Hello,
After finding out that I was pregnant 7 weeks ago I have been over the moon ever since, although I was petrified of having a miscarriage I was able to enjoy the 7 weeks, every week looking up the transformation in my little baby and my growing body and counting down the days until I would see him/her.
I attended an early pregnancy clinic after being referred by my Dr as she was concerned about my symptoms and felt that I may be having an ectopic pregnancy, I had suffered severe abdominal pain and vomiting 1/2 an hour earlier. The pain had started to subside and I kept telling my husband that I didn't need to go to the hospital but he reassured me that they would just want to check things out and that he was not happy until I had had a scan and been seen at the hospital just to make sure everything was OK.
The funny thing was, as we drove to the hospital in the car and my husband had his hand firmly over mine telling me that I would be OK, I knew that I was, I really believed that everything was OK and although I knew my Dr had phoned ahead to express her concern I just knew I was OK. I don't think that I have believed in anything as much as I believed my baby was going to show up on that scan nestled tightly in my uterus.
However, it was confirmed that I had an ectopic in my right tube and as it was a live pregnancy the tube was on the verge of rupturing I had to have emergency surgery, the next couple of hours were a blur and 4 days later I was discharged.
Although I’m recovering physically I’m feeling such an overwhelming sense of loss that I am finding it hard to cope. I have a fantastic husband and support network but I still feel so alone.
I suppose I thought writing it down may help and listening to other people’s stories would help make me feel "alive" again.
I am so scared to try to conceive again as the consultant said that I have a slight increase risk of ectopic again and I can't begin to explain how scared that makes me.
PS: I am also finding it incredibly hard to deal with is the fact that the consultant said that the embryo was alive and quite large, I can't get it out of my head that had I have done something different the embryo could have made it to the uterus and would still be safe.
Thank you to everyones post.
It's coming up to two weeks now and I am starting to feel a bit better.
I'm just going to give myself time.
Thank you again.
Peach
hello! i have had 2 MC since 5th of june this year and i am currently 8 weeks 2 days pregnant and touch wood everything is going the way it should be. i went through the whole what if and i must admit i still do even though i am pregnant again. i fell out wit a couple of people (only doing there best) they would say "oh your young you will go on to have lots of babies" i thought well 1. you dont know that i will have lots of babies and 2. i dont want any other baby i want the one i just lost. i know your circumstancies (spelling) are slightly different but im sure you feel roughly the same. i had some extremelly low times and just didnt want to get up in the morning. im so glad you have a great husband who is there for you and i promise even though it doesnt seem like it now things will start to get better and more positive. im always here if you need someone to talk too!! Take care xxx
Sending all my love to you. Dont think that if you had done something wrong it would have made it, im sure you done evrything you thought was right for your baby and it was right! Fingers are very very tightly crossed for you in hoping that your next pregnancy is a normal one, im sure it will be!
Dont beat yoursef up about the doing something differently concentrate on feeling better and recovering and when your ready to try again ill send you all the baby dust in the world! Theres always people on here to chat to when your feeling down. Good luck xxxx
Sending all my love to you. Dont think that if you had done something wrong it would have made it, im sure you done evrything you thought was right for your baby and it was right! Fingers are very very tightly crossed for you in hoping that your next pregnancy is a normal one, im sure it will be!
Dont beat yoursef up about the doing something differently concentrate on feeling better and recovering and when your ready to try again ill send you all the baby dust in the world! Theres always people on here to chat to when your feeling down. Good luck xxxx
I'm so sorry you've been through this. You can rest assured that nothing you could've done differently would've prevented it from happening, it really is something that happens sporadically. There's always someone on here to chat to when you're feeling down, which I'm sure you will as you have to give yourself time to grieve and recover emotionally as well as physically. I really hope you're feeling better soon, it's good that you have such a supportive husband to help you get through this. I'm sending you lots of love x
Hello,
After finding out that I was pregnant 7 weeks ago I have been over the moon ever since, although I was petrified of having a miscarriage I was able to enjoy the 7 weeks, every week looking up the transformation in my little baby and my growing body and counting down the days until I would see him/her.
I attended an early pregnancy clinic after being referred by my Dr as she was concerned about my symptoms and felt that I may be having an ectopic pregnancy, I had suffered severe abdominal pain and vomiting 1/2 an hour earlier. The pain had started to subside and I kept telling my husband that I didn't need to go to the hospital but he reassured me that they would just want to check things out and that he was not happy until I had had a scan and been seen at the hospital just to make sure everything was OK.
The funny thing was, as we drove to the hospital in the car and my husband had his hand firmly over mine telling me that I would be OK, I knew that I was, I really believed that everything was OK and although I knew my Dr had phoned ahead to express her concern I just knew I was OK. I don't think that I have believed in anything as much as I believed my baby was going to show up on that scan nestled tightly in my uterus.
However, it was confirmed that I had an ectopic in my right tube and as it was a live pregnancy the tube was on the verge of rupturing I had to have emergency surgery, the next couple of hours were a blur and 4 days later I was discharged.
Although I’m recovering physically I’m feeling such an overwhelming sense of loss that I am finding it hard to cope. I have a fantastic husband and support network but I still feel so alone.
I suppose I thought writing it down may help and listening to other people’s stories would help make me feel "alive" again.
I am so scared to try to conceive again as the consultant said that I have a slight increase risk of ectopic again and I can't begin to explain how scared that makes me.
PS: I am also finding it incredibly hard to deal with is the fact that the consultant said that the embryo was alive and quite large, I can't get it out of my head that had I have done something different the embryo could have made it to the uterus and would still be safe.
i am sooo sorry to hear what has happened to you babe dont worry everything will be fine next time cause i have got my fingers crossed and wish you both all the luck in the world that when you get pregnantnext hun you will have a lovely healthy baby girl/boy in your arms if you need someone to talk to i am always here to listen hun xx
Hello,
After finding out that I was pregnant 7 weeks ago I have been over the moon ever since, although I was petrified of having a miscarriage I was able to enjoy the 7 weeks, every week looking up the transformation in my little baby and my growing body and counting down the days until I would see him/her.
I attended an early pregnancy clinic after being referred by my Dr as she was concerned about my symptoms and felt that I may be having an ectopic pregnancy, I had suffered severe abdominal pain and vomiting 1/2 an hour earlier. The pain had started to subside and I kept telling my husband that I didn't need to go to the hospital but he reassured me that they would just want to check things out and that he was not happy until I had had a scan and been seen at the hospital just to make sure everything was OK.
The funny thing was, as we drove to the hospital in the car and my husband had his hand firmly over mine telling me that I would be OK, I knew that I was, I really believed that everything was OK and although I knew my Dr had phoned ahead to express her concern I just knew I was OK. I don't think that I have believed in anything as much as I believed my baby was going to show up on that scan nestled tightly in my uterus.
However, it was confirmed that I had an ectopic in my right tube and as it was a live pregnancy the tube was on the verge of rupturing I had to have emergency surgery, the next couple of hours were a blur and 4 days later I was discharged.
Although I’m recovering physically I’m feeling such an overwhelming sense of loss that I am finding it hard to cope. I have a fantastic husband and support network but I still feel so alone.
I suppose I thought writing it down may help and listening to other people’s stories would help make me feel "alive" again.
I am so scared to try to conceive again as the consultant said that I have a slight increase risk of ectopic again and I can't begin to explain how scared that makes me.
PS: I am also finding it incredibly hard to deal with is the fact that the consultant said that the embryo was alive and quite large, I can't get it out of my head that had I have done something different the embryo could have made it to the uterus and would still be safe.
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