Hi,i really can understand what your going through. Well its been about a week since i took the dummy away and yes the first few days were a nightmare,came very close to giving in but im glad i didnt. He is sleeping alot better now, no more being woken in the night (touch wood).They just need to learn how to settle themselves without it.I do feel sorry for him sometimes,but i know that ive done the right thing for him.Its harder when they are older, and they can make alot more noise too.Try and give your daughter something else eg.teddy/blanket. i gave Josh a little rabbit with a blankie attached to it, and he gives that a restle before he goes to sleep. Not sure if he really needs it, but it makes me feel a bit less guilty.There is no other way but to go cold turkey,the worst of it only lasts a few days.Good luck and let me know how you get on.
Nicky x

Hi I know exactly what you are going through my daughter is 6 mths and has just started to cry when her dummy falls out this happens to be every hous through the night arghhh I am exhausted. I want to do the let her cry but I am on my own at the moment and feel a bit weak hehe. I am at wits ends so I guess I have to bite the bullet and do it. Let me know if it has been a success for you. Good Luck Fingers Crossed.
Sharon

Hi I know exactly what you are going through my daughter is 6 mths and has just started to cry when her dummy falls out this happens to be every hous through the night arghhh I am exhausted. I want to do the let her cry but I am on my own at the moment and feel a bit weak hehe. I am at wits ends so I guess I have to bite the bullet and do it. Let me know if it has been a success for you. Good Luck Fingers Crossed.
Sharon

Hi to all that replied to my question. Well Day 1 was very hard during the day, he has never cried so much, but in the night he was brill. Slept from 1030pm to 530am, settled himself back to sleep till 630am.Day 2 was a good boy in the morning but really freaked out in the afternoon/evening.He went to bed again at 1030pm, but woke up at about 330am and he cried until about 445am.He then woke up again at 630am.So far this morning he has been ok,but wont hold my breath. Poor little thing has got a bit of an upset tummy and nappy rash,so i feel even worse now by not letting him have his dummy, but we are on day 3 now and i feel that i give it back to him then i have put us all through the tears and heartache for nothing. I just really hope that he can find another way of settling himself, i have tried blankies,muslin cloths and teddys, but hes not interested. He is just a suckky baby, he trys sucking his fingers but accidently pulls his hand out with the other one. God i hope im doing the right thing for him.

I'm against seeing older children with dummies in their mouths but...my daughter is nearly two & we went through the stage of having to get up when she lost it at night - it will pass, although it can be tiring, as she got older my dd found it herself & puts it back in. I've also found that it's a great help when she's teething which she is at the moment & she has it quite alot to help with the pain - it's something to chew on. When she's not teething she only has her dummy at nap & bed time. If she tries to talk with it in her mouth we ask her to take it out as we 'can't understand' what's shes saying. Believe me though the dummy will be going before christmas - maybe santa will take it away if we have real problems...it maybe a bit difficult as her younger brother has one, although he sleeps without it at night!

hi! i have a daughter of 4 months who also has a dummy. my elder daughter never needed one and we agonised for ages whether to give our youngest one, but it was eventually a welcome relief from crying! night times were a problem at first, but we decided to stop giving it to her to go to sleep. i felt awful too when she cried and felt that i had created this problem for her. on speaking to friends there really seems no other way but to go cold turkey, however hard it is. most friends say it was a maximum of three days and nights of hell, but eventually baby will learn to settle themselves or find their thumb to suck. my daughter didn't get too distressed when we took it off her, so i really sympathise, and she really only uses sometimes during the day if she gets cranky or if she wakes around 5 or 6 in the morning to settle her back to sleep. we found a muslim cloth really useful as a comforter, so thats maybe worth a try! sorry there's no miracle cure, i think you just have to grit your teeth and bear the crying for a while! good luck, let me know how you get on as i'll probably try and get rid of it soon myself! fiona c xxx

Hi Nicky
I know my daughter was quite a bit older when we got rid of her dummy (12 months) but she still protested about it! Thankfully not for long, only 3 or 4 days. Just remember that you are helping your son by teaching him how to sleep without the dummy and he is only upset because he doesn't yet know how to do this and it's all a bit new and strange for him. I'm sure it will get better. Try not to give in and give it back to him as this will only confuse matters for him. Good luck, I hope he's not too upset.
Lucy xx

Hi my son is 4 months and he has a dummy.To be honest it was probably the worst thing i did. It has got to the point now where if he loses his dummy when hes asleep, he will cry for it.Lately it has been all through the night and i have reached a point where i have had enough.I have decided to take it away now, but he will work himself up into such a state it has me in tears too. I have given him one of his teddys in the hope that he will use that as a comforter instead. Just wanted to see advice and reassurance really that things will get easier with the crying. I feel so bad taking it away, but im at my wits end now. Nickyx