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How can MIL be so cold?

Hi Girls, So OH goes to see his mum today to tell her about our BFP and she basically ignores what he has just told her and faces the wall!! Then changes the subject!! I knew she wouldn't be happy cos she is always saying how we would be silly to have another baby but i expected some kind of reaction, even a bad one would have been better!! We didn't tell her we were ttc because we knew she wouldn't approve but to have no reaction to her having a new grandbaby just seems so cold. She loves my girls to death and apart from a couple of tiny points i can't really fault her as a nan but right now i am very disappointed in her reaction. OH came back in a strange mood too and although he hasn't said i'm guessing this has really upset him too. We really want this baby and her attitude is spoiling what should be a really happy time for us. Thanks for listening xxx
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Anonymous
Reply Anonymous 4 months ago
Thanks for all the responses girls. MIL is coming to see my girls on thursday so we shall see what happens xx
grumpybumpy
Reply grumpybumpy 4 months ago
hey hun

sorry for the reaction you got from your mil... they can be funny things... my NOW X but a couple of months ago parter and i told his mum about me being pregnant and she seemed ok apart from telling us e were stupid and asking how we would afford it... (we both work full time) but then banned me from the house and i became.... "THAT GIRL" when she spoke about me... he moved in with me which made it wors... then she said something to him. he decided bump wasnt his and moved back out and is now living back with her and hasnt spoken to me since... we have been friends for 15 years so it is a horrible feeling. and im afraid i do blame her..

your other half is prob feeling horrible about the reacotiuon as its his mum and its hard for lads to separate themselves somtimes... you two will be fine though and im sure shell get over it in the end... shes just being jealous about what you two have got...

hugz
cxxx
Ah thanks hun, yes they are funny things! How dare your exes mum say something to him that would make him think baby's not his!!??

I had two kids from my previous marriage when i met my current partner. We got pregnant with number 3 in 2007 and she was not happy. She did say something to him about getting tied down and taking on step-children - thankfully he didn't listen and decided to go with his own feelings! THANK GOD!

I don't know where they get off on acting this way!

My eldest son is 11 and it's taught me not to ever be horrible to any of his future girlfriends - you have to accept your child's partner no matter what your feelings are.

Lisa x
dungeonblond
Reply dungeonblond 4 months ago
mine was the same with number 4, she didn't mention a word about it for ages. The first time i was alone with her she just said, oh you'll probably get really big and that's a problem! For the record i am size 10 so hardly obese! She didn't congratulate me at all. The next time i saw her i challenged her and she completely backed down and made excuses for her bad behaviour. Since then she has been supernan and can't do enough for us - which isn't like her!

I have come to the conclusion that some mums are jealous of their son's partners and i know my MIL likes to be centre of attention and she can't be when i'm pregnant!

I quite enjoy challenging her, we have lots of run ins! She's a bitter old woman who drives me nuts!!! It's a shame as i've never met such a weird person, unfortunately you can't choose your family!!
hey hun

sorry for the reaction you got from your mil... they can be funny things... my NOW X but a couple of months ago parter and i told his mum about me being pregnant and she seemed ok apart from telling us e were stupid and asking how we would afford it... (we both work full time) but then banned me from the house and i became.... "THAT GIRL" when she spoke about me... he moved in with me which made it wors... then she said something to him. he decided bump wasnt his and moved back out and is now living back with her and hasnt spoken to me since... we have been friends for 15 years so it is a horrible feeling. and im afraid i do blame her..

your other half is prob feeling horrible about the reacotiuon as its his mum and its hard for lads to separate themselves somtimes... you two will be fine though and im sure shell get over it in the end... shes just being jealous about what you two have got...

hugz
cxxx
dungeonblond
Reply dungeonblond 4 months ago
mine was the same with number 4, she didn't mention a word about it for ages. The first time i was alone with her she just said, oh you'll probably get really big and that's a problem! For the record i am size 10 so hardly obese! She didn't congratulate me at all. The next time i saw her i challenged her and she completely backed down and made excuses for her bad behaviour. Since then she has been supernan and can't do enough for us - which isn't like her!

I have come to the conclusion that some mums are jealous of their son's partners and i know my MIL likes to be centre of attention and she can't be when i'm pregnant!

I quite enjoy challenging her, we have lots of run ins! She's a bitter old woman who drives me nuts!!! It's a shame as i've never met such a weird person, unfortunately you can't choose your family!!
hey hun

sorry for the reaction you got from your mil... they can be funny things... my NOW X but a couple of months ago parter and i told his mum about me being pregnant and she seemed ok apart from telling us e were stupid and asking how we would afford it... (we both work full time) but then banned me from the house and i became.... "THAT GIRL" when she spoke about me... he moved in with me which made it wors... then she said something to him. he decided bump wasnt his and moved back out and is now living back with her and hasnt spoken to me since... we have been friends for 15 years so it is a horrible feeling. and im afraid i do blame her..

your other half is prob feeling horrible about the reacotiuon as its his mum and its hard for lads to separate themselves somtimes... you two will be fine though and im sure shell get over it in the end... shes just being jealous about what you two have got...

hugz
cxxx
grumpybumpy
Reply grumpybumpy 4 months ago
mine was the same with number 4, she didn't mention a word about it for ages. The first time i was alone with her she just said, oh you'll probably get really big and that's a problem! For the record i am size 10 so hardly obese! She didn't congratulate me at all. The next time i saw her i challenged her and she completely backed down and made excuses for her bad behaviour. Since then she has been supernan and can't do enough for us - which isn't like her!

I have come to the conclusion that some mums are jealous of their son's partners and i know my MIL likes to be centre of attention and she can't be when i'm pregnant!

I quite enjoy challenging her, we have lots of run ins! She's a bitter old woman who drives me nuts!!! It's a shame as i've never met such a weird person, unfortunately you can't choose your family!!
harley16
Reply harley16 4 months ago
That did cross my mind actually, that this is another person to take more of her son away from her! I wasn't there hunni or i probably would have politely pulled her on it. OH wanted to tell her himself for this reason. We will keep talking hun, we always do, OH is my best friend. Cheesy i know but true! At first i thought he was trying to protect me cos she had said something nasty, but he assures me not. I think her lack of reaction is far worse. I know she'll be ok in the end especially if she gets the grandson she's been so desperate for since i was pregnant with my youngest. I just wish she didn't have to make life so difficult. Thanks hunni, Im happy too!!! xx
i really duno y mil's ave 2 b soooo difficult! its ridiculas!! i know they say oh mums n there sons but i'll neva b like tht wiv my son! i wldnt wana come across as interferin! id wana b there 4 him n support him in everything! jus like i'll do the same 4 my girls! i own mother is a pain in the bum! lol! thats wot makes me wana make sure i dont behave like her! haha! she must b jealous! mayb its a midlife crissis!! lol! its gud ur fella n u r so close! hes prob very upset wiv his mothers behaviour! xxxxx
harley16
Reply harley16 4 months ago
That did cross my mind actually, that this is another person to take more of her son away from her! I wasn't there hunni or i probably would have politely pulled her on it. OH wanted to tell her himself for this reason. We will keep talking hun, we always do, OH is my best friend. Cheesy i know but true! At first i thought he was trying to protect me cos she had said something nasty, but he assures me not. I think her lack of reaction is far worse. I know she'll be ok in the end especially if she gets the grandson she's been so desperate for since i was pregnant with my youngest. I just wish she didn't have to make life so difficult. Thanks hunni, Im happy too!!! xx
i really duno y mil's ave 2 b soooo difficult! its ridiculas!! i know they say oh mums n there sons but i'll neva b like tht wiv my son! i wldnt wana come across as interferin! id wana b there 4 him n support him in everything! jus like i'll do the same 4 my girls! i own mother is a pain in the bum! lol! thats wot makes me wana make sure i dont behave like her! haha! she must b jealous! mayb its a midlife crissis!! lol! its gud ur fella n u r so close! hes prob very upset wiv his mothers behaviour! xxxxx
Anonymous
Reply Anonymous 4 months ago
oh jus shrug it off n put it down 2 her bein jealous!! theres other reason y she cant b happy! like u say she loves ur girls! so i cant c y she wld ave a problem! u shldv sed 2 her arent u happy for us?? put her on the spot! im sure she'll wana cuddle baby wen baby is born then it will b a diff story! id jus avoid her 4 awhile! let her come 2 u! u enjoy it! avein a baby is a wondeful thing as u already know! ur partner is prob abit miffed wiv his mum! but aslong as u both keep talkin it will all b ok! big hugs n congrats hun! im happy 4 u guys! xxxx
That did cross my mind actually, that this is another person to take more of her son away from her! I wasn't there hunni or i probably would have politely pulled her on it. OH wanted to tell her himself for this reason. We will keep talking hun, we always do, OH is my best friend. Cheesy i know but true! At first i thought he was trying to protect me cos she had said something nasty, but he assures me not. I think her lack of reaction is far worse. I know she'll be ok in the end especially if she gets the grandson she's been so desperate for since i was pregnant with my youngest. I just wish she didn't have to make life so difficult. Thanks hunni, Im happy too!!! xx
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