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sorta know how you feel. id got into my head that coz i was a week late, was feeling sick yada yada yada... did a test it was a bfn and then came on yday. i was upset and disappointed even though it would have been lousy timing- me and my partner aren't living together anymore and are still trying to get things back on track for the sake of our daughter more than anything. dont get mad at yourself for being disappointed hun but dont let it comsume you. good luck when you start trying hope it goes ok for you x x

Hey I just wanted to say that my bf would always say 'we dont have enough money for a baby' but we would a lot of the time have unprotected sex. We now have a 6month old baby girl and she has him wrapped around her little finger..she was wanted but we didnt think we would get pregnant as soon as we did so she was a bit of a shock. He is now even talking about having another one lol. I think men think more about the practical side of things and us women think about how much we will love a tiny little person :) Good luck for when you try after christmas xx

its cause he got this new job and he has a three probation like in most jobs, but its in the bag he hasnt got anything to worry about. but hes a massive worrier. but yes i do know what you mean. i think ill suggest using something everytime then there will be no probs or maybe ill just go selibate that should sort my head. lol. thanks tho everyone for helping me get my head straight. im just going to have to wait, and chill my self out. no more baby talk. im gonna stay off here till then coz i think coming on here just reminds me of it all. but as soon as we start illbe back. probably with loads of questions.lol

thankyou girls

see you soon. xxxxx

bless you i think whats happening is maybe in time he does want a baby and every time he doesnt use something you hope you are pregnant and hopes he now has decided that he wants to try for a baby,
but maybe he just gets carried away sometimes and if both sides didnt want a baby if one got carried away then the other would remind them 'if you get me' but whats happening with you is because you want it so bad you hope he does get carried away lol,
i do still think you should sit down and tell him its the last chat you want on the subject'so he doesnt think you are going to bring it up again in 5 mins'and ask him if he wants a baby if he says yes in the nw year like i said,ask why the wait as its just 2 months away and whats holding you back from doing it now.
me and oh are ttc our 2nd and would be very confused if he wanted to wait a few months x

I can understand totally where bellyboom is coming from. I think sometimes we are so desperate for something in our life whether it be a baby or a new house or a job, that we push for it blindly without thinking of the consequences. You are obviously really emotionally raw and you really do need to take the advice from teh caring ladies on here and talk to your OH - how would you feel if it was the other way round and he was pushing for something you didnt want without considering his feelings? Honesty has to be the best policy here either he wants to start trying or not and he needs to make it clear to you so you can be at peace. I too hope he tells you what his worries are and you work it out together, but pushing him into something he doesnt want right now isnt going to work and will make everything much worse than it is now. It could destroy your relationship if you let this kind of tension keep building, its not good for you and I can bet that you are very unlikely to get pg in this kind of super stressed state your body simply woont let you. Please please talk again with your OH, I really hope it all works out for you both xx

no its okay, i understand what your saying, we arent trying, but we dont always use protection. thats why there are posts from me saying i thought i might be. he does want a baby, but just wants to wait till new year to start properly. im just gonna try and wait till then its just hard getting it out of my head when weve had 'accidents' but it still doesnt stop him from not using anything. lol

hi i really dont want to sound nasty as i say this as it sounds like you are so desperate for a baby but ive just read some of your posts and most of them are asking people if you think you are pregnant and these posts are going back to 5 months ago
,you say your not trying for a baby because your oh doesnt want to try yet but you cant make so many mistakes with out accidently on purpose falling pregnant

i dont know wether you want to fall pregnant then tell you oh it was a mistake or whether both of you want a baby and both trying to say it wasnt planned

i do think you should sit down with your oh and say how many times you have thought youve been preg,and how much you want it,if he gets angry or it causes an arguement he obviously isnt ready for it and would be awful if you were to fall preg and he was pushed into having a baby

i do hope he says yes he wants one but from what you have said in alot of earlier posts im not sure
sorry to sound so nasty but im just giving opinion x

aw bless hunnie yh its only 9 n half weeks away so aint fare away it will fly by belive me u got crimbo.it took me n my partner 2 munths befour i got pregnent so it will happn hun.y dont he want to start till next yr?x