Help please - should I leave my job??

Thanks Ann hope you doing ok today. Only work 3 days at the moment as full time wasnt possible with the ME, some weeks are better than others so its really hard to be consistent. Also you know how it is some weeks you have a busy personal life and it seems I dont have room for work and home life. I am just so torn I want to feel useful, wouldnt have minded losing job when I was pg but its just all changed now. Gonna speak to the boss tomorrow after speak to my hubby :(x

hi rikki my advice is to get yourself out of this stress tank and concentrate on getting well,i think leaving work will do wonders for u, and the release of emotional stess will be paramount importance to your well being and your body, its great hub is so supportive, so u not under any pressure to stay, if u find u have too much time on your hands maybe alittle part time job 2 days a week or so may suit u.i really do think u have to put yourself and your baby to be as priority hun and concentrate on getting strong and in as good help as u can hun big hugs ann xxx

Thanks for this, I know what you are saying about getting justification and having people agree with your decision it would be a relief if someone said that it was the best decision and take it out of my hands! I feel so confused by it all at the moment, just dont know what to think. The guilt of not earning could cause a problem and we will be strapped for cash for a while so I wonder if the pressure would be more if I WASNT working lol!!! Thanks for answering, its such a tough decision I want to talk to hubby but his shifts are all weird at the moment. Will try to catch him when he gets back a bit later on and see what he thinks.I keep trying to think of ways to make money where I wont tire myself out so much, will have to think a bit harder!! x

I'll be honest with you hun, I most definitely think you should concentrate on getting well both psychologicaly and physicaly. It seems to me from your post that youknow this already but want your decision justified and reinforced but no one can do that really hun as only you know your personal circunstances and the impact that leaving your job will have on your life. In my opinion, if you think that you can make it work financially then go for it. Spend time relaxing and preparing yourself for when your body decides its time for a baby. I dont know too much abot ME but I am aware of how debilitating it can be and you deserve the best chance possible at being a mother. I also think that you will feel so much better for making the decision yourself without having it made for you. You are very lucky to have the support of an understanding husband, he obviously cares alot about your health and your future as a family. I know that ultimately, only you and him can come to a decision but I've given you my opinion hun and I hope it helps a little. Good luck whatever you decide xx

I have ME(an illness which causes severe fatigue along with a host of lovely other symptoms!) and have been ill earlier this year and had some time off work. Then got pregnant in July and was off again, have just had mc so, yes you guessed it, off work yet again. They knew I had ME before taking me on and are a charity dedicated to helping people in my position but its now getting silly. I was so gearing up for not having to work and concentrating on keeping myself well for when baby comes so now I have had a mc this has left me in a pickle of not knowing what to do. I am on a short term contract which they keep extending by a few more months and I feel the stress of the instability is making me more ill. I want to ttc straight away as am 32 and dont want to wait but its getting more stressful being at work, I wonder should I just quit and concentrate on getting well and having good health for when get pg again?? Also worried that stress will affect ttc as well. They have been really understanding at work but of course I wonder if they will have to terminate my contract and think if I did it first would it be better for me pshchologically? LAst time I lost my job i was really upset and I got really really ill with the strain(didnt know I had ME at that time just unknown debilitating illness) so I dont want to go down that road. Hubby seems supportive about leaving as he suggested it but we arent exactly loaded, really dont know what to do any ideas?? Please be honest!!