another baby...advice please

I am in a similar position, my LO is nearly 6 months though, I think having them close together will be good as they can entertain each other?? Midwife said to me not to be back in Labour & delivery suite for 12 months but that was the only stipulation, so as My LO is already 6 months I am well clear of that! They say 9 months to make a baby & 9 months to recover, but if you feel ready you are the only one who knows your body and how you feel then I would say go for it, I'm going too

hi first of all your not stupid, i had my first child in 2008 a boy who is now 2yrs old,my daughter was born in 2010 and is now 5 months old and am currently expecting baby nr 3 who will be due in march 2011, as it took me 3 yrs to conceive my son i wasent expecting it to happen again so quick so my daughter wasent planned but was really happy when i found out i was pregnant again,and the same with this pregnancy it wasent planned but as im not getting any younger am very happy about it, ive always wanted 4 children so still another one to go lol, ithink if your both ready to try for another one then go a head good luck

An easy pregnancy can be followed by a difficult one- an easy baby by an unhappy demanding one or one who cries every evening with colic. You just do not know what it will be like next time. Coping with a demanding toddler and a difficult pregnancy is not easy nor is having to lift and carry a late walker while 8 months pregnant- and this could be the reality: think through the worst case scenario before you decide.

Children who are close together in age are not necessarily close- anymore than those with a 2-3 year gap (and more) fail to be close. Jealousy can marr close age relationships especially if children feel they do not get enough unique time. If you are sure you have the energy to give to two then go for it: if you are uncertain wait a little. Remember too that two demanding babies can put rather strain on a relationsghip.

Ask yourself do I have enough time and energy left over at the momment to cope with a LO like Grace AND a demanding toddler who has tantrums at the drop of a hat- because thats the reality next time around! And don't forget to ask yourself if you will I still have time for your OH- because it is this is the relationship that is most likely to suffer if the two babies prove too much.


Dorothy Einon

An easy pregnancy can be followed by a difficult one- an easy baby by an unhappy demanding one or one who cries every evening with colic. You just do not know what it will be like next time. Coping with a demanding toddler and a difficult pregnancy is not easy nor is having to lift and carry a late walker while 8 months pregnant- and this could be the reality: think through the worst case scenario before you decide.

Children who are close together in age are not necessarily close- anymore than those with a 2-3 year gap (and more) fail to be close. Jealousy can marr close age relationships especially if children feel they do not get enough unique time. If you are sure you have the energy to give to two then go for it: if you are uncertain wait a little. Remember too that two demanding babies can put rather strain on a relationsghip.

Ask yourself do I have enough time and energy left over at the momment to cope with a LO like Grace AND a demanding toddler who has tantrums at the drop of a hat- because thats the reality next time around! And don't forget to ask yourself if you will I still have time for your OH- because it is this is the relationship that is most likely to suffer if the two babies prove too much.


Dorothy Einon

We always wanted ours close together and as it took us 9 months the 1st time, we thought we would just not use protection and hope it happened sooner. Well it happened 1st time and my son was 8 weeks old when I got pregnant again. You have to consider if you had a terrible pregnancy, would there be people who would support you and help out with your l/o??? Also, think about how hard some simple tasks become when your ready to pop, picking l/o up, giving them a bath etc. I really didnt think about all of these things and some were difficult. I have to say though we almost started trying for a 3rd when 2nd was 3 months old so none of that stuff was enough to put me off lol. I have loved having 2 close together and wouldnt change it for the world. I feel like I have given them a friend for life everytime I watch them play together (well that is until he thinks girls are not cool lol). If its what you both want then go for it. It has its difficult moments but it is ever so rewarding. Good luck in your decision xxxxx

I wanted mine close and wanted to start trying again when Elanor was 6 months. Unfortunately I have been unwell with all different things since having her in Nov 2008, so didn't start trying until she was nearly a year old. I fell pregnant the first month but lost the baby at 13 weeks. There would have been 22 months between them and I was looking forward to it. I'm pregnant again and Elanor will be 2 years and 2 months. When I first lost the baby I was upset that even if I fell pregnant straight away that Elanor was going to already be 2. But the more I thought about it the more it made sense. Elanor can start pre school at 2, which will mean that I wil get time on my own to spend with the new baby. Elanor is potty training now, so hopefully she'll be out of nappies when this one is born. Also she's not using bottles and will be in a bed by then. So things will have moved on and not be so difficult!!!

Hi, it's your choice, if you are ready then go for it. I have read that it's better for your health to wait at least 2 years between kids as thats how long it takes your body to recover from the first one and replace all the nutrients that LO took from you!

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