Having children in your bed?

My sister done this with my niece and now she is 4 and will not sleep in her own bed at all! They find It so hard now to all get into one bed.
I have never and would never do it. Its the only time i get to myself and id like it to stay that way.
I agree that motherhood or at least the first few months are tiring but you will make a rod for your own back.
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hey, with my 1st i would just give in and let him in my bed for a couple of extra hours sleep but as he got older my god did i regret it. he is now 15 months and after alot of hard work its only been 2 months since he goes asleep in his bed. the problem doesnt stay at them wanting to get in your bed in the middle of the night it changes to them refusing to go to sleep if their not in your bed. with my second she has never got into my bed once i refused to give in and dont want the hell i went through with my 1st!!! so in my opinion DO NOT give in and never put them in your bed. an extra couple hrs sleep is not worth the months of struggling to keep them out. xxx

As lovely as it is to cuddle your little one when your tired and don't wanna move - its not the best move. My son is 5 1/2 and only just sleeping thro properly in his own bed. This was due to circumstances beyond my control initially but once your little one thinks your bed belongs to them it takes years to pursuade them otherwise!

hiya my advice would be dont do it, i made this mistake with my daughter now she is nearly 3yrs old and does not sleep a full night in her bed and i have not had a proper nights sleep since she was about 10 months old xx

My eldest is nearly 16 and our youngest is 5 months...I have never had any of them sleep in our bed...My hubby is a heavy sleeper and he gets very hot at night so I have always worried about that..We often have them in our bed in the mornings for a cuddle and occassionally at night if they get scared or are poorly but it is always back to their own beds..I have never had any probs with them really.
I do understand about the early days when u are falling asleep feeding them, they have all spent their first 6ish months in a crib next to the bed..then we move it to the end of the bed then into their rooms..
I am relitively lucky in the fact that I am an insomniac anyway so don't get much sleep..which helped no end during the first few month..I take my hat off to those who manage it. Even me with my super powers as hubby calls em really feels it.
But back to yr point hun..I think u may make a rod for yr own back and there are some safty issues. But yes it is sooo tempting and I am sure every mum want s to just lay bubba down next to them an get some sleep. x

its a bad idea i know but i have found it helped in the past i dont smoke, drink etc and have never used a duvet it was a last resort and have only did a few times bt stopped cos i knew it wasnt as safe and she would get 2 used to it and probs end up staying there when shes older instead of having her own bed its easy for ppl to say dont bt when they jst wont settle and have tried everyting there is not much else u can do i totally understand where ur coming from x

Oh yes hun, thats the problem..when you're absolutely shattered you'll do anything just to get a bit of sleep! I know its hard when they're so tiny and you're so tired but I promise you, you will find it so hard to get your little one to sleep in his own bed as he gets older if you make it a regular thing. The first few months of motherhood are exhausting without a doubt but the sleepless nights dont last forever, as his tummy grows and he takes more milk he will start to sleep for longer during the night. I'm not saying dont ever have your baby in bed with you, sometimes its lovely to have them so close but if I were you I wouldnt make it a habit cause you'll be making hard work for yourself in the future! x

I know your advised totally against it but does anyone else find it 2 easy to have there baby in bed with them wen there jst not settling?! xx