Is it ok for a todder to have milk during night?

Gurgle expert Thirza Ashelford says 'First of all I do wonder why her bedtime is so late? It may make a big difference to her if you can introduce an earlier bedtime with a really good routine to get her off to sleep, say by 7pm. If she wakes after 4 hours or so this will only be 11pm and you will probably still be awake enough to spend the time she needs to wean her off this feed – which she really shouldn’t need by now. I can completely understand how you must feel at 3am and how much easier it is to give her the milk as you know she will then sleep until 9am! However, although she will come to no harm by having a milk drink at 3am it is not the best of routines to be in! The other thing to look at it is her daytime routine. At 14 months she will be becoming far more active now so plenty of opportunities for exercise indoors and out are really important, find things for her to do that will really tire her out as well as develop those large muscle groups – swimming is a great one for that! What is she eating during the day? Is she getting enough carbohydrates to give her the energy she needs for all the growing she is doing? What about her last meal of the day – when is it and what does she have? Try to make it something that will keep her satisfied as she starts to wind down for the night – talk to your health visitor about this as I do not know her weight or her birth history so advice on her dietary needs is really better coming from someone who knows her well. If you take a good look at her all round development and routines I am sure you will see how you can adjust her day to make her night time more peaceful.'

i think its up to the parents,and like everyones said,its harmless and doesnt bother them,so i think its fine! not worth refuesing to give them a bottle and having midnight tantrums over is it really....

my son is almost 3 and still occasionally wakes wanting a bottle of milk and i just give it to him he goes straight back to sleep with it it dont do any harm!

I have a 14 month and all I do with him is put him to bed with his milk and he falls asleep and then just before I go to bed I fill it up and he drinks it in the night and doesn't disturb anyone. I always put the bottle in the same place in his cot. My health visitor says this is fine to do I tried the water etc and it didn't work, this way we all get sleep lol.

I have a 14 month and all I do with him is put him to bed with his milk and he falls asleep and then just before I go to bed I fill it up and he drinks it in the night and doesn't disturb anyone. I always put the bottle in the same place in his cot. My health visitor says this is fine to do I tried the water etc and it didn't work, this way we all get sleep lol.

Both my daughter had milk at night untill they desided to grow out of it. they still take a cup to bed but 9 times out of 10 it is still full in the morning. I am not worried about it.

my daughter did this till she was 2. over a period of about 4 months i gracdually decreased the amount of milk she had in the bottle, till in the end she didnt even wake for it.

I have the same with my son who is 15 months he wakes around 3-4am most nights for his bottle. My health visitor said it wasnt a problem but did needed to try and get him out of the habit if i could but only when had he time to devote to doing it. I have a newborn at 5 weeks so, not quite ready to try. It can be normal for them to stil wake in the night up to 18months old. I think if you try to change the routine it may help and you have to try percivier with not giving her a bottle in the night but that is easier said than done as i well know. Its just what ever you find easiest i think.
good luck x