is he scared or am i being selfish?

I had the very same problem with my partner so i kept quiet and kept all the excitment for when he wasnt around. he didnt tell his mum untill i was 23 weeks! it really hurt me, but he has come round a little now. maybe your partner just needs time to get used to the fact. dont push him, you may end up pushing him away just give him a little time n space. hope evrything works out for you 2 xxx

youre not selfish but neither is he just very young and probably needs some space right now to thibk bout it all. having kids is a major responsibility and hes clearly realised that. he might come round in time and be totally devoted to being a proud daddy. you'll be ok hun just make sure youve got plenty of support from your friends and family x x

You seem happy about the baby so congratulations, you are very lucky to have a supportive family. It will make it easier for you if your BF decides your pregnancy and baby is not something he can be part of. Try not to stress about your situation and hopefully your BF will come round. It sound's like from your post that your pregnancy wasn't planned (my first one wasn't either and me and my OH had only been together 8 months) so your BF is in shock. If it's not something that you want don't let him talk you into a termination it will be something you would regret forever unless you made the choice yourself. Remember though you boyfriend didn't ask to be a dad and you can't force him to be there for the baby if he doesn't want to be. Just remember to be clear with him that your not going to force him to be involved because that would be hurtful to everybody but this baby is going to be born if he's involved or not. Good luck hunny and I hope he come around in the end (they usually do, fear turns them into idiot's for a while) take care of yourself and keep us posted x x x

sorry im sure they do think the baby isnt real x

hi i would say enjoy your pregnancy as you sound like you want this baby,also most men who say they want their partner to abort the baby come round as its happend to a few of my friends and they are now just as good dads as my partner is,i think they even feel guilty when they see a real baby come from you,im sure they dont think whilst being in early pregnancy that the baby isnt even real,but i say stick to your guns like you said you have other support so wont be all alone good luck x

I'm sorry for what you're going through. One thing I want to advise you of first thing is DONT let ANYONE stress you out now. When I got pregnant first time round it was my mum who stressed me out ridiculously, and I know it wasn't good for me (I ended up losing the baby).
If you're having trouble making a decision, call Brook, they offer councelling and pregnancy advise for women under 25. I take it this pregnancy wasn't planned? This is what they deal with and can advise you on. Its free and it gives you all the options including how to deal with it on your own. Of course it would be better if he came round, but maybe hw won't. Just dont let him talk you into something you'll regret and that might break you. Be strong and you'll be rewarded in the end. Stand your ground! I wish you the best of luck. xxx

Congrats on the pregnancy!

In a way, i know how you feel, i was with my Ex partner for a good while when i first fell pregnant at 18! He didnt want the baby, and told me he'd leave me unless i had a termination! i really wanted the baby, but i was scared of being on my own! My parents begged me to keep the baby, and that they'd support me! but when they ask my OH why i was getting rid of the baby, he decided to tell them that it was me who didnt want it, and that he did! - I really regret for going through with the termination! Especially, as 3 weeks after he begged me that he wanted to start a family with me! After i refused after what he had just put me through, he upped and left!
Im not in a stable relationship with my Fantastic OH who cant wait to be a daddy! but on the other hand, it took him 4 months to actually talk about the baby! Purely because he was scared, and didnt know what to do etc! Once we found out we were having a little boy, he changed completely! He constantly talks to 'His lil boy' as he says, and tells me how he cant wait to meet him!

Men can be selfish, but do what you feels right! - i didnt, and im still hurting now for what i done.
I hope everything works out for you!

Good luck, and hopefully your OH will understand ! :) xxx

You are in no way being selfish and don't let anyone tell you different. My OH waited till I was in being induced in hospital before having a crisis and saying he didn't want to be a family, let alone we'd been together over 3 years and he already had a then 6 year old boy from a previous that we had at ours ever other weekend. I left him and moved in with my mum for 2 months and it was only after I started arranging a new place for my daughter and me that he realised what an !diot he was being and begged me to come back. I did as I do love him and I grew up without my dad there and wanted Emma to have hers and he's been much better ever since, we still had to work at it sometimes but its 4 years on and were secure and happy and expecting number 2 together. Although my mum has still thre@tened him with a gory injury if he acts like such an @r$e to me in the hospital again! I Love my mum, she's one old lady you wouldn't want to mess with ;) Tell him frankly how you fell about the pregnancy and what you want from him and if he cant handle it then like mumzieyumzie says give him some space and if he is really worth your time and energy he'll come back with an apology. x