NHS frustrations

Thanks hun, fingers are crossed for an appointment this week... hubby insists if I ovulate then I'm not going for the scan as he won't use contraception then... don't dissagree with him!!! Looks doubtful that they will get me in anyway!!!
As for family... have confided in my sister, and she tells me my parents are onto it... didn't really want them to know, but anyway... my mum has ways of finding things out that I just can't fathom (I know my sister wouldn't have told her)... in a way it is a relief as i didn't know how to tell them we were trying and having problems, but they have more contact with my uncle they may ask a few questions on my behalf... so hopefully I'll have some well guided questions for the specialist. Fingers crossed!!! Am feeling much more positive today! I guess it will just take a few months or years but we will have our family eventually!

It IS an extremely difficult situation, but I think people would understand if you're clutching onto any means possible. Try and stay positive. Sometimes it really does take some time, and who knows what the real issue is. I'm sure you've heard it all before, and I'm not going to patronise you with it, I'm just saying try and keep your chin up. You will have a baby one day, I'm sure of it.
Also: I understand what you're saying re_ family and getting people involved you're not really close with. However, if your uncle is a good doctor he will understand how desperate you are and try and help you. Sometimes all it takes is for someone who's "in there" to press a few buttons. If you have that option there then make use of it. I know not everyone has that particular option or connections like that, however, I am sure that those who do, would make use of it, if they were in your position. I'm sorry times are so hard at the moment, but it will get better eventually, it always does. Keep your chin up and if you want to talk drop me a pm. x.x.x good luck

Hey hun, well I've done everything I can now... I just have to wait! X-ray openly admitted that they were "holding me back from falling pregnant" and were extremely appologetic. The fertility specialist has got them as far as putting my name first on the list. They claim it's due to staff absence, and will be speaking to a certain person who is back off holiday on monday... believe it when I see it... I will be ringing them on monday afternoon to harass them and will be insisting they ring around a number of other hospitals themselves to ensure they get me in this month... it may work, worth a try... Private is £370 and though hubby was quite insistant I go that route... we both feel it's better to save that money incase we need to go the IVF route... which I'm sure will cost us a as much as a house if we get that far!

Getting to the stage now where I may need to broach the suject with my family... my uncle is head of gyneacology in Brussels where they have a leading fertility unit... Don't like to ask family to help out with medical stuff as they are not "my" doctors and also don't really want them knowing we are trying/having problems... but then again it could make the difference! Besides I haven't been in touch much other than during family get togethers so feels a bit odd ringing up with a medical issue! Perhaps I'll save this one until I have something concrete to discuss! ie some results...

And no I haven't dropped any names at the hospital... I don't feel it's right try and get better treatment than anyone else simply because I have family that know what they are doing!

Thanks for your support ladies... it's just so frustrating as there really is nothing I can do but wait!!! I just wish there was something I could do the help ourselves a little in the meantime!!!

Time to look into private health insurance methinks!!! Hubby gets it through work in July... when he's done enough time at his current job... and I can get a reduced rate then... can't wait!!! Though considering starting a policy now already... so when baby arrives we are covered!!! May mean I can't stop work once baby is here to cover costs, but then again... I may not even want to quit work. Who knows.

On the plus side if we never have a baby we will be financially in a position to take several gap years and travel lots...

Hun Im so sorry to hear you're experiencing this.The NHS can be so slow and ignorant. what kind of relationship do you have with your GP? Sometimes they are able to push things forward a bit. I know exactly what kind of frustration you feel. My other half was dangerously poorly not long ago but because they didnt thought it was bad enough to go to hospital (its a bit complicated )they thought it would be alright for us to wait 3 months for an MRI and another 2 for the consultant appointment. they didnt give a thought that someones health was on the line not to mention job and house. I ended up sitting at the GP crying because we were desperate for help and literally begging for it. Being pushy only gets you so far with health care "professionals ". They hear it all the time because everyone thinks they deserve and need their health treatment first. After all health is a precious thing especially when something goes wrong. My advise is :book an appointment with your GP and stress how much you're being affected by them messing you around. Every health investigation has to be carried out under a specific time frame and manner. Your constant being messed around is not acceptable. Explain to him about them making u take precautions only to let you down. There are certain ethics they have to follow and I'm almost sure that by them making you miss possible ovulation each month for nothing is in breach as counter productive to your problem. I really do hope they start taking you serious and will help you accordingly! Xxx

Hun Im so sorry to hear you're experiencing this.The NHS can be so slow and ignorant. what kind of relationship do you have with your GP? Sometimes they are able to push things forward a bit. I know exactly what kind of frustration you feel. My other half was dangerously poorly not long ago but because they didnt thought it was bad enough to go to hospital (its a bit complicated )they thought it would be alright for us to wait 3 months for an MRI and another 2 for the consultant appointment. they didnt give a thought that someones health was on the line not to mention job and house. I ended up sitting at the GP crying because we were desperate for help and literally begging for it. Being pushy only gets you so far with health care "professionals ". They hear it all the time because everyone thinks they deserve and need their health treatment first. After all health is a precious thing especially when something goes wrong. My advise is :book an appointment with your GP and stress how much you're being affected by them messing you around. Every health investigation has to be carried out under a specific time frame and manner. Your constant being messed around is not acceptable. Explain to him about them making u take precautions only to let you down. There are certain ethics they have to follow and I'm almost sure that by them making you miss possible ovulation each month for nothing is in breach as counter productive to your problem. I really do hope they start taking you serious and will help you accordingly! Xxx

Hey hun, I can be pushy too, and I have certainly made myself heard this time!!! Need to be careful not to overdo it as I want them on my side. I phoned x-ray, I phoned my fertility specialist and got her to ring x-ray. Today I phoned both x-ray and fertility specialist to ask if they could get me in at a different hospital... and even rang about 6 different NHS hospitals to see if they could get me in (of course non of them could). What was interesting though is that the private hospitals won't do it after day 10 and also won't do it unless you are already on a course of antibiotics... due to risk of infection... and due to not letting it interfere with your ovulation date.

Hubby has said in no uncertain terms if I am ovulating I am not having the scan done... and I have to agree with him... it's either next week or it's not this cycle!!!

Just feel so frustrated with it all though, feel like I could cry... it just feels like I will never have a baby!

i am a rather pushy person so if there is something i want i will do what ever i can to get it done, if i was in your case i would just keep calling them up every week.and go see your dr and push him to do something to help. the thing with the nhs is if you do not push and make yourself herd you will not get herd and will not get any where. its a tough position to be in, but when you want something so bad you do and say what ever you can.even if you have to travell else where to get it done, then say that to them, don't wait for them as they are not in your position. good luck hun and stay strong. :)

try not to stress,i know the waiting doesnt help.hopefully monday youll be able to book and then youll start to have a goal to work to.tc