Teenage Dad

I will be 17 when i have my baby in july. my boyfriend is in uni and still going through with it.. he should still do college and if you can both support the baby and you both want the baby then i say go for it. he wont miss out that much

it sounds to me that deep down he does want to be a good daddy to his baby but he is also scared as its a big responsibility. On the other hand he shouldn't be telling you one thing, then another because that's not fair on you either. you need to consider how YOU feel right now and do what's best for YOU and no matter what you choose to do I am sure he will be right behind you xxx

i think the best thing you can do in this situation is 2 make sure that what ever desision u make is 100% your own. when i 1st found out i was pregnant i was so confused being young an was planning on goin 2 college after 6thform an when your confused u feel like getting every1 elses opinions will help but 4 me i think it made it harder 2 make the decision bcos i think know matter what people r gonna have different ideas of whats best. you'll get some telling you you should "get rid" and some sayin u should have the baby so you're always bk at square 1 in terms of making a decision. what i did was just forget 4 a min what my partner wanted what my parents thought was best and and my friends and listend to my heart an that told me to keep my baby, and now looking back i cant beleive i considered the other option. at the beggining you're hormones are all over the place but becoming a mum is something u get used 2 as the pregnancy gets further on. dont make the decision based on what any1 else thinks is right u might feel confused now but im sure you'll make the right decision FOR YOU!! x x

Im 16 and had my baby 5 months ago. My ex (baby's *dad* so to say) has never wanted anything to do with me o the baby since i found out i was pregnant. a little different to your stuation i know-but sometimes hearing other things help. i had my beautiful baby girl in august last year and ave loved being a single mum! you dont have to share the special treasure with anyone! i have still managed to stick wth my education-going to sixh form during the week and spending my weekends withmy baby. i cantthink of life without her now. it is your decision though-if i had let my ex decide-then i wouldnt have my baby now-and i couldnt imagine that! do what is best for you-you and the baby are most important right now. i hope all goes well! xx

My little boy wasnt planned and when I fell preg with him my boyfriend was still at Uni. He was 22 at the time so a little bit older. He told me he didnt really think he was ready but he would stick by any decision I made but he also said he was going to work really hard to finish uni so he could provide for his new family which he has done and we now have baby no.2 on the way. I know he feels proud of himself as he certainly should do. I'm not telling you what you should do but it would be ideal if your OH stuck with his college it will be a proud achievement for him. Yes its hard work looking after a baby when he's at college everyday but think of the benefits in the future!!! Good luck with any decisions you both make xxx

My Ex (The Baby's Dad) Doesn't Want To Get Involved With The Baby But I Am Still Doing What I Want To. If You Want It, Then Go For It Don't Listen To Anyone Else But Just Make Sure Uu Have Ur Friend's And Family's Support. x

I agree with Stacey - what do YOU want? It is YOU who will be living with this decision ultimately.

You both have to have an adult (no offence if you are both teenagers, it's terminology not age I mean) conversation about what this REALLY means. Having a child isn't a party, it's not a decision to be taken lightly. There are serious consequences to you and your boyfriend for the rest of your lives AND the life of your future child.

Not going to college because he is going to be a Dad is a silly idea. He needs to think of the future - going to college is going to enable him to provide a better life for him, you and your child in the future. Sure it may be a tough first few years, but ultimately going to college and securing a good career/life is worth it in the long run.

I had a termination and I thought long and hard about the reasons why I should and why I shouldn't. Do yourself a favour and do a pros and cons as to why you should keep this baby. Consider the impact on your's and the baby's life.

Being terrified is NORMAL for most of us when pregnant/expecting. The reality is that this is a BIG DEAL and not being terrified is probably a bit gung-ho! :)

Being a teenage dad doesn't mean he won't be a GOOD dad! I hope you guys come to a mutual agreement that suits you both now and for the future. Good luck xx

He needs to grow up and fast! I'm very harsh and wouldn't accept that kind of dittering about from my partner at all. How dare he tell you what to do about your baby!!! you decide for yourself and let this fool make his mind up. You don't need this from him at all.