arghhh men!

Its funny i came across your post, i thought i was the only one that felt like that, my partner is 29 with a daughter already so i am up early with her every morning and a baby now, i know exactly how you feel. Me and my partner have been to the point i was going to leave with arguing because yes it is so stressful but no one said being a mother would be easy. You have to understand he is up early and working all day, my partners excuse is always he is stressed from work he just wants to relax when he comes home, which yes it is understandable i dont expect him to come in and start doing house work, what you should ask is that once hes in and had 30-1hr to himself to relax that he gives you a little hand with eather sorting the baby while you do the house work or maybe even do a couple little things for you, it would probably be easier for him to deal with the wee one till you get done what you need to. Even ask him to give you a hand bathing. As for the feeds i breast feed so im the only on that can do it but maybe ask him to do just one in the night or TELL him he needs to start doing the morning one. If you are exasted try napping while the wee one is napping during the day that way you will feel abit better, but def have a word with him and tell him how upset you are feeling over the whole thing. One last thing my partner always moans at my that life isnt a movie which we all know but to have a perfect family it is up to the woman to do it all in all honesty

i no how u feel. my OH has 2 be at work at half 6 ao sometimes i do try not 2 ask him and he does do SOME things lol but hes says the classic comments like...i dont do washin up and u can sleep allday...my daughters nearly 2 and i can sleep allday..makes sense lol. and he doesnt bath our daughter either and only changes her nappy if he absolutely has 2 (if im not ther and shes pooed and he cant stand the smell lol) its just a typical man. u just have 2 put ur foot down. i nag alot and i dont take his sh!t. and wen u say u feel like ur losin ur love 4 him i feel the same some days and i think...life would ve easier if he wasnt here and i wouldnt have 2 make his meals etc...and some days i love him loads and i think...god wot would i do without u!...its weird. but if ur OH did go youd be gutted abet. its true wen they say u dont no wot u hav till u lose it. you just needa talk 2 him and get him under thumb!!! :D x

Have you tried sitting him down and telling him how you feel hun? Maybe run him through your day and everything you do and try to explain how genuinely exhausted you feel? Maybe give him the benefit of the doubt by gently saying, 'I understand that you might not realise how I'm feeling but ...' so that it doesnt come across as an attack and gives him the chance to 'realise' for himself a little. If you are putting in paid working hours too then its only fair he gets his act together baby wise, I certainly don't think he should be out with his mates and on the PS3 as much as he seems to be! Thats a bit out of order! He just sounds a bit ignorant to what work you have to put in all day and that you dont 'just sleep all day' if he is just ignoring your pleas and trying to take the easy road then you need to get firm with him. You need to think about what is right for you and baby and don't worry what other people think, older people have relationship problems as well as teens!! take care xx

confront him and tell him how you honestly feel! its the only way to change things. if he knows your that serious and upset with how he is he should change if he wants to make you happy. Dont worry what your family think as its your life and you have to live in this unhappieness. just dont tell your family if your that worried on criticism. Thats what id do hun, good luck xxx

i dont even no wats rong with me but i feel like a rant, my wick with my boyfriend is getting shorter and shorter everyday! we argue too much and i feel i do EVERYTHING and yeah he goes too work but when hes not at work he's eithr out with mates or on his ps3, he does no housework, does no nappies, no feeds, wont bath our baby, he plays with him or will take him for a walk in hsi pram, when hes already asleep, but i feel i do all the hard work, he wouldnt know how to switch the washing machine on if he tried, he 'doesnt do' dish's or hoovering. arghhhhhh. and my son has a 7am feed and my boyfriend has to be at work at 8am and as i drive and he doesnt guess what i have to do and he has the cheek to say ' but you can sleep all day'. for god sake i just want to strangle him sometimes, and even though he gets up at just after half 6 to get ready he wont do the 7am feed even if i ask him as i do all the night ones, and as were a bit low on money ive been going back to work mon-fri for a few hours for my dad, am so exhausted and i think im losing love for him, what can i do? i feel i wan tto prove people wrong as when i told my dad i was pregnant at 17 he was more worried bou tme and my boyfriend splittin up...i just want the perfect family =(