Not sure whether to be a stay-at-home mum.

My friend has just had a baby and doesn't know whether she wants to return to work. She loved her job but feels as if she wants to be a full-time mum now. The problem is her husband wants her to return as she said she would when they were talking about whether to have a baby and she feels really pressured. What does anyone think about this?

I think that your friend should be a stay at home mum if that's what she wants. She should not feel pressured by her partner and he has no right to make her feel that way. I am a stay at home mum and I wouldn't miss a single second with my little boy. JUst tell her to remind her partner that if she goes to work they going to have to pay child care anyway. Tell her to do what her heart says not what he says.

Whilst i was pregenant me and my husband talked about me staying at home or returning to work for a few hours a week.
I stayed at home for 9 months with my daughter then returned to work for 22 hours a week, within 6 months i'd gone back to over 40 hours a week. I love my daughter dearly but i also enjoy working. I can understand both sides of the coin here. Your friend probably fels guilty that she's going to leave her baby, but she neeedn't. Providing for a child is more that just staying at home with them, her husband may also feel envious that she has a choice to stay home, i know my husband did. They need to sit down and discuss all the reasons behind the choices they want, your friend could always try going back and see what happens. Whatever they decide they need to do it together, get this wrong and it'll crop up in every argument after. All the best to her, she's a great mum for wanting what's best for her baby whatever she decides.

I think it's unfair of your friend's husband to put pressure on her; they should be a team and if she really wants to stay with her child, she should be allowed to. Being a mum is the most important and rewarding role there is and she should be proud of her decision.