Poorly OH - I'm having a really bad time ... =(

thanks to all anyway. It's just that its never been as bad as it has been these last three weeks basically, and it is very very worrysome. I'm tired and worn out as it is, and I think I might have started some morning sickness now too, and then last night was the worst night yet. I just wouldnt know what to do without him, I love him so much.
I cant really talk to him about my worrys, because out of the two of us, I'm the one who knows more about it (seeing that I'm a trainee) and I dont want to make his situation any worse by worrying him that potentially worse things could happen. Its just that its unsettling to think when things like this can happen, and how long the ambulance is going to take to get here ... I just feel like crying and hiding away today.
I did pick my mum up and told her, not how bad it was but she didnt say anything out of place. I think she could tell how worried I was. She said I lost lots of weight and look pale and ill. Now the pale and ill could be morning sickness, but the loosing weight is again something making me think I might be putting my baby at risk. I really do try and stay calm and out of harms way, but I just cant when things happen like that.
Thanks for all the support tho... trust me, I will be pestering the doctors.

Oh hun I really feel for you, I don't know what it's like to have a poorly OH and be excpecting. It's true that stress is not good for you but that's only because you should be taking care of your self(and when people are stressed they tend not to). I don't think stress is related to miscarriage. Babies are normally unsettled after birth if they can sense your stressed at the time so if your calmer after birth your baby should be fine. I know it's hard not to worry but you have 28weeks before baby is due. So use that time to get ready for baby and help your OH get well if you pester the Doctors enough they will have to listen end explain that you are pregnant and worried what will happen after baby is born if your OH is still quite poorly. Sorry I've not been much help but wanted you to know that someone is thinking of you. I'm sure someone else will have more practical advise having experianced it themselves, take care of yourself x x x

Firstly thoughts are with you, I thought spending the night awake with me, my partner and our 4 year old all with very bad colds was bad enough, and its always our little girl who gets it first and then recovers first whilst where still feeling like cr@p! There has been research and evidence of stress affecting an unborn baby but most of that has been done after the 12 week mark when the placenta comes more into play (your baby lives of yolk sac for a while before that) and its the placenta that can really transfer hormones such as stress so for now at least you have a bit of breathing room to try to sort things. The good news is that they've found the most depramental kind of stress (yes there are different types) you can pass is the kind caused by domestic violence by a partner, stress from worrying although still not ideal is not as harmful as the former. And most still argue that its the first year or so of life outside the womb that truly defines them (how long there held/comforted and if their needs are met quickly enough and that their of course loved) You have every right to be worried about your partner and if your mother cant understand why you are worried then perhaps you should re-schedule her visit as (horrible as it might sound) she'll only compound the situation and make you feel worse as you've said. Good luck x

its very hard to say but i know that that baby is there unless something goes wrong in the womb.stress can put pressure on the baby and baby can get stressed out too but not to the point that you will miss carry. baby are stronger than you think. i think you need to talk to your partner about how you feel , although its difficult, communication is the key to all problems.as for your mum you need to play it as though there is nothing wrong unless you feel the time is right to be open with her without. after all pregnancy can be a lonely time and you need support all round you, even if its just a hug.maybe you can look into how to manage his illness while pregnant,go to your dr and seek advice. you are not a lone and there are always people out there to help. good luck hun. be strong. :) :)

its very hard to say but i know that that baby is there unless something goes wrong in the womb.stress can put pressure on the baby and baby can get stressed out too but not to the point that you will miss carry. baby are stronger than you think. i think you need to talk to your partner about how you feel , although its difficult, communication is the key to all problems.as for your mum you need to play it as though there is nothing wrong unless you feel the time is right to be open with her without. after all pregnancy can be a lonely time and you need support all round you, even if its just a hug.maybe you can look into how to manage his illness while pregnant,go to your dr and seek advice. you are not a lone and there are always people out there to help. good luck hun. be strong. :) :)

Basically, every since I started dating my fiancee I knew he was diagnosed with epilepsy. Since I'm a trainee in that field, I kinda know its not a big deal (or shouldnt be if treated accordingly), and up until now it wasnt, to be honest. Recently he started getting a lot worse though, and his doctors are just not bothered. I got him transferred to a different hospital recently, thinking things would be different and move forward but we were in and out with the consultant in like 5 minutes. I'm so frustrated.... I've been up all night now, because he's had a really really bad night, I called the ambulance here and I'm just worried sick. I got abdominal pains, a dodgy stomach, due to the stress, and cant get back to sleep now. I just dont want nothing to happen to him, or loose this baby over all this stress. Is it true that a lot of stress can induce a miscarriage? And also that your baby is going to be a little "nightmare" (i.e. very restless,crying more etc.) if you've been very stressed throughout your pregnancy? I know these first 12 weeks are so important, but I can literally feel the stress pumping through my body when things happen, not to mention the anxiety that goes with it lately. I just dont know what to do.I cant talk to my family about it, because they disapprove of the pregnancy anyway and my mum keeps making things worse by saying what a stupid move it was to get myself pregnant now my OH has gotten quite bad with his illness. Some days its fine others I think I wont be able to cope because I'm so worried for him. Even now I'm sitting on the computer my heart skips a beat everytime I hear a noise from the bedroom... I just wanna cry,but my mum is coming over for a week today and she'll just make things worse if she knows I'm worried and sad.