cant get her back into cot

Gurgle expert Thirza Ashelford says 'This is likely to be a tough one for you both. Your little girl has spent more than half her life sleeping in your bed but she is still too little to understand why she now has to move out! But I am sure you have that in mind already. There are various ways of doing this and you need to think which one will work best for you both. One way is to move her cot into your room, allow her to go to sleep in you bed as usual and then lift her when she is asleep and put her in her own bed. The problem with this way is that when she wakes up she may well feel frightened and will want to come back to you, you will have to be very firm and settle her to sleep again without taking her out! The advantage of having the cot in your room is that you can quickly get to her to calm her and she can see you are there – she also knows your room very well and will recognise its smells etc. If possible let her take one of your nighties or pyjama tops into her bed to cuddle as a form of comforter as she won’t have you any more. Once she is used to waking up in her own bed in your room you can start to put her into her cot at night rather than your own bed and then move the cot into her own room – by this time she may be able to choose some things that will go into her room and you can make it feel very special for her. Another way is to again move her cot into your room but put her straight in there at night so she knows she is going into her cot and not your bed. If you do choose this way you will have to be prepared to sit with her for some time soothing her off to sleep, again with some item of yours to cuddle. If you keep to this routine and are firm with her she will settle into the idea in the end and you can then move her cot into her own room as I described above.'

Hi I did the same with my little girl when she was ill, I took her to a sleep clinic and they helped a lot. It's so hard and heartbraking but I had to just let her cry in her cot and go out the room but if she was stressed a could go in the room and pick her up and comfort her then put her back in this took 5 days but I never give in as this would put you back to square 1, I didn't like to do this but was expecting my 2nd child and my little girl was safe in her cot.

Hi I did the same with my little girl when she was ill, I took her to a sleep clinic and they helped a lot. It's so hard and heartbraking but I had to just let her cry in her cot and go out the room but if she was stressed a could go in the room and pick her up and comfort her then put her back in this took 5 days but I never give in as this would put you back to square 1, I didn't like to do this but was expecting my 2nd child and my little girl was safe in her cot.

Hi I did the same with my little girl when she was ill, I took her to a sleep clinic and they helped a lot. It's so hard and heartbraking but I had to just let her cry in her cot and go out the room but if she was stressed a could go in the room and pick her up and comfort her then put her back in this took 5 days but I never give in as this would put you back to square 1, I didn't like to do this but was expecting my 2nd child and my little girl was safe in her cot.

Hi I did the same with my little girl when she was ill, I took her to a sleep clinic and they helped a lot. It's so hard and heartbraking but I had to just let her cry in her cot and go out the room but if she was stressed a could go in the room and pick her up and comfort her then put her back in this took 5 days but I never give in as this would put you back to square 1, I didn't like to do this but was expecting my 2nd child and my little girl was safe in her cot.

i'll let you know if i find anything :) x i think ill try puttin something like my tshirt that ive worn that day in beside her, might work lol x fingers crossed then :) xxx

jus because when she was teething she was gettin up durin the night and one point i was ill myself so i was so drained i just gave in n took her in beside me xx

hi,im in the same situation.my 16 month daughter is in my bed after having recurrant tonsilitus(4x) since december.i got so tired as i was getting up several times a night when she wasnt well,then she got over it and i got her back in her cot she caught it again.ive tried everything to get her sleeping in her own bed now but she having nond e of it!! she's so used to sleeping with me that she wakes up and cries like mad when im not there.if you find anything that works please let me know lol.xxx