Have i overreacted/need advice

you have right not to trust him tell him to get stuffed your better of on ya your own and tell him to get on wiv his life with his wife

Ok Im sorry if this is harsh but one of the first warning signs is not meeting the family and friends in 2 years. I would not trust him it does not make any sense. He is still living with his wife and married - keep away before you end up getting further invovled in his deceit. Im so sorry if you have believed him but he has lied to you and kept you dangling on for as long as he could. Unfortunately it is the oldest trick in the book and has caught a few of us out over the years Im afraid. I hope you can see this for what it is and find yourself a great bloke its what you deserve xx

over reacted? more like under reacted! im in no way having a dig at you but this man sounds like hes messing you about. nearly 2 years together and he still not moved out even though they have split up? i defy this man to find a woman as understanding as you clearly are who would put up with this arrangement! its bit iffy you aint aleast met his friends although family might be tricky if he hasnt even moved out yet. if it was me id issue him an ultimatium to leave the house and to meet his very best mate aleast at some point soon. x x

Well i think no matter what his reasons he shouldnt be letting you down and if its over with his wife he needs to really cut his ties and leave..

at the end of it all you have a child and if its affecting you somewhere its gonna be affecting him!

I personally think he has no right to be ignoring you because in a relationship i would expect to spend birthdays, xmas and easters together after all these are special times of the year to spend with special people.

Have a right good talk and see where you go from there.

I dont think you over reacted at all x

I been with my partner for 2 years in december,we met through work and got together after i had my son, he'd split up with his wife a month earlier so at the start we took it slow plus the fact there's a couple of hundred miles between us. Last year we decided that we wanted to move in together but he needed to sort his house out with his wife first cos of money, i might add their still living in the house together well over the last few months every time we've planned to do something or for him to come down something always seems to happen and i get let down, we've never spent xmas,easter,bank holidays or his birthday together some has been down to the fact he sometimes works at weekends and also his wife causing trouble but everything came to a head this week as it was his birthday on tuesday and we had arrange to go to a holiday house for over a week but he only ended up spending just 2 days with us cos his wife wanted to sort the house out again!!! course it didn't happen so sfter he wasn't contactable on tuesday nite (his birthday)i drove home meeting him halfway as he said he was coming back with us for a few days but suddenly he gets a phonecall from his wife saying she wants to sort the house out finally!!! well i didn't take it to well and kinda said to him that i'd had thought that he was still with his wife and just using me, course he didn't take it to well and is now not talking to me. I'm so confused as he keeps letting me down and can't seem to get us a house even a private rent but he's met all my family, made plans for the future and can't see wat joy he's getting from it as we don't always sleep togetether wen he's here but i haven't met his family or friends. Have i just overreacted cos i've been abit down lately which he knows about or am i right in being worried sorry its so long. x