this mornin didnt help atall cuz im in agony wiv it lol
thanks again xx
hi all just feeling really down at the mo,
me and OH hav been trying for nearly 4 yrs now,
had tests etc... mine came back fine but my partners sperm test came back with what he told me was low sperm count (he finds it hard) he told me that doctor told him it was prob just the time he took the test, and wen i asked him more he didnt really talk bout it, which i have put down to male pride so i didnt push him, however last night (2 months after test) he told me that the doctor said that 50% of his sperm were dead and the other 50% were on there last legs so to speak, now i am really confused i unterstand that it prob took him a lot of courage to tell me, but i dont understand why he couldnt have told me sooner because i have always said to him that i will be with him no matter what because i love him,
also the doctors not being very supportive he has said my partner should give up smoking which he hasnt done completely but has cut down a lot, but doctor doesnt seem to want to help us any other way,
im also confused as to what this means in terms of us being able to have a baby naturally
please would any1 be able to help me unterstand this a bit better? sorry for the long rant AF turned up this morning so feeling really down and confused :( x
Hi,
Have not be in your situation before. There are things that your OH can do to help with his sperm quality. He can start by giving up smoking completely, changing his diet to healthy diet (alot of fruit & vegetables), taking zinc supplement etc.
I have never been in the situation that you are in but would just like to say I hope that you will be okay. Can't you ask for another doc? See what they say?
xx
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