abortions

I've had a abortion. I found out i was pregnant when i was stationed out in Iraq. I was only with my partner for a few months and us both being in the army we did'nt no if it would last between us. I had no home for the baby nothing. So i had a abortion. I still cry about it now i've had my Millie because i reailse what i've gave up. It breaks my heart. And i feel really sorry for these poor women who have these live abortions they must be in desperate situations and although its awfull we really dont know what circumstanes drive them to do this x So sad

Can understand where you are coming from. I had to stay in overnight and everyone was really chatty in the morning and I just didnt wanna be there (you had to eat or they wouldnt let you go). I was relieved but extremely upset at the same time such a terrible mix of emotions and people were laughing and joking it was awful. I think its natural to feel upset and guilty, I feel like something bad is going to happen to me because of it but if its gonna happen it will I guess and will have to deal with it and move on (how tho I really dont know). Good luck ttc hun, happy endings will be ours xx

Can understand where you are coming from. I had to stay in overnight and everyone was really chatty in the morning and I just didnt wanna be there (you had to eat or they wouldnt let you go). I was relieved but extremely upset at the same time such a terrible mix of emotions and people were laughing and joking it was awful. I think its natural to feel upset and guilty, I feel like something bad is going to happen to me because of it but if its gonna happen it will I guess and will have to deal with it and move on (how tho I really dont know). Good luck ttc hun, happy endings will be ours xx

I think this all epends on the person and the circumstances involved, it is such a grey area. I had to have an abortion 6 years ago, i was on the pill and got diarrhoea (i know, tmi). I hardly had a period whilst on the pill anyway so when it didn't come i just thought that was normal..then i got that feeling..the sort of intuition. The guy i was with was horrible, he went from being a normal boyfriend into a monster over night. He said if i had the baby he would hate me and the baby for the rest of his life, that he thought i had done this on purpose to 'keep him' ..er don't think so, and that it probably wasn't his anyway, then to add to it he said i would be an unfit mother and that he would go for custody!!! of his baby, which he said he would hate forever! I felt i had no choice, every fibre of my being wanted to protect my baby but the only way i knew how to protect it was to keep it from meeting him so i had a termination and it has affected me ever since. Every year when it would have been due i think about it's birthday, this year it would have started school, i see children everywhere and wish i had mine.
Now i'm married to a brilliant man and we are ttc, i miscarried last month and again, the guilt and pain all came rushing back thinking this was my pennance for the operation.
When i was at the clinic having the operation it astounded me that this was such a big deal to me and yet, there were girls there that looked like they were just about to go and get a pedicure or something equally as mundane, i heard one girl say 'yeah i'm here again, never mind though i'm out on the p*ss tonight!'
What do you do, advise them of what it may do to them in the future so they may have the baby but be completely irresponsible and have a child they don't really want or let them get on with it and they may suffer the consequences later when they really do want a family?
I don't think there will ever be a right answer to this.

i have always used tesco own brand and i gor my results in seconds and they were correct x gd luck in the future hun x

LOL!! We're not adding religion to this already hot debate are we ;) I believe that everyone should use their own judgement on this, many people would never do it regardless of the situation, and some would if the right set of circumstances arose (or wrong set of circumstances). I think people who have 3 or more abortions must be mentally ill in some way, for me once was enough and although the decision was right at the time it has never stopped affecting me. In respect of later abortions, many younger people dont even know they are pregnant as they dont have any symptoms (I was one of these) and some dont have the experience to understand what is happening to them until it is far along. However on saying this, I do believe that after a certain number of weeks it shouldnt be legal and of course isnt thankfully. The whole topic is horrible and upsetting, it brings up a lot of memories for many people they would rather forget, but cant. I believe in keeping an open mind and trying not to judge people as most people have a very good reason for doing something that seems so bad to others can seem like the only way out for others. xx

Aw I know, I worked with a 'Christian' who didnt like gypsy or indians. If they went to her church they would be 'saved' and that would be ok lol I actually found it pretty amusing tho it is sad how ppl can hide behind their religion, i think it is the cos of most of the worlds problems lol x

it makes me feel quite sick that people who describe themselves as christian and who apparently take their religion very seriously could behave in such an unchristian way, by persecuting those not in a position to defend themslves. x x