Sex drive problems

Hi I am so upset, my husband and I are struggling to enjoy sex and have been ever since baby was 2 months old. noy She is 4 months . I think we probably started too early but I know he wants to have a lot of sex so felt I should make the effort. Not sure now what I can do as he has commented that it is a bit crap. also want to know if anyone else has had some libido and lost it again. I feel like I want to and then end up letting him down half way though . He has tried to be patient but basically thinks it is all in my head and I need to sort it out myself! Very frustrated/angry!!
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nessandjon
Reply nessandjon 4 months ago
hiya! i had the same thing, during pregnancy, we were only having sex about once a month, i just didn't feel like it, my little girl is 8 and halfs months now, we didn't have sex for 2 months after and it's only been about 2 a month since then, i just dont want it, but he has quite a high sex drive so would like it at least 2 a week! from what i've heard it's quite normal, but i just want to get back to normal now! i've told him all this and he says he understands too but trys it on pretty much every other night, thing is, it makes you feel guilty that you keep saying no, it doesn't help if you feel pressured to try and get back to normal sooner. it's not on though saying it's a bit crap, thats out of line. x
cathbonelucy
Reply cathbonelucy 4 months ago
i was ment 2 say he wouldnt anyway
Will remember what you said next time he starts talking shit!!! although he is denying it now . heat of the arguement etc... I think I will try being stronger and wait until I really really feel like it . I shouldn't compromise on this one!!
cathbonelucy
Reply cathbonelucy 4 months ago
That's what babies do I'm afraid!!! Are you breastfeeding? Apparently that affects yr libido because of the hormone produced. I agree with Kate - get him a doll.
I am breastfeeding and have discussed it with him. he says there is no pressure for me to have sex but then tries it on nearly every night . I think I should take a stricter line with him . feel a bit stronger thanks for comments xxx
Monkeymoo
Reply Monkeymoo 4 months ago
That's what babies do I'm afraid!!! Are you breastfeeding? Apparently that affects yr libido because of the hormone produced. I agree with Kate - get him a doll.
Leahsmum
Reply Leahsmum 4 months ago
i was ment 2 say he wouldnt anyway
Leahsmum
Reply Leahsmum 4 months ago
id slap my OH if he said that 2 me! i wouldnt anyway because he knows sex gos 2 cr@p when we have a baby lol its normal (is 4 us anyway) we didnt have sex 4 about 7months with my daughter and when we strted 2 again it was great just like before! our sex life has gone 2 cr@p now and itl prob be like this till my babies about 6months! lol and he knows that and doesnt make a big deal out of it. your OH needs 2 understand a baby changes your sex life alot!!! and it takes time 4 it 2 come back!
cathbonelucy
Reply cathbonelucy 4 months ago
Thats really lovely of him to say sex is a 'bit crap'. What a great way of seducing you into bed! What planet is this man on? Buy him a blow up doll! x
Ha ha maybe I should. I think he is in his own little world trying to understand but takes no responsibility and as a result as you say is not very effective on the seduction front. I just don't really know where to take it from here though other than not having any sex whcih is not my ideal solution.


LeahKaur
Reply LeahKaur 4 months ago
i agree with kate,thats a really selfish thing to say...he tells you sex is cr@p and then tries to tell you its all in your head? ha!
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