37 weeks - and struggling!!!!

HI, I'm sorry to hear you're having issues. I understand where you're coming from in terms of the fertility issue, however, I doubt, that someone who has gone through fertility treatmeant for 7 years then is extremely unsupportive until even now. I know that trying for a baby and actually being pregnant are two completely separate things, but your husband should be ashamed of himself, firstly for making you believe for so long that he wanted a baby and then cowardly ignoring the fact when it happens. Yes it might have been a shock, and yes it might have been unexpected, but thats no excuse, and its going to make your situation and pain SO much harder. Please think through whether you want that person in your life when your baby is here and whether you need that stress during labour and when your getting up in the night etc. I wish you all the best of luck with your wishes for induction. xxx

Hey I hope you get the induction if you are in severe pain. I do have to say though that I do not know why you still have that excuse of a husband/father in the same house as you especially when he is not supporting you. I would get rid and enjoy the last few wks of your pregnancy :) x

Hi! We had been having fertility treatments for 7 years and he was fully supportive and completely part of it. Up until last year he had wanted children and everything was fine. If I had known or even suspected I would have put a stop to it sooner. The thing is, after 7 years you don't expect anything to happen so I cancelled the IVF the week before we were about to start and decided to focus purely on our relationship! Baby was created after champagne cocktails on my birthday! I'm seeing the consultant tomorrow so I'll update with any progress. Thank you for your support xxx

If they don't agree with inducing you then they won't do it! I can completely sympathise with you on the SPD I suffered badly with it, especially the second time around and have only just got better 5 1/2 months after the birth. Can I ask, why were you having fertility treatment if your husband didn't want kids? I hope everything works out for you x

hey

im really sorry to hear that everything isnt rosy... especially as youve been trying fertility treatment for so long, youd have thought he would have been happy when it happened accidentally...

i think if your having issues with SPD and also emotional issues that the doctor would probabily look into you having an induction a bit early... if baby is happy and healthy i doubt it would be an issue and would be harder on you and baby if you were to take it to full term...

i hope everything works out and that hubby comes around. or that you manage well on your own and im sure youll have a beautiful babs xx

steff

Hi everyone, I'm 37 weeks and am struggling with SPD (Symphsis Pubis Dysfunction). I also have an emotional issue - my husband doesn't want children (Baby was a very unexpected accident after 7 years of fertility treatment!) so I have no support or affection from him despite him still living with me. I have asked to see my obstetrician next week to discuss an early induction at 39/40 weeks if baby hasn't arrived - partly because of the SPD and partly because each week is becoming more stressful and anxiety ridden because of my husband. Our situation is complicated and not easily resolved. Do you think I am doing the right thing asking to be induced before 42 weeks? Sara x