Many women feel exactly the same as you. With a young baby to look after it’s common to feel too exhausted to even think about sex let alone have sex, and often there just isn’t time.
Postnatal depression and an underactive thyroid, can affect libido so ask your GP for advice about this. Sometimes physical discomfort down below suppresses libido, if this is the case ask your doctor for a check up to see if treatment is needed. Other times a loss of libido is because of an emotional block related to a difficult birth, or finding it difficult to accept your partner’s penis being in the place where your baby entered the world, and some women are put off sex by fear of another pregnancy.
Talk to your partner about how you’re feeling, and try to find time to be intimate together, without progressing to penetration. It’s hard getting into the mood when you’re worrying that your baby may need you at any minute so make use of offers to baby-sit.
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my son is 5 1/2 months old and i cant be bothered with sex either my boyfriend thinks its him but he has a child with another women whom he still talks to and also has been exchanging rude pictures with it puts me off having sex with him as i think there could be something going on between them though he says there isnt
Hi there I felt the same too. My hubby would go to work and I was looking after our daughter, when she went to bed he wanted to cuddle up and flop all over me, I told him to leave me alone as I felt than when she went to bed it was MY TIME to relax and not have someone clinging to me. Hubby was abit worried that I had gone off him but I said and explained everything the way I felt as I lost confidence in myself too. (I was smaller before our daughter) so that was playing on my mind too.
However it does get better she is 14mths now and we are trying for another baby so he will have to go through it all again lol....Or maybe it could go the other way lol. xx
im 33 weeks and i hate having sex it just does not excite me anymore i just lay der while he does his thing. it really gets on his nerves and we argue alot about it sometimes i don't even like to kiss him so for some reason or another he thinks dat im seeing some1 else (well hes only 19 so i kinda understand he still young) so i had to explain to him its just my hormones playing up and in a couple of months hopfully it would have come back.
Hi there I felt the same too. My hubby would go to work and I was looking after our daughter, when she went to bed he wanted to cuddle up and flop all over me, I told him to leave me alone as I felt than when she went to bed it was MY TIME to relax and not have someone clinging to me. Hubby was abit worried that I had gone off him but I said and explained everything the way I felt as I lost confidence in myself too. (I was smaller before our daughter) so that was playing on my mind too.
However it does get better she is 14mths now and we are trying for another baby so he will have to go through it all again lol....Or maybe it could go the other way lol. xx
I was alright with having sex until I went back to work when lily was 8 months old. now I just can't be bothered. the bloke says I must be getting it elsewhere even though deep down he must know I'm not- where would I find the time?!
Oh forgot to mention I do have an underactive thyroid mentioned in the exert advice but I feel that I can only use this excuse so many times.
Same for me. I gave birth to my 3rd boy last November. Really not interested in sex at all. I have gone through the motions probably 4-5 times since the birth but really more for hubbie than me. he is really understanding but I did it because I didn't want him to feel totally rejected. If he knew this is why I did it he would be devastated but I just can't muster the enthusiasm. Sooooo good to talk about it. Gossip of my family is that my cousin and his wife have not been intimate since the birth of their child. I really feel for them as there is no understanding of how the mother feels. Unfortunately I live some distance away and cannot talk to her about it. Luckily her hubbie (my cousin) loves her to bits and is biding his time.
Hi, Yes i know what you mean my little boy is 10 months now and i'm just not interested in sex, yes i make the effort every so often to keep my partner happy, but i feel awful cause i'm so tired from working and then got baby to feed, bath and play with aswell as make us tea and dinners for next day. As i say i do make the effort but sometimes i'm just so tired and he'd be happy for it every night where as i just want to curl up and sleep (die. I am trying for his sake and hoping that the urge will come back i'm hoping cause the guilt trip of "if we were trying for another we would be doing it more" is really annoying me. Sorry had that building up for weeks x
IM THE SAME MY DAUGHTER IS 1 IN NOV AND I HAVE LOST INTEREST IN SEX ITS NOT MY PARTNER IM JUST FEEL I DONT HAVE TIME FOR ANYTHING ANYMORE WORKING FULL TIME AND SO TIRED IM STUCK IN A RUT AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO CONSIDERING GOING TO THE DOCTORS NEED HELP
Completely off sex at the moment - I'm 37 and 16 weeks. My partner is totally understanding, but is mentioning it more and more, which tells me he is getting frustrated! I have tried a couple of times, but the last time I actually experienced pulling aches in my abdomen towards the end - which worried me so much I haven't been able to try again... plus am awesomely tired all the time. The OH is just going to have to put up with it for a bit I think - but will try again when I feel more able...